#6สิ่งที่หมอเด็กคิดว่าตัวเองรู้ก่อนที่ตัวเองจะกลายเป็นแม่
1.#วันแรกที่พาลูกกลับบ้าน_เป็นวันที่แย่มากจริงๆ
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1.#วันแรกที่พาลูกกลับบ้าน_เป็นวันที่แย่มากจริงๆ
Hormones or whatever. But the doctor found that it was then.
The brain is blank. Where do you sleep? Where do you sleep? Where do you sleep? Where do you sleep
How to breastfeed in the middle of the night? How to do it? (Surgical wound is hurt)
I remember sitting here crying... confused.
Why are you crying... Grandma is confused. Husband is confused.
Doctor thinks it's because of the thought
I'm a pediatric doctor. I can handle it
So it makes us careless
We never prepared a house preparation, a place to place.
And most importantly, we never prepared ourselves.
Even tho it's been so long...
I still remember my failures until now.
2.#การให้ลูกเข้าเต้าไม่ยาก_แต่มัน_โคตรยาก
Before having a baby.
The doctor also has to teach the mother who just gave birth to bring the baby in the breast.
Gotta get the right poses
Gotta let the kids eat when they start signaling hungry.
If you speak theoretically and teach the doctor mother well done.
No lack of defects.
But when I put my own baby in my boobs.
What is this... Kid keeps pushing. Smoking face to face crying for hours.
Finally, doctor has to choose between
Let the baby cry because she is hungry.
But stand up to get into boobs
Or to be full to establish trust in this world.
According to psychology, kids who have studied.
Whether it's a splendid or not patient or an excuse that I want you to be a child to trust the world.
The mist is becoming the mother of a full pump.
And since then the doctor never said the word
#It's not difficult with any mother again.
Doctors say it's difficult, but if you intend to do it, you can do it. Smile to support
3.#สิ่งที่ตำราเลี้ยงเด็กเขียน_เค้าไม่ได้เขียนถึงลูกเราไง
After having a baby salad, a lot of stickiness to a textbook.
What the doctor is very upset about.
Sleep schedule and kid's milk meal
Kids will start sleeping long at 4-6 months old.
Let us practice to finish the late night milk.
REALLY!!!
At 4 months, my kid still wake up every 2-3 hours. At night. At night.
And after 6 months, the textbook doesn't tell us that when teeth grow.
Kids will hurt and wake up crying late night again.
At 8-12 months, when you play with fun, you can sleep and sleep all night long.
Some time find new talents in the middle of the day
Like know you can suck your toes and get excited. Get up to see toes show at 2 am.
The textbook is.... not wrong, but he didn't write about our kids..
Every child is different from birth.
4.#สังคมออนไลน์เป็นดาบสองคม
The doctor knows how to feel after having a baby.
When I was a social media mom that included those who had the same problems.
People who have passed that problem already.
It's like a guru to introduce a freshman.
There is good and bad because there is a new knowledge.
The doctor can't find a textbook read.
How to play nipples, how to treat nipples, white dot, etc.
Damn... Data lines like doctors who need to find textbooks, research readings, rely on these information.
The experienced one comes to tell.
Well it helps us a lot
But it's getting weird.... right where
There is a wrong knowledge set... It's dangerous.
But when someone comes to support me... this information will become.
A textbook for many more people
Which doctor has been in to fix information. Tell me the right thing.
The result is.... weak and lose.
Hey!... health safety information
#มันใช้ระบบโหวตไม่ได้
But doctors understand the group process.
So.. if you want to tell the right thing, you have to create your own space.
So I opened the page.. end.
And hopefully the knowledge from our profession that we want to share
Sincerely, it will be direct to mother and benefit children.
5.#การใช้ชีวิตอยู่กับเด็กทั้งวันทั้งคืน_เหมือนเราใช้ชีวิต #กับผู้หญิงก่อนประจำเดือนมาที่เมาเหล้า
I feel like I can't sleep.
Some scenes reflect us too.
When I'm a mother, I read psychology books.
Seriously reading child development textbook
A lot of parenting genre books.
So much for real
Doctor finds that... Reading helps us have good information. Ready for situations.
But the above information is
We need to develop our own positive thinking system.
Because when you have a negative emotion, it takes a positive energy to use.
If there were only theories in the head then.
But positive energy we don't have. We are irritated. We are upset.
We can't raise a positive child.... We can't control ourselves.
We must have a strong heart, but gentle, kind.
