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【單身萬歲】疫情關係今個新年避過了姨媽姑姐的「關心」

⭐我單身但我很快樂
⭐其實有伴也不保證快樂
#星期一踢走BlueMonday

一個人也很快樂
單身生活四大好處
從前的人如果一直單身，會被視為孤獨精、工作狂甚至性格有問題，但現代人單身可以是一種選擇，與其將就找一個不適合的人在一起，不如瀟灑地過單身生活，細數單身生活好處其實有不少，好好利用單身生活的優勢可以令自己更健康。

1. 時間更充實
與另一半相處的生活少不免有等待的時間，如果對方無時間觀念，浪費的青春就會更多。單身人士則是想做就做，說走就走，去餐廳等位食飯，等一個人位永遠最快甚至不用等。按個人興趣把時間表排到密密麻麻，做運動、看書、購物、入廚、看電影、打機等等，不浪費一分一秒。

2. 經濟自由
有伴侶的生活支出自然會多一點，少不免要送禮物、拍拖消費等等，所以單身人士可以享受經濟自由，自己賺錢自己花，少了情感的依靠，多出的時間正好為自己理財，讓自己財政穩定，追求自己想要的生活模式。

3. 事業向前衝
感情話變就變，只有自己的事業是別人拿不走的，有人熱愛單身生活，是因為他可以全程投入熱愛的工作之中，他從工作中獲得的快感超過一切。而且沒有伴侶或家庭的牽絆，轉工、轉行或者創業等「冒險」行為也比較無後顧之憂。

4. 發掘興趣和潛能
單身不等於寂寞，因為你有更多時間與自己對話，以及發掘自己的興趣和潛能，有伴侶的話很難花費所有放假時間去上課進修，或者全情投入工作以外的興趣，好好發掘生活樂趣是裝備自己的一部份，就算將來單身也好有伴侶也好，學到的也會一生受用。

單身生活要活得精彩，首要把自己照顧好，春天來了要防範濕重問題影響健康，記得每日飲用米水，有助健脾祛濕。

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材料：紅米、薏米、白米
功效：保健強身，有助去水腫、消胃脹、改善面黃，尤其適合脾胃虛弱及痰濕內盛體質人士。
備註：懷孕期間可選擇大肚婆米水

✔️CheckCheckCin 美茶推介：濕重
材料：赤小豆、眉豆、扁豆衣
功效：健脾祛濕，紓緩疲倦、睡了好像還沒睡過、四肢重墜、水腫等症狀。

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Find happiness in solitude
Four advantages of being single

In the past, a person who stayed single was often regarded as someone lonely, a workaholic or even a problematic person, but now, being single can be a choice.
Instead of forcing yourself to live with someone who has a different lifestyle from you, perhaps the better option is to live independently. There are many advantages of living alone, and we can use this opportunity to live a healthier life.

1. We will have more time for ourselves
Living with our significant other also means we have to spend time waiting for them. If they are habitually late, we would waste even more time. As single individuals, we get to do what we want at any time. At restaurants, we can get a seat easily since we are alone. We can arrange our daily schedule according to our wish – be it exercise, read books, go shopping, cook food, watch movies, or play games, and we will not waste a single second.

2. Financial freedom
Having a partner in life also means we would spend more on gifts and other expenses when we are on a date. As single individuals, we can enjoy greater financial flexibility and spend our money the way we see fit. Without emotional commitment, we can plan our finances properly and pursue the lifestyle of our dreams.

3. Become more career-centric
Relationships may not last forever, but no one can snatch our career away. Some people enjoy being single because they choose to pour their heart and soul into their work, and this gives them great satisfaction. Since they do not have spouses or families to worry about, they can change jobs, switch industries, or become an entrepreneur and not worry about the ‘risks’.

4. Explore potentials and hobbies
Being single does not mean we have to be lonely. If you have more time to understand who you are as a person, you will be able to explore your potential and understand what you are interested in. This is difficult to achieve when you have a partner because you will not have the time to attend classes or to improve yourself. Immerse yourself in hobbies other than your job can also help you appreciate life. Whether you will stay single or decide to be in a relationship with someone in the future, you will have, by then, equipped yourself with a lifelong knowledge.

In order to live a fruitful life as a bachelor or bachelorette, we must take good care of ourselves. Now that spring is around the corner, we must protect ourselves from the humid environment, which might cause dampness to our body. Remember to drink rice water everyday, as it can strengthen the spleen and eliminate the dampness from the body.

