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愛情36「題」❤️

讓陌生人迅速相愛的36個問題

Time to fall in love?

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《紐約時報》報導:

曼迪·萊恩·卡特隆(Mandy Len Catron)為「現代愛情」專欄寫了一篇文章《如何快速與陌生人相愛》，她在文中提到心理學家阿瑟·亞倫(Arthur Aron)等人的研究成果：兩個陌生人之間的親密關係或許可以通過彼此詢問一些特別的個人化問題而快速升溫。這36個問題分為三組，一組比一組來得尋根究底。

這個理論的核心是，共同的脆弱能促進親近感。這項研究的作者們稱：「同伴之間發展親密關係的關鍵模式在於持續、逐步升級、相互且個人化的袒露自我。」允許自己和另一個人共享脆弱可能非常困難，下面這個練習能迫使你做到這一點。

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Set I 第一組 ❤️

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

如果可以在世界上所有人中任意選擇，你想邀請誰共進晚餐？

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

你想成名嗎？想以什麼方式成名？

3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

打電話之前你會先排練一下要說什麼嗎，為什麼？

4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

對你來說，「完美」的一天是什麼樣的？

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

你上次自己唱起歌來是在什麼時候，給別人唱呢？

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

如果你能活到90歲，同時可以一直保持30歲時的心智或身體，你會選擇保持哪一種呢，心智還是身體？

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

你是否曾經秘密地預感到自己會以怎樣的方式死去？

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

說出三件你和你的伴侶看上去相同的特徵。

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

人生中的什麼東西最令你感激？

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

如果你能改變被撫養成人過程中的一件事，會是哪一件。

11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

花四分鐘時間，儘可能詳細告訴伴侶你的人生經歷。

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

如果你明天一覺醒來就能擁有某種才能或能力，你希望那會是什麼能力呢？

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Set II 第二組 ❤️❤️

13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

如果有一個水晶球可以告訴你關於自己、人生，未來乃至任何事情的真相，你會想知道嗎？

14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

有沒有什麼事是你一直夢想去做而沒有去做的，為什麼沒有做？

15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

你人生中最大的成就是什麼？

16. What do you value most in a friendship?

在一段友誼之中你最珍視的是什麼？

17. What is your most treasured memory?

你最寶貴的記憶是什麼？

18. What is your most terrible memory?

你最糟糕的記憶是什麼？

19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

假如你知道自己在一年內就會突然死去，你會改變現在的生活方式嗎？為什麼？

20. What does friendship mean to you?

友誼對於你來說意味着什麼？

21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

愛與情感在你生活中扮演着什麼樣的角色？

22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

和你的伴侶輪流說出心目中對方的一個好品質，每人說五條。

23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

你的家人之間關係是否親密而溫暖，你覺得自己的童年比其他人更快樂嗎？

24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

你和母親之間的關係是怎樣的？

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Set III 第三組 ❤️❤️❤️

25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling ... “

每人用「我們」造三個句子，並含有實際情況，比如「我們倆在屋子裡，感覺……」

26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ... “

補完這個句子：「我希望和某人在一起，分享……」

27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

如果你想和對方成為親近的朋友，請告訴對方有什麼重要的事情是他或她需要知道的。

28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

告訴對方你喜歡他或她身上的什麼東西，要非常誠實，說些你不會對萍水之交說的東西。

29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

和對方分享生命中那些尷尬的時刻。

30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

你上次在別人面前哭是什麼時候？自己哭呢？

31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

告訴對方，你已經喜歡上了他或她身上的什麼品質。

32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

你覺得什麼東西是嚴肅到不能開玩笑的，假如有的話。

33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

如果你今晚就將死去，而且沒有機會同任何人聯絡，你會因為之前沒有對別人說什麼話而感到遺憾，你為什麼到現在都沒有對他們說這些話呢？

34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

假設你擁有的全部東西都在你的房子里，現在房子着了火，救出家人和寵物之後，你還有機會安全地衝進去最後一次，取出最後一件東西，你會拿什麼，為什麼？

35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

你的家人中，誰去世了會令你最難過，為什麼？

36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

說出一件你的個人問題，問對方如果遇到此事要如何解決。另外，也要讓對方如實告訴你，在他或她眼中，你對於這個問題的感受是怎樣的。

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Love is essential in any relationship, but respect is more important. Sure, it serves as the core building block of your bond, but it doesn’t necessarily have to be the only key element in making the relationship work. Respect is important in any relationship; family, friends, co-worker and well, your partner.

But why respect? Here are several reasons to ponder on:

🔹Respect sees through the good and learns to accept the bad.
🔹Respect teaches you the value of patience, especially towards your partner.
🔹 Respect allows more tolerance, even when both of you have already grown apart.
🔹 When you have respect, you won’t be tempted to do things that may damage your relationship.
🔹 Respect nurtures trust.
🔹 Respect breeds true love.

The beauty of relationships is that you are not doing them alone, so don’t be afraid to rely on each other to help the love move forward. And, if you need help laying the ground work of respect, don’t be afraid to reach out and get it.