I have been raising kids for 5 years. I have found that I am very into Dharma
Because everything Buddha says is true and it's the solution to every problem.
6.#การเป็นแม่ไม่ได้หมายความว่า_เราต้องทิ้งความเป็นตัวเอง
There are some times when the doctor is suffering.
In fact, I am suffering because of my own expectations.
And suffering how other people will see us.
So many things that are polished with kids.
What we want you to be is not that it's good for you.
#แต่มันทำให้เราดูเป็นแม่ที่ดี
What a heavy thing to do with a 2-3 year old
I will choose the dress. Top pattern, bottom pattern, shirt, and neck.
We think it's not pretty....
If you focus on the kid, you are happy.
If you focus on us... wear this outfit.
Others must think that mother doesn't care about kids.
Here's a sample of the little things we often contradict with kids.
We will imagine the good mother that we think (go by ourselves) that society or people around expect us to be.
So we try to be that person.... but peak is
We tried so hard
But no commission to decide if it's done #good enough
I'm sad and confused. I almost forgot who I am.
Come back to settle down....
It's us, kids have to learn how we are.
Doctor can say that
Who wants to propose to doctor's daughter?
The doctor has to say that the daughter's husband is about to expect her daughter to be a housewife... you will be disappointed.
Because when he was a kid.
Mother is not a good example for him.
He always eats with rice with Amma's cooking.
The good thing is that he has a sense of humor and doesn't mind the mistake... he got it from mom 🤣🤣
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This is what the doctor wants to tell.
The doctor served as a pediatric doctor for 7 years before having a baby.
But just the first few months of parenting myself.
Make doctor #s̄ả think we know
Really we know very little about it.
.
Before being a mother, doctor is considered a good child doctor.
Textbook that pediatric doctor uses for exams all over the world. How about it?
The doctor recommended the mother to ask for counseling.
Because we also tell the information we know is right.
When I'm a mother, I'm a mother.... Doctor has learned that.
The numbers we hold firmly are just the average he chooses that information to be childish.
But in fact, each child is different.
.
The most important thing that a child doctor should give to a mother who asks for parenting advice.
Not a number that is the middle of data.
But it's a #encouragement, understanding of the problems he has to face.
And the power he receives will make him face his own problems.
.
If there are any new mothers who are not confident in childcare.
Doctor wants to confirm that everyone is.
And now my baby is 5 years old
The doctor still has to learn many things and still learning more every day.
.
Let's learn this together and doctor thinks that the page that doctor wants to open up.
Giving someone a benefit no more or less
.
Dr. Pam
P.S. Child doctor in the article is the only doctor himself.
Doctor, other children may know more than doctors know.
And he may be better than the doctor.
Doctor thinks it's an experience sharing.Translated
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到了韓國蔚山的一個Art Stay program,
大家要用兩天時間做一件作品和佈展,
第三天展出。
他們提供了一堆畫紙和畫筆,
我說我畫畫很差,
於是便跑到工作室外買逛街和買街頭小食。
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第一天 - 身份形象的交流
我發現在韓國很難用語言溝通,
於是跑到髮型屋,
用手勢夾雜一點英文單字,
要求剪一個韓國男人髮型,
韓國髮型師反問我韓國人的形象是什麼呢?
我才發現,形象是給外人看的,
所以外人應該比自身更了解自已的外在分別。
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我們一起苦思了一陣子,
因為語言問題,
我唯有簡單的說,
「把我變成K-Pop Star吧!拜托你!」
她用Ipad找了一位明星做參考說,
「就Big Bang隊中的 T.O.P 吧!」
之後我便讓她發揮,
期待著一個地道的韓頭。
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因為時間不多,
她和助手二話不說把染髮劑塗在我頭上,
這是我第一次在髮型屋染髮。
過了一會,
頭髮變成Mk-pop旺角金!
她和助手又把染髮劑再一次塗到我頭上,
過了一會,
頭髮變成了灰金色,
她說這是她最喜歡的顏色。
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她拿起剪刀說,
韓國男生不會有參差不齊的髮尾,
手起刀落把我的髮尾剪成直線。
之後她向我的頭狂噴髮蠟,
又細心地用風筒把額前的頭髮吹成高高的波浪,
她說要成為韓國男生這個很重要。
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髮型完成了,
她拿起剃刀,往我眉頭刮呀刮,
這是我第一次修眉,
她說要成為韓國男生這個都很重要。
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完成後,
她們好像很滿意,
我問,
假如你在街上需要問路,
你會覺得我是本地人問我嗎?
