NLP創始人Richard Bandler經典語錄,值得各位NLPer參考!
NLP創始人Richard Bandler經典語錄
1.NLP是95%的資訊收集和5%的介入。 NLP非常強調感官敏銳度。“要花時間和精力訓練自己,在內在真實與外在真實之間,分辨得更加精
密。”
2."NLP is an attitude and a methodology, not the trail of techniques it leaves behind"
(NLP是一種態度和方法學,而不是它所衍生出來的技巧。)
NLP中有許多效果宏大的技巧,但NLP並不是技巧的綜合,更多的是一種態度,所以,只要掌握了NLP
的假設前提,是可以創造出很多技巧出來的。
“對我來說,最大的樂趣是,有人能在學會我所教導的特殊技巧之外,還學到觀念、態度和創造技
巧的思考過程。”
3.We take the very best of what people do, synthesise it down, make it learnable and
share it with each other - and that is what the real future of what NLP will be and its
gonna stay that way!”
(我們研究那些卓越者的做法,再把它們綜合起來,使它們可以被學會,然後教給別人---而這就是
NLP真正的未來而且它會一直是這樣。)
4."In High School I flunked psychology and Public Speaking. NLP was my revenge!(在大學
裏我的心理學和公開演講課都不及格。而NLP是我的報復!)
NLP創始人經常說,在大學裏他學得最不好的課程就是心理學和公開演講課。而他最後竟以“對著一
群心理醫生演講”為業!
5.The reason people have problems is that they have too much time to think."
(人們之所以有各種各樣的問題,是因為他們有太多時間思考。)
People change in spite of therapy.(人們即使不接受治療,也會改變。)
If someone will spend $75 to see a psychiatrist, instead of spending it on a party,
that's not mental illness, that's stupidity! If you don't do anything, then of course
you're going to be bored and depressed.(如果有人花75塊去看心理醫生,而不是把這錢用來參加一
個聚會,這不叫心理疾病,這叫愚蠢!如果你什麼事也不做,那你當然會感到無聊和沮喪。)
6.The best thing about the past is that it's over. The best thing about the future is
that it's yet to come. The best thing about the present is that it's here now.
(關於過去最好的是它已經結束了,關於未來最好的是它即將到來,關於現在最好的是它此刻就在這
裏。)
NLP創始人主張立足當下,並把焦點放在未來,放在解決方案上。反對精神分析過多的探討一個人的
過去,探討童年經歷,探討不愉快的經歷。他說:“你們想知道人為什麼會有問題嗎?有兩個原因,一
是你出生了,二是你還活著。所以,現在你知道問題的原因了,就不要再想它了,接著就是想怎麼做才
能活得更好了。”
7.The greatest personal limitation is to be found not in the things you want to do and
can't, but in the things you've never considered doing.
(你最大的限制不是在你想做而做不到的事情中,而是在你從未想過去做的事情中。)
8.How much pleasure and success can you stand?
(你可以承受得了多大的歡樂與成功?)
9.If it’s worth feeling bad about, it’s worthy of amnesia.
(如果一件事情值得讓你難過的,那麼它就值得被你忘記。)
10.If you say to yourself "It's difficult to get up in the morning", "It's hard to
cease smoking", then you are already using hypnotic suggestions on yourself...
(如果你跟自己說“早上起床很難”“戒煙很難”,那麼你已經在對自己使用催眠指令了。)
11.You know what ? Certain people think they will fell good if certain things happen...
The trick is : you have to feel good for no reason...
(你知道嗎?有些人認為,如果發生了某些事情,他們就感到快樂。而竅門是:你必須無緣無故地感
到快樂!)有一件事是肯定的,如果你感覺不好,你做出不好的決定;當你感覺好的時候,你做出好的決
定。
12.Remember, it's your own body, your own brain. You're not a victim of the universe
, you are the universe.
(記住,這是你自己的身體,自己的大腦。你不是這個宇宙的犧牲品,你就是這個宇宙。)你自己的
身體和大腦由你自己控制,沒有人可以激怒你,只有你自己可以激怒你自己。
13.If you can't enjoy what you have, you can't enjoy more of it.