Remember, you both are in a relationship because you genuinely care about the other person, honoring your love for each other is your first step in creating the respectful relationship of your dreams.

Do you agree with this?

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The world really has evolved several stages since 2020, and also since the beginning of my career- and that’s the beauty of it all. Nothings permanent, everything changes and newer, more exciting things keep coming into the mix.

Tomorrow my baby will turn 6 months. What a massive milestone, for her and for myself. As I am learning everyday to be a better mother, I am also learning to become a stronger me. I have been wanting to update fans and friends on how I am doing - and yet every time I try, I just feel like “oh gosh. Where do I even start?” And before that thought process is over, I would be busy either feeding my baby, changing a diaper, soothing her, or putting her to sleep.

The first few months of my baby’s life felt like it flew by so quickly yet at the same time pre-baby feels like a lifetime ago - everything in my world has shifted. My whole focus was her - I was breastfeeding, (which, by the way, is HEAPS harder than giving birth), making sure she’s eating well, sleeping well, and pooping well. And, understandably, paranoid about any kind of germs in the house. There was no difference between day and night, it’s just wake time and sleep time. It made no difference for me what day of the week it was, what weather it was, what’s happening with my industry, or with the world other than the daily Covid news, because I just needed to stay home make sure that my little newborn is far far far away from covid. I barely saw friends, and hadn’t eaten in a restaurant for north of half a year. As I took care of her, I barely had time to wash my own face, go to the bathroom, or sleep for a long stretch of time. I also didn’t have enough breastmilk, so I would sit there and try to pump the life out of me, just so I could provide half of a meal for my baby. I tried everything - but I do know that low supply isn’t uncommon. So- as glamorous as mom life can appear to be on social media, don’t be fooled. It’s humbling, but it’s also life-altering and the most rewarding thing I’ve ever done.

Emotionally, I’ve been so over the moon and happy. I enjoy spending time with my newborn baby, she makes me giggle and smile - even though I wish my mother was here to share old baby stories of me, and experience all of this together. But having a daughter really makes you feel more connected to your mother on a completely different level - I just know she’s happy and proud of me from up above. I’ve taught her how to semi-feed herself, how to fall asleep by herself, teaching her still how to roll, sit, and semi-stand (crazy!!), and I’ve played her tunes on my guitar like she’s the only fan in my fan club.

I also consider myself blessed that I never had issues with postpartum depression, despite suffering from mommy’s wrist. I had an amazing relationship with my 陪月/月嫂 who helped me immensely more than words can say. I have not been able to see my side of the family for over a year, but I’m blessed to have amazing in-laws and fellow mommy friends to share experiences with.

Nothing has been easy, but I am the most grateful for my husband - he was always by my side when I needed him. We change diapers together, we bathe our daughter, we sing to her together, and read bedtime stories to her together. I can safely say, that I’m MUCH happier than when I was towards the end of my music label contract. There have been some dark years there.

Hitting 6 months is a big deal for me. I can safely pat myself on my back and reminisce on THE single most biggest achievement of my life, my daughter. Obviously, 6 months is not long in the grand scheme of things, ie. her entire life ahead, but it is a big milestone for me mentally, and finally I feel it’s time to really focus on my own personally healing. I completely lost myself in taking care of her, and yet I felt the most alive and the most needed - and I found a new me in the process. It’s a beautiful kind of chaos and I embraced all of it. But yes, now it’s time for me again. finally.

Hitting this 6 month mark, I have decided to now wean from breastfeeding, take care of my body better, drink some wine, and write more songs for real. (If my daughter allows, lol). I am choosing to give myself some more me-time, read a book, get my nails done, and eventually get a haircut too. And.. start to think about dieting and training. Moms don’t get enough credit for deciding consciously to not slim down yet because they gotta breastfeed. But- with that said, all moms have their own struggles that no one knows of, so never judge!

A part of the stress that comes with social media sometimes, is actually comments on moms’ sizes, even praises of “wow you slimmed down fast!” As though that’s the most important thing of all. The toxic culture pains me and I just know it’s not the point. For me, it really was a conscious decision, just to be a mother first, above all else, at least for these first six months of her little life. And looking at her, strong, happy and healthy, I am truly so so proud of her for her growth and development.

And finally.. I’m finally ready to think about myself again as a musician. I know I’m lucky to be able to have a choice of being with her for 6 months; I count my blessings everyday. But as songwriting wheels become rustier, and as the industry evolves, I’m quite frankly not sure yet what a singer-songwriter mom looks like. I struggle to name artists in the Chinese speaking world that I could reference from - but I promise I’ll continue to bring music to those ears that still choose to listen.

I still hope that one day - little Naomi can see mama on stage. Looking down at her as she sleeps, I always imagine what she would be like as she grows up - and I hope that one day she will be able to pursue what she loves to do and focus on the truly meaningful things in life.

