In my coaching practice I rarely meet a client whose parents didn’t compare themselves with other kids.
Being compared, either favorably or negatively, takes away our inherent self-worth and fuses it with something outside of us. Creating the damaging narrative: “I’m only worthy when...”
But that’s not all.
We internalize comparison. Even when our parents are no longer around to do it for us, we can’t stop comparing ourselves to others. And we beat ourselves black and blue when we don’t seem to measure up.
Underneath our conscious mind, we tell ourselves a story:
“Someone better will take all the love away.”
This leads us to the damaging habit of comparing ourselves with others.
If you're struggling with this too, my latest article will help.
💛 Read on here in my blog: https://milenanguyen.com/blog/2020/2/27/3-ways-to-stop-comparing-yourself-to-others-and-recover-your-peace-of-mind
同時也有1部Youtube影片,追蹤數超過3萬的網紅POPA Channel,也在其Youtube影片中提到,小朋友可以說是小天使跟小魔怪的混合體,乖的時候好窩心,但係曳的時候就好激心,有父母可能會以打手板、打屁股這些方法去管教,令他知痛知驚,不敢再犯。但大家有沒有想過這種體罰式的教養方法,到底是否真的能夠達到你想要的效果? 參考資料 Chang, L., Schwartz, D., Dodge, K....
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You don’t have control over the things people say about you, but you do have control over how you decide to internalize it.
你無法控制別人要怎麼評論你,但是你能夠選擇要如何內化這些訊息。
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Without repetition, you will not truly "internalize" vocabulary or grammar!
internalize 在 POPA Channel Youtube 的最讚貼文
小朋友可以說是小天使跟小魔怪的混合體,乖的時候好窩心,但係曳的時候就好激心,有父母可能會以打手板、打屁股這些方法去管教,令他知痛知驚,不敢再犯。但大家有沒有想過這種體罰式的教養方法,到底是否真的能夠達到你想要的效果?
參考資料
Chang, L., Schwartz, D., Dodge, K. A., & Mcbride-Chang, C. (2003). Harsh Parenting in Relation to Child Emotion Regulation and Aggression. Journal of Family Psychology, 17(4), 598-606.
Kazdin, A. E., & Benjet, C. (2003). Spanking children: Evidence and issues. Current Directions in Psychological Science Current Directions in Psychol Sci, 12(3), 99-103.
Nelson, D. A., Hart, C. H., Yang, C., Olsen, J. A., & Jin, S. (2006). Aversive Parenting in China: Associations With Child Physical and Relational Aggression. Child Development, 77(3), 554-572.
Melton, R. K. (2011). An overview of research on corporal punishment.
Is Corporal Punishment an Effective Means of Discipline? (2002, June 26). Retrieved from The American Psychological Association
Gershoff, E. T. (2010). More Harm Than Good : A Summary of Scientific research on the intended and unintended effects of corporal punishment on children.
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