(如果你不能享受你現在擁有的,那即使給你再多,你也不會感到快樂。)如果你不能對著10塊錢開
心,那即使你有1萬塊,你還是開心不起來。
14.Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
15.Peoples tell me with absolute certainty they don't trust themselves. Or they tell me
that they decided absolutely that they can't make good decision.
(人們總是非常堅定地告訴我他們不信任自己。或者他們告訴我他們堅定地決定他們無法做出好的決
定。)大多數來訪者的問題中包含了解決方法。
有一個來訪者對Richard說:“我沒有辦法對別人說‘不’。”
Richard說:“真的?那好,我的秘書在那裏,你走過去,跟她說‘不’。”
“哦,不,我做不到。”
“看,你剛才說了‘不’,還說了兩次。”
You know what, it's impossible for anyone to tell you anything that's a generalisation
about themselves that won't destroy itself including that one... (任何一個概論都會自我毀滅
。)
16.I have news for you, God made me forgive you but I'm not going to. To me I don't
want to be forgiven, I want to do better. See, one people tell me "I'm really sorry". I
go "Fuck you", just do better.
17.I made the door in my house left-handed, because I'm left handed. When people come
in, they push the door the wrong way, and hit themselves on the door. And you know what ?
People keep harder and harder to do it ! When something doesn't work, try the same thing
harder!
(因為我是左利手的,所以我把我家的門做成適合左利手開的。當我的朋友要進來時,他們以錯誤的
方式開門,並且把自己撞在門上。而且你知道嗎?人們越是開不了,越是用力地開!當他們做的事情沒有
效果,他們以同樣的方式更努力的去做)
如果你做的事情沒有效果,那麼你再怎麼堅持,再怎麼用力,都是同樣沒有效果。如果你做的事徒
勞無功,做別的事,做任何別的事!
18.在任何關係中都要做你自己,這樣你才能交到愛真正的你的朋友,戀人。
在任何關係中都要做你自己,不要為了讓別人喜歡上你,就讓自己變成另外一個人。永遠把最真實
的自己呈現出去,如果別人接受你,那很好;如果別人不接受你,你找下一個。這樣你才能交到愛真正
的你,真正愛你的朋友,戀人。
我並不是說,你完全不須改善自己的缺點。而是說,不要為了討得某人的喜歡,而去做一些自己根
本不喜歡的事情。我聽說有一個男孩去追一個女孩,女孩說:“你要我成為你女朋友,可以,不過你必
須去學跳舞和彈琴。”那個男孩根本不喜歡這些,不過為了討得女孩的喜歡,他真的去做了,不但最後
他真的受不了了,於是兩個人就分手了,分手是正常的,不分那才怪呢!
19.You can't change people by removing something. You must create a void and then fill
it...
(僅僅藉由去除某些東西,你無法改變別人。你必須創造一個真空然後再填滿它。)
20.You are born with only two fear : fear of falling and fear of loud noise. All the
rest is learned. And it's a lot of work!
(你與生俱來的恐懼只有兩種:害怕從高處跌落和害怕大聲的噪音。其他的一切恐懼都是後天學來的
,而且花了很多時間和精力!)
恐懼症可以證明我們學習能力很強。你從一次經歷中學會了恐懼,然後以後每次遇到類似的情境,
你都會記得要去恐懼!
21.the best way to break sth is to overdo it.
(停止一個模式最好的方法就是過度地用它)當一個人內部有太多聲音時,讓聲音更多更大。
22.如果你和你配偶吵架,你覺得很生氣的時候,想想失去他/她那才是最痛苦的。
23.Arguing for three weeks without sex,or mailing the letter(你叫你老婆幫你把信件寄出
去,而她沒有做,那你可以選擇自己把信寄出去,也可以選擇和她吵架三個星期,並因此而沒得過性生
活)
24.If you don't feel good when you are learning,what is going to happen is that you
are going to stop learning.
(如果當你在學習的時候你沒有感到很開心,那你將停止學習。)
25.失敗是因為你有時間限制。
就像在比賽中,只是因為有時間限制你才輸了,如果沒有時間限制你可能會勝利。
26.The munite you feel muddle,what if you take a deep breath and close your eyes,
right now,and drop deep into a trance,and say to yourself the :"fuck it,fuck it,it is
not that fucking important",and say to yourself:"when i open my eyes,things are going to
be clear and they are going to last for a long time"
(如果你感到迷迷糊糊,你可以深深吸一口氣並且閉上眼睛,現在,並且進入深深的催眠狀態,然後
對自己說:“操,操,這事沒他媽的那麼重要”,然後說:“當我睜開眼睛時,事情會變得清晰而且將
持續很長一段時間。”)
27.I will take the one,i feel badly for the other people,but i am taking the one,
thank you very much.
