Tag yr significant other ❤️ 7 Secrets Of Highly Successful Couples We All Envy
1. Successful couples fight skilfully.
Successful couples fight but do it skilfully; in a way that leaves the relationship stronger, not weaker. One technique is their choice of words. Eg, use plural pronouns ("we", "us" & "ours") rather than singular pronouns ("I", "me" and "mine"). Using 'we language' during a fight helps couples align themselves on the same #team, as opposed to being adversaries.
2. Successful couples seek & offer forgiveness.
4 stages for arrival at complete #forgiveness:
-Forgo: Take a break from thinking about the person or event for a while.
-Forebear: Abstain from punishing, neither thinking about it nor acting on (the offence) in small or large ways.
-Forget: Refuse to dwell; let go and loosen one's hold, particularly on #memory. To forget is an active (not passive) endeavor.
-Forgive: Make a conscious decision to cease to harbor resentment, which includes forgiving a debt & giving up one's resolve to retaliate.
3. Successful couples are positive about each other.
Research showed that happy & stable couples made 5 #positive remarks for every 1 negative remark when they were discussing conflict.
4. Successful couples #learn & grow together.
Eg, if one partner becomes more health conscious, the other joins. If one partner takes up a new activity, the other partner becomes supportive & involved. The end result is a stronger emotional bond & a deeper #love.
5. Successful couples never stop #dating.
Keep the #romance going. Set aside one evening a week for a date or plan #romantic getaways periodically.
6. Successful couples adhere to the 60/40 rule.
Successful couples have a high level of selflessness. Most people think a #successful #relationship is 50/50. It's not. It's 60/40. You give 60. You take 40. And that goes for both of you.
7. Successful #couples have shared values.
It's important to have the same basic values. Eg, if you're a free spender, #marry someone who understands that since #money is one of the stumbling blocks in #marriage. This shared #value applies to every other aspect of your lives as a #couple.
-From yourtango.com #teamwork #Tuesday