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［水燈頭］
放水燈頭為中元節普渡前的一項儀式，用來通知水中的孤魂野鬼前來接受普渡的款待，儀式過程因地區不同而有所差異。水燈頭是由紙紮而成的屋子，傳統相信物質經由焚燒可以轉化至另外一個世界，在焚燒水燈頭前要在房屋中心內放入紙錢、蠟燭和經文，焚燒時再放入海洋或河流之中，並在燃燒時漂流至沈沒，藉此贈送給無家可歸的水中孤魂做為歇息，也有幫亡魂照冥路意思。

［Releasing water lanterns ceremony］
Releasing water lanterns ceremony is part of the Chungyuan Pu Tu ceremonies( Hungry Ghost Festival ). It is used to give notice to the straight ghosts and lonely spirits whom wander in the water to come and receive the offerings of the Chungyuan Pu Tu ceremonies. The process of the releasing water lanterns ceremony varies depending on the area. Water lantern is made with paper to resemble a little house. Traditionally believe that materials would be transformed to a different world through burning. Before burning the water lantern, spirit money would be placed inside of the lantern, in the center of the house, along with candles and scriptures. Once the water lantern is lit, it will then being released in the water. It will gradually float down steam or into the ocean while it’s burning, then slowly sank into the water. It signifies the gifting of the houses to those lonely spirits and straight ghosts whom wander in the water to have a place to rest, and also means to shine a light on their way to the underworld.
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Interview with A Founder: Conor McLaughlin (Co-founder of 99.co)

By David Wu (AppWorks Associate)

Conor McLaughlin was previously the Co-founder and CTO of 99.co, the real estate marketplace in Singapore and Indonesia. He spent six and a half years at the startup, whose backers include Sequoia Capital, 500 Startups, and Facebook co-founder Eduardo Saverin, helping to grow it into a $100 million company. As a member of AppWorks Accelerator #21, he is currently working on his next big project, a yet-to-be-named language learning startup.

【What advice do you have for first-time founders?】

First, you need to decide: do I want to run a sprint or a marathon? For a sprint, you may be open to acquisition from the beginning, delay non-startup aspects of your life, give yourself two years where you drop everything to test an idea, choose to raise more money earlier on and thus be more diluted, or do anything else that implies a shorter time horizon. Typically 1-5 years - this can lead to a major boon in a short period of time if executed well. If you decide you are in the sprinting business, you will most likely be pushed toward binary outcomes because of how many investors and employees you have on your cap table. As a first-time founder, you need to be clear with yourself on what you are willing to put on the line. As Reid Hoffman says, it’s like jumping off a cliff and building a plane on the way down… hopefully you build a plane in time.

If you are running a marathon, you are deciding that your competitive advantage is consistency over intensity. You are in this for 10, 15 years. With this time horizon, you will realize you need ways to metabolize stress and maintain emotional, spiritual, and mental health. You need to maintain relationships with friends, family, and romantic partners. When you are looking at this 10 year period, you realize the people around you can only put up with so much. Unfortunately, while work is something people can generally bounce back from, there are many things in life where you cannot - an example is your relationship with your partner. If you’re going to run a marathon, you need to be clear with yourself about what time you have for other aspects of your life and what time you have for your company. Eventually you need to learn what the right speed is where you can run as long as possible. It’s amazing how often it is that those people that keep going, assuming you have chosen the right problem to solve, eventually find daylight. Part of that is just lasting long enough.

Second, you need to revisit and continually ask yourself: should I still be running a sprint or a marathon? Circumstances change. Maybe you sprinted for the first two years to secure interesting results and funding; now it's time to transition to a marathon and clean up the life debt a bit. Or inversely, maybe you're finally leaving the trough of sorrow and it's time to sprint for a bit. Most founders will be in a long distance race with periodic sprinting. From my observation, founders most often stop because of two reasons: They either A) run out of money or B) run out of energy. There’s plenty of advice out there for scenario A (hint: don’t). But in my experience, scenario B is far more pernicious and dangerous to would-be successful founders. If you are in a marathon but fail to pace yourself and run it like one long sprint, you are unlikely to make it to the end.

Much founder advice speaks to this: Don’t let your startup make you fat. Exercise 5-10% of the time. Pick up a hobby outside of your startup. Go home for holidays. All of it leads back to one thing: You need to take care of yourself. Because injury will be far worse for your progress than being a little slower. “Slow is smooth, smooth is fast”, as the US Navy Seals say. This is surprisingly difficult advice for intrinsically motivated founders to follow, because in the event of failure, it makes them vulnerable to the thought, “Well, you didn’t work hard enough.” But for those that already have the hustle, your job is to avoid the moment of epiphany where you look in the mirror and think, “This isn’t worth it.”