(如果醫生說這種病只有1%的人會康復,我會說,好的,我要做康復的那一個,我為其他人感到抱歉
,不過我要做康復的那一個,非常感謝。)如果有一個人會康復,那個人為什麼不可以是我?
28.不要想自己哪里緊張,想自己哪里放鬆然後擴大它。
永遠集中于自己最強的一點上,然後讓它擴散。
29.嘗試所有事情,然後你才知道你真正喜歡做些什麼。
30.He who hesitates waits.If a woman rejects you,then all that means is that you save
a lot of time. If you spend two hours thinking about whether she is going to reject you,
you spend two hours on unpleasant time,if you walk up and she says no,then you have two
hours to go out and look for other women. (猶豫的人總是在等待。如果一個女孩拒絕了你,那只能
說明你節省了許多時間。如果你花兩個小時的時間想著她會不會拒絕你,那你那兩個小時就過得很不開
心;如果你立刻行動而她拒絕了你,那你有兩個小時的時間可以去找另外的女孩。)
31.Shut the fuck up!Fuck!
我發現有兩句咒語非常有效:“Shut the fuck up!”和“Fuck!”。當你要靜坐或者想讓心情平靜
下來時,你可以一次又一次在念“shut the fuck up”直到你大腦一片空白。如果有人對你說“你做不
到的”“這是不可能的”,我要你在大腦裏聽到一個聲音說“Fuck!”
32.Do it and find out!
(去做,然後你就知道結果!)
不要坐在那裏想“他/她會不會拒絕我?”“他/她適不適合我?”“這麼做有沒有效果?”。直接
去做,然後你就會知道結果!
33.我們不看事情出什麼錯,應該修理它,你就是單純地想著有什麼方法可以使生活變得更豐富,這
是可能的事,你問自己:“做些什麼會是有趣的,能怎麼做會變得更有意思?”“我可以為自己發明些
什麼新能力和新可能性?”“我如何真正地把事情做得真正妙絕至極?”
34.If you decide that you want to do something, fine, but getting serious about it
will only blind you and get in your way.
(如果你決定你要做某事,很好,但過於認真只會阻礙你,讓你看不清形勢。)任何時候你發現自己
過於嚴肅,我要你嚴肅地笑起來!
35.When you obsess about things,you dont have choices.One of the finest humans'
emotions i think is when you look at sth and you go:"hur,who cares?i can take it,i can
leave it.it doesnt matter,because it means not no not yes,but no now may be yes later如果
你緊抓著一件東西不放,你便失去了其他選擇。我認為,人類最好的情緒之一是,當你看著一件東西,
然後你說:“哼,誰在乎它?我可以要它,可以不理它。這沒關係,因為這非‘不’亦非‘是’,但是
現在‘不’,或許以後‘是’。”
36.The experiences in your life which have been the most beneficial to you in the long
run, and which provide the basis of your being able to have pleasure, satisfaction,
enjoyment, and happiness, were not necessarily utterly enjoyable at the time they
occurred. Sometimes some of those experiences were as frustrating as they could be.
Sometimes they were confusing. Sometimes they were fun in and of themselves. Those
experiences are not mutually exclusive.
(長久來說對你最有利的,能夠成為你歡愉,滿足,享受和快樂的基礎的人生經歷,當他們發生時,
並不一定是很令人享受的。有時候這些經歷會是非常令人沮喪的。有時候它們是令人迷惑的。有時候它
們是好玩的。這些經驗並非互不相容的。)
37.Wealth is not just money,wealth comes in many forms.It means that every moment you
spend with your family is that much more special.
(財富不僅僅是金錢,財富有許多種形式。也就是說,當你和家人朋友在一起的每個時刻,都是非常
珍貴的!比金錢更珍貴!)
38.The only rule is that you can make new rules!
(惟一的規則就是你可以制定新的規則!)惟一的規則就是沒有規則!
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