▍欣然接受小勝利
回想一下濺水花的思想實驗,想像某個下雨天,你走在離家不遠的街道上,看見一灘水窪和一輛行駛過來的車,但已經來不及躲開。然而,駕駛看見了你,及時慢下速度以避免濺起水花,你會怎麼做?
對很多人而言,這件事就這樣結束,可能抵達目的地之後就忘了。我們不太可能會滿懷感激地對著駕駛揮手,被濺到的話還比較可能怒氣沖沖地揮舞著拳頭。多少人會帶著微笑祝這名駕駛有美好的一天?
好啦!好啦!我懂—濺起水花罪不可赦。沒有人喜歡被淋得一身濕!但比較一下得到客戶讚賞和受到客戶羞辱的感受,也比較一下每週收入多出一百英鎊和損失一百英鎊的感受。不管傷害的是自尊還是荷包,損失規避都會導致負面事件的影響比相應的正面事件來得大。
一不注意,損失規避就會把你感受到的損失放大好幾倍,遠超出同等份量的收穫。我們談過預期損失規避,它解釋了為什麼人們不敢踏出去爭取升遷或進行提案。在這個情況下,人們裹足不前,因為他們預期失敗會帶來損失。現在當損失從想像變成了現實,根據經驗法則,你可以預期,真正的損失所帶來的感受,會比同等份量的收穫還要大一倍。這跟韌性有什麼關係呢?
你們有些人會在創業時承擔風險,這個事業可能風光一陣子,然後走下坡。你們有些人會忍痛轉職到薪資更低,但更有趣的職位。如果你了解下滑的痛苦遠比上升的快樂來得強烈,這個事實便可能足以讓你在真的成功時停下來好好欣賞自己的成就。
時時把損失規避放在心中有助於培養韌性,因為你知道它具有影響力,便能採取步驟把傷害降到最低。然而,損失規避就跟反射動作一樣根深蒂固,所以這個策略的效果有限。如果你能更常有意識地把焦點轉移到收穫,要改變態度以平衡損失和收穫就會更容易。怎麼做?每天衡量哪些事進行得很順利。你可以想成是在練習感恩當下,因為它與正在發生的事有直接相關性。
這個簡單的練習真的能建立韌性嗎?證據顯示可以。一項創新的研究清楚強調了韌性和感恩之間的連結。蘿莎娜‧劉(Rosanna Lau)和鄭相德(Sheung-Tak Cheng)在 2011年把一群五十五歲以上的中國長者隨機分成三組。第一組被要求寫下他們覺得感恩的人生事件;第二組被要求寫下他們擔心的人生事件;第三組則進行與個人情感無關的中性任務。接著研究人員評估了受試者對於死亡有多焦慮—研究人員預期這個主題已經在受試者的心中醞釀—並發現感恩組在思索死亡時比其他兩組更有韌性。
除了長者之外還有別的證據嗎?有,而且使用類似設定。羅伯‧艾曼斯(Robert Emmons)和邁克‧麥卡洛(Michael McCullough)在2003年進行了一項這樣的研究。他們把重點放在大學生的韌性,發現感恩練習進行十星期後,帶來了更高的生活滿意度、更好的心情以及更少的頭痛。這些都是小行動帶來的大收穫。表達感激之情的簡單動作,真的有利於增強韌性。再來,感恩也能減輕憂鬱,同時提升快樂與自尊。
#有意識地去正視小勝利是練習感恩和增強韌性的絕佳方法。
不需要是什麼了不起的事,甚至不必寫下來—雖然很多人喜歡用寫的方式進行每日感恩。你只需要每天花五分鐘(固定時間有助於養成習慣),刻意把注意力放在過去二十四小時感受到的所有美好時刻。
從大勝利到小確幸,不管有多平凡無奇,每天盡量把注意力放在這些事件上。確保這些時刻不被忽略,你便能重新平衡你對損失的感受,用不同的眼光看待負面事件。
人生總有起起伏伏,最好避免過度聚焦於損失而無視收穫。
從現在開始做起,寫下你今天到目前為止經歷的三個小勝利……
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能聚焦在小勝利,表示我們沒被困在小我裡。偵測危險,甚至編造危險,讓我們不斷採取行動以保證我們能生存,這是小我的工作。
然而,那些被放大的挫敗與失落,常常回過頭來打擊我們。任由小我自由發揮,有時候我們會像走入遊戲區的鬼屋迷宮。
刻意去看見美好的事物,是一種很好的日常練習。這是提升觀照,發展高我的方法之一。
祝願您,真能享受努力的成果,也能感受被愛的幸福,這須要經過練習,並非理所當然!
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From here on out, I am going to speak out about Mental Awareness because I feel that this world needs more healing. I want to be a light in this world to help heal souls. There is too much pain and too much darkness that surrounds us. We get so caught up in these lies and fall into feeding our Ego, that we forget who we really are at the end of the day.
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We all have our own Journey in this life. But the key to living life is enjoy it rather than be swallows in your thoughts. The game of life is simple: Allow. Allow it to happen and don’t control anything. DON’T GIVE A FUCK at all about what anyone thinks or says about you.
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