她們答:「一定會!」
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我說T.O.P 的髮型配合我的面型,
感覺很 L.O.W,
她們沒有反應,
究竟是認同還是沒幽默感呢?
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離開時她說要和我合照,
用在髮型屋的Instagram,
我發現她對著陌生人都可以高速擺出奇怪姿勢。
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離開後,
我匆忙在當地找到一家專業攝影公司,
跑上去跟他說,
「我將要去一個電影試鏡面試,請把我拍得像Big Bang隊中的 T.O.P 吧!拜托你!」
他打電話問朋友K-pop是要如何拍,
他顯得不耐煩。
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他要求我戴上眼鏡,
擺了大約20個不同姿勢。
完成後他讓我選出最佳的一張作沖曬,
我要求他幫我決定。
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照片沖曬出來了,
細看下,
他們下了苦功幫我修圖,
皮膚很滑很亮,
我臉上很有個性的幾粒痣都通通被消失。
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第二天早上,
因為個人對頭髮造型的技術有限,
經已變回香港人,
在韓國沒人向我問路了。
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第一天完
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I joined an Art Stay program in Ulsan, Korea.
We have to make a work in 2 days.
Present it on the third day.
They provided some papers and pens to me.
I said I am bad at drawing.
So I went out for some Korean local snacks.
Day 1 - Identity exchange
I had hard time communicating in Korea.
So I went to a hair salon.
Using body language asked for a typical Korean haircut.
The hairdresser asked me what is a typical Korean haircut.
I realised one's identity is recognised better by an outsider.
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Me and the hairdresser thought about the typical identity of a Korean for sometime.
I made a simple decision by saying
"Turn me into a K-pop star please!!"
She found a K-pop star as the refernece on Ipad.
"Let's do T.O.P's hair from one of the K-pop group Big Bang"
I looked forward to my K-head
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We didnt have much time.
She and her assistent quickly apply the dye to my hair.
That is my first time dying hair in a salon.
My hair turn blonde after a while.
She and her assistent quickly apply the dye to my hair again.
My hair turn dark grey after a while.
She said that is her favorite color.
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She pick up a scissors told me,
Uneven fringe is not a Korean thing.
She trim my hair fringe into a sharp straight line.
Then applied huge amount of spray to my hair.
And used the hairdryer to make the fringe high.
She told me that is essential for the Korean male haircut.
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The hair was done.
She picked up a razor and trimmed my eyebrowns.
That is my first time trimming my eyebrowns.
She told me that is essential for a Korean male.
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They looked satisfied when it was all done.
I asked if they would think I am a local and ask for directions.
Definitely they answered.
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I told them I felt the T.O.P hair combined with my face
actually look very L.O.W
No responese from them.
Does it mean they agree or just dont have that sense of humor?
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She asked for a picture for the shop's instagram.
I found that she can make a weird pose in a second with stranger like me.
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I leave and run to a local photoshoot studio.
I told them
"I need an excellent picture for a movie casting. Turn me into T.O.P from the Big Bang please!!"
He called his friend asked about the style of K-pop photo shoot.
He felt annoyed.
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He asked me to put on my glassed.
Directed me for about 20 poses.
He needed me to pick the best one for the final develop.
I let him do it for me.
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The photo was developed.
I looked at the details
They paid extra effort photoshop my face.
My skin is smooth like tofu.
My outstanding facial moles are all gone.
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The next morning,
Due to my lack of styling skills,
I turned back to a Hong Kong-er.
No one asked me for directions in Korea anymore.
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End of day 1
weird sense of humor 在 林思宏醫師 Facebook 的最佳貼文
「林醫師,你幫Janet接生呀?」
「Nonono.!..是George接生的!
從頭到尾都在搖滾區卻非常的專注冷靜!」
Janet Hsieh 謝怡芬 & George Young 真的是非常恩愛的一對夫妻
能參與他們的懷孕,生產,是件幸福的事
祝福你們
首先~要大大感謝大家的恭喜和祝福簡訊及禮物!其實到現在一切都還感覺很不真實,而我好像還停留在呆滯的狀態。我,的,天,啊,我真的是位媽咪了! George Young 我們有個兒子了!
(對了所以有人猜對嗎?是位男孩,10/11,凌晨2:37出生,3650公克,有大GG(像媽媽一樣man,哈哈!)
First of all, THANK YOU for all of the congratulatory messages, support, and presents! It’s been so surreal and I’m still in a daze. OMG! I’m a MOMMY!!! GEORGE, WE HAVE A SON!! @instageorgy
(BTW, anybody guess correctly? Baby boy, born Oct 11, 2:37am, 3650g, big GG (Takes after mommy. haha!))
