【家庭教育的有感而發】
OK...大家應該都常常聽說美國又發生校園槍擊事件，我們這邊電台也特地製作專題節目，教大家如何在日常演習突發狀況，還要社區自己辦活動練習．反對槍枝聲浪也日漸高漲，在這裡我並沒有要討論槍枝（我懂的不多），也沒有要討論美國是不是比較不安全（住得不夠久）．
我要分享的是這位美國佛羅里達州的教師發表了一篇文章引起很多人回應，以下是他幾個重點：
1.國家缺乏精神醫療資源的問題
2.家庭缺乏管教的問題（美國以往崇尚跟孩子做朋友，過分尊重孩子隱私）
3.充滿暴力的電子遊戲讓孩子失去同情心
4.隨然他在充滿槍枝的家庭長大（父親是士兵），但父母都教他尊重生命，有同情心，守規矩正派．
5.家長都覺得自己的小孩都沒有問題，是環境跟其他人有問題，即便是老師反應家長都不相信．
👨👩👧 💌我的想法是：
我不是虎媽，但我的理念是當孩子的媽媽而非朋友，他們有自己的朋友，而我是媽媽．
我會確認每一個小孩看的電視頻道，我不會讓小孩太早接觸有暴力的卡通，即便是好人最終勝利的打打殺殺，我覺得打鬥過程對小孩造成的影響遠大於邪不勝正．（奶酒學校老師曾告訴我，有位小朋友今天情緒很不安定，他說他昨晚看了比較多戰鬥的卡通...）
我不會讓小孩自己開手機跟pad去看節目跟玩遊戲．（至少學齡前）
我確信家庭教育的重要！家庭給孩子的以身作則，警覺危險的直覺，跟為自己負責的態度，對世界的同理心，這樣的觀念跟關心，是孩子成為青少年後父母的身份式微，給他們的一份處事的禮物．
😀👨👩👧 這是我的一點小秘訣：
每天我們花一點時間放下手機（在車上或通勤尤佳），問問孩子：今天開心嗎？然後根據他提到的事情跟提到的人延伸下去（先切忌說教），孩子如果不知道該怎麼說，我們可以先說今天自己的際遇跟想分享好玩的事，孩子會慢慢開始有共鳴～試試！
💌（這時候就是要像是朋友一樣的聊天最好, 又要適時不著痕跡地帶入正確觀念......家長真難當...）
＃教育
＃美國教育
＃親子溝通
Okay, I’ll be the bad guy and say what no one else is brave enough to say, but wants to say. I’ll take all the criticism and attacks from everyone because you know what? I’m a TEACHER. I live this life daily. And I wouldn’t do anything else! But I also know daily I could end up in an active shooter situation.
Until we, as a country, are willing to get serious and talk about mental health issues, lack of available care for the mental health issues, lack of discipline in the home, horrendous lack of parental support when the schools are trying to control horrible behavior at school (oh no! Not MY KID. What did YOU do to cause my kid to react that way?), lack of moral values, and yes, I’ll say it-violent video games that take away all sensitivity to ANY compassion for others’ lives, as well as reality TV that makes it commonplace for people to constantly scream up in each others’ faces and not value any other person but themselves, we will have a gun problem in school. Our kids don’t understand the permanency of death anymore!!!
I grew up with guns. Everyone knows that. But you know what? My parents NEVER supported any bad behavior from me. I was terrified of doing something bad at school, as I would have not had a life until I corrected the problem and straightened my ass out. My parents invaded my life. They knew where I was ALL the time. They made me have a curfew. They made me wake them up when I got home. They made me respect their rules. They had full control of their house, and at any time could and would go through every inch of my bedroom, backpack, pockets, anything! Parents: it’s time to STEP UP! Be the parent that actually gives a crap! Be the annoying mom that pries and knows what your kid is doing. STOP being their friend. They have enough “friends” at school. Be their parent. Being the “cool mom” means not a damn thing when either your kid is dead or your kid kills other people because they were allowed to have their space and privacy in YOUR HOME. I’ll say it again. My home was filled with guns growing up. For God’s sake, my daddy was an 82nd Airborne Ranger who lost half his face serving our country. But you know what? I never dreamed of shooting anyone with his guns. I never dreamed of taking one! I was taught respect for human life, compassion, rules, common decency, and most of all, I was taught that until I moved out, my life and bedroom wasn’t mine...it was theirs. And they were going to know what was happening because they loved me and wanted the best for me.
There. Say that I’m a horrible person. I didn’t bring up gun control, and I will refuse to debate it with anyone. This post wasn’t about gun control. This was me, loving the crap out of people and wanting the best for them. This was about my school babies and knowing that God created each one for greatness, and just wanting them to reach their futures. It’s about 20 years ago this year I started my teaching career. Violence was not this bad 20 years ago. Lack of compassion wasn’t this bad 20 years ago. And God knows 20 years ago that I wasn’t afraid daily to call a parent because I KNEW that 9 out of 10 would cuss me out, tell me to go to Hell, call the news on me, call the school board on me, or post all over FaceBook about me because I called to let them know what their child chose to do at school...because they are a NORMAL kid!!!!!
Those 17 lives mattered. When are we going to take our own responsibility seriously?
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