Thank you for reading through this thinking-out-loud random catch-up session blog thing. I’m just so glad I survived 6 months of motherhood. This stuff ain’t easy! Sending love and thank you all for the support, as always. More updates later!

xRobynn

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Hey lovelies, this may be a different video from my usual vlogs, I really wanted to share with you these important daily routine habits that have really truly helped me reset and develop a healthier mind. These habits have been something I do on a daily basis now, and with such ease. I would suggest to try doing a habit one at a time, until you feel comfortable and adapt it to your own pace. I am still learning and growing daily, and especially in times like these I believe it's what's been helping me keep my sanity. Haha.

Books that have helped me:
- The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra
- Total Meditation by Deepak Chopra
- The Power of Now Eckhart Tolle

I recommend also watching this:
Finding Joe - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s8nFACrLxr0

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#Reset #2021goals

6 Most Important Habits I learned in 2020.

Hello, I am umino.Thank you for watching this video.This description uses Google Translate.

People who don't understand Japanese can't understand what I'm talking about in this video. So I will explain it in the summary column.
日本語が分からない人はこの動画で私が喋っていることが全く理解できないと思う。なので概要欄の方で説明をします。

This video was tapping the five kinds of different things. Glass bowls, wooden boxes, styrofoam, small containers, notepads, I think there's something I like about this video.
今回の動画は5種類の様々な物をタッピングした。ガラスボウル、木の箱、発泡スチロール、小さいコンテナ、メモ帳、この動画に何かしら好きな音はあると思う。

There are few views of tapping videos on this channel. I don't know if tapping isn't popular or doesn't suit this channel. Actually I know, this channel is bad. Is tapping popular overseas? Do you talk about tapping with your friends? I will not do it. I think I sometimes do tapping in my spare time. A desk, a smartphone, a car handle, etc.
このチャンネルではタッピングの動画は視聴数が少ない。タッピングの人気がないのか、このチャンネルには合わないのか、私には分からない。実際には分かっている、このチャンネルが悪いんだ。海外ではタッピングは人気ですか？あなたは友だちとタッピングの話する？私はしない。ついつい暇な時にタッピングをすることはあると思う。机とかスマホとか車のハンドルとか。

The video answers viewers' worries. The important point is that you have answered but not solved. In the first place, it would be nonsense if the problem was solved just because someone said something. It doesn't make any sense without the process of getting advice and thinking based on it. I would like overseas viewers to comment if they have any concerns.
動画では視聴者の悩みに答えている。答えただけで解決してないことが重要なポイントだ。そもそも人に何かを言われただけで問題が解決してしまってはナンセンスだ。アドバイスを貰い、それを踏まえて自分で考えるという過程がないと何の意味もないのだ。海外の視聴者も何か悩みがあったらコメントして欲しい。

The problem this time is that I want to be careful about younger children who do not use honorifics, but I do not want to be hated. Probably a consultation of junior high school students.
今回の悩みは敬語を使わない年下の子に注意をしたいけど、嫌われたくないというものだ。多分、中学生の相談だろう。

There is a culture of honorifics in Japan. Basically, it is better to use honorifics for superiors. You must use honorifics even if you have no respect for them. Damn it.
日本には敬語という文化がある。目上の人に対しては基本的に敬語を使った方がいいというものだ。何も尊敬する部分がなくても敬語を使わなければいけない。くそったれだ。

Many people may not know the culture of honorifics, so I would like to talk about what you should do to be careful and not dislike it. The bottom line is that you are serious and hardworking. And I think the relationship of trust with the target person is important.
敬語の文化については分からない人も多いだろうから、人に注意をすることとそれによって嫌われないためには、どうすればいいのかについて話したい。結論から言えば、自分が注意されないような人間であること。そして、注意される人との信頼関係が大事だと思う。

If people who take things seriously are careful, those who are careful will be satisfied. If you want to say something without being disliked by others, it is important to correct your daily activities and gain the trust of others. I can't do that.
何事にも真面目に取り組む人に注意されれば、注意される側も納得するだろう。人には嫌われず自分が何かを言いたいのであれば、日々の行動を正して周りからの信頼を得ることが重要だ。私にはそれはできそうもない。

If you get the attention of your close friends, you'll be able to accept it, but if you're told by someone you haven't spoken to, that would be difficult.
親しい友人に注意を受ければ、それを受け入れることもできるだろうが、あまり話したこともない人に言われた場合、それは難しいだろう。

In the first place, humans may like someone and vice versa. The people here tend to like me relatively, but some people dislike it. (I think seeing people you don't like is a waste of your life.) People who hate me are probably liked or disliked by someone else. What I want to say is that you can't do anything if you fear being hated. Even if you are disliked because you are careful, you should build a relationship of trust after that.
そもそも、人間は誰かを好きになることもあればその逆もある。ここにいる人は私のことを比較的好きだろうが、もしかしたら嫌いな人もいる。(嫌いな人を見ること程、人生の無駄遣いもないと思うが)私のことを嫌いな人は多分他の誰かからは好かれているし、嫌われてもいるはずだ。何が言いたいかというと、嫌われることを恐れていては何もできないぞ。例え注意したことで嫌われたとしても、その後に信頼関係を築けばいいじゃない。

Good night.
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