Reflections from my Gold Coast trip - "This trip down to Gold Coast is much needed, not to run away from anything but to take solid time away to heal. It hasn’t been an easy period for me the last few months dealing with the sudden breakup, but thankfully, after a week of blue skies, fluffy clouds and personal time, I gained the clarity (plus a nice tan) I needed to plan the next steps in life.
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During this solitude, you can only imagine the whirlwind of thoughts rushing around my head. Waking up in the morning was the hardest, because that’s when reality hits you most.
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In the face of loss, betrayal, disbelief, disappointment and hurt, it is often easy to start inwardly blaming yourself, as you tear yourself apart and beat yourself up for what happened. You replay scenes over and over again, wishing you had done certain things differently; you question your character and you start regretting some of your words and actions. STOP doing that; just stop. It’s over, mate.
Your self-worth inevitably takes a bashing as you get crushed under all of that pain, but this is also where you have to muster every drop of strength you have and pull yourself out. And you have to do it yourself, while your support network cheer you on. It might feel difficult to do so, especially when the pain flows through your veins at a level so intense you have problems breathing sometimes. But time will heal and your heart will catch up with what the mind already knows. •
Most importantly, you need to understand that it’s not you." (Read more at www.cheryltay.sg/its-not-you) #cheryltaytravels