All founders will have to sacrifice some things. The point is to not sacrifice everything. It will make you more resilient. Not less. It will give you the space to see situations more objectively and make better decisions. And most importantly, it will let you love what you do because it will remind you that the work isn’t just in service of yourself, it’s in the service of others. I do not think you can judge hard work over a day, or even a year, but I do think you can judge hard work over 5-10 years. Hard work is not just about the next 1-2 months. There will be times when you need to run as fast as possible, but if that is happening all the time you are probably not being smart about the situation. So don’t hurt yourself, be consistent, keep disciplined, and keep going.

Lastly, focus on your metaskills. Public speaking, reading, writing - skills applied in every aspect of your life. Generally what they reflect is learning how to think better. As a founder you need to think about - how can I think more clearly, be more creative, rigorous, analytical? As Warren Buffett and others have said: I have never seen a successful person that did not read as often as they could. Actual books and long form scare a lot of people. That’s your competitive advantage. Read blog posts from smart people, follow smart people on Twitter, listen to podcasts. Always be focused on how you can develop yourself to think better. Fostering the habit of improving your thinking will foster discipline in yourself. And discipline will let you turn that rigorous thinking into action.

【I imagine running the “race” has been especially tough this year. How have you gotten through 2020?】

I have leaned on routine and community. I’ve spent a lot of time trying to foster discipline in myself. I make my bed every morning, meditate every morning, make sure that I go to the gym 3-4 times a week. There’s so much uncertainty in both the world and the entrepreneurial space. Keeping certain things consistent gives me a spine to my life that I can fall back on. If I’m not feeling well, my discipline takes over and I’ll go to the gym. That helps me relieve stress - falling back to routine and having some mainstays of consistency and structure.

And community - it’s been the big mental health zeitgeist of this year. Everyone is recognizing that without the people around us, our mental health diminishes. Joining AppWorks was very intentional so I could surround myself with like-minded people who could question me, hold me accountable, and inspire me. And also just forming personal connections where I felt that I was still taking care of my mental health by connecting with others. Being a founder is an incredibly lonely journey. In the early days, there’s not a lot of people around. Later, when you do hire lots of people, you need to be the boss, the leader - for certain things, you can’t tell the employees everything, and even if you do, there will always be a bit of distance. You need people to relate to - people want to be seen for who they are, and appreciated for what they give. When you are a founder, sometimes it’s hard to feel that you are seen. So I intentionally put myself in situations where I can be inspired, be held accountable, and more importantly connect with others, and feel that I’m not alone. And that me and my co-founders are part of a communal journey with those around us.

【When you talk about how to run the race, I get the sense that you’re drawing from previous experiences and, perhaps, mistakes. What are the mistakes you’ve made in your founder journey and the takeaways?】

I think you could take a calendar, point to a random week, and we could list out all the mistakes from that week (laughs). I do subscribe to Steve Jobs’ philosophy: mistakes will happen, but mistakes happening means we are making decisions. Not making decisions is perhaps the biggest mistake. It’s often the reason for frustration, loss of speed, loss of momentum - so many of the issues you encounter in startups. Not making enough mistakes is probably the #1 mistake that I’ve made.

Second, going back to my advice to first-time founders, is not understanding what game I’m playing. Not understanding that all the money in the world is not going to be worth it if your spouse or partner decides to leave you because you have relegated them to a second-class citizen in your life. I think I forgot that at points. There is more to life than just the company.

Third, be careful about who you choose to work with. At minimum, if you’re doing a standard 8-9 hours at the office five times a week, that’s a lot of time with those people. You want to like the people that you work with - you want to know they’re high integrity, you want to respect their values, and you want to have common values. Choosing the right people that give you energy rather than take it away just makes running the marathon so much easier.

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Today’s Vlog:
Making Korean Pancake,
In Reality, I’m a…
Feeling Lonely,
My Dog Is Broke

Can't believe Tim has already been away for 11 days now. Not long till I get my hubby back =D 3 more days to go!!! In the midst of being so occupied, I never really thought I would have time to even feel lonely. Makes me realise how much I miss Tim's silly distractions during the day. Sometimes I wonder what it's like to leave the house for work to see colleagues on a frequent basis. I've been a bit anaemic lately which is probably why I'm feeling more low. Since I felt a bit blue today, I went online and bought a bunch of baking equipment. I think I'm going to take up baking this year =D

Big thank you to family and friends for coming to keep me company and helping out. It means so much more than you know. Isaac and I feel very loved.


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