現在我終於有時間可以稍微回顧,也同時想把這特別的分娩經驗分享給大家。
Now that I have time to think back, I wanted to share MY labor experience with you.
如何把寶寶生出來的101條守則:
How to deliver a baby 101:
先列出一個非常詳細的生寶寶計畫,包含以下需要事先想清楚:
自然產 v.s. 剖腹產
有打藥催生 v.s. 無藥
會陰剪開 v.s. 自然撕裂
是否寶寶一生出來就和母體肌膚接觸
是否保存臍帶、臍帶血
Write a very detailed birth plan. Include the following
Vaginal delivery vs. C-section
Medicated vs. Non-medicated
Episiotomy or natural tearing
Skin to skin afterwards or not
Do you want to keep the umbilical cord and cord blood for cord blood registry?
2. 小心翼翼地拿著那本生寶寶計畫並且沿長邊對著中線對折
Take that birth plan and carefully fold it in half, long ways, down the middle.
3. 再將紙攤開來
Open it back up again
4. 將紙的右上角往中線摺成三角形
Fold the top right corner down to the middle line, forming a triangle
5. 將紙的左上角往中線摺成另一個對等的三角形
Fold the left right corner down to the middle line, forming a matching triangle
6. 將你的生寶寶計畫(現在它應該是個紙飛機了)往窗外飛,然後和它揮手說再見
Fly your birth plan (now a paper airplane) out the closest window and wave byebye
哈哈。 well, 這個是我自己的經驗啦。
Haha. Well, that’s how it worked out for me in the end anyway.
生小孩之前,我們做很多研究,問了很多朋友然後跟我們的醫生 林思宏醫師 討論了。我跟George決定要用最自然的方式來生小孩, 用最少的醫療。 除非有緊急狀況或是必須的條件,我們盡量不要用催生、針筒、無痛藥或任何其他的藥物,也不想會陰側切或是剖腹。
Before delivering out baby boy, and after doing a lot of research and talking to numerous friends and our physician Dr. Jason Lin, George and I had decided that we wanted as “natural” of a birth as possible, meaning: as little medical intervention as possible. Unless there was a medical emergency or absolute necessity, we wanted no induction, no needles, no pain medication, no episiotomy, and definitely, no surgery.
不過很顯然的我們的寶寶很有想法,他有自己的一套計畫:已經41週大了他就是不打算出來(即便他已經有個超級大頭而且已經3700克),而且一點產兆都沒有!於是林醫師強烈建議我們催生。因此,在10月9日的中午,我們冷靜的打包好,吃飽午餐,非常平靜的前往醫院。這感覺好像是我們要去一趟三天兩夜的小旅行(嗯哼,最好是),但其實仔細想一想,我們的寶寶今天就要出來與我們見面這件事其實是蠻嚇人的!這是一種很詭異的平靜卻緊張的氛圍,好像我們一切都很有效率。
Well, our baby had his own plan. He (even with his big ol’ head and already almost 3700g) just didn’t want to come out, and after 41 weeks and not a single sign of labor, Dr. Lin highly recommended that we induce. So, on October 9 at noon, with our bags calmly packed, lunch eaten, we head to the hospital in a weird daze. It felt like we were packing for a 3-day holiday (haha! Yeah right!), but it was also so scary to think that we could have a baby TODAY! It was a strange calmness/nervousness. Almost like we were being too efficient.
其實坐上計程車後我們一度很想請司機回頭,並取消約診,然後回家繼續等。不過仔細想想又覺得,那,我們到底在等什麼?如果我們只是為了固執的等待陣痛自己來臨,卻因此造成拖延而產生很多不可控制的病發症怎麼辦?
There were moments in the short cab ride when we nearly told the taxi to turn around, cancel the appointment, and just wait it out. And then there were times when we thought, well, what exactly are we waiting for? What if we cause some complications because we were stubborn about waiting for contractions to start on their own?
每一位迎接寶寶來臨的準媽媽甚至準爸爸都會害怕自己的寶寶會在準備出生的前幾天因為受臍帶纏繞而窒息,或是寶寶會開始在媽媽肚子的羊水中便便甚而吃到自己的胎便,這其實很危險且容易造成感染,或是胎盤會開始失去功能等等。身為一位母親,妳就是會時不時的替寶寶擔心這擔心那,一切都是為了確保他/她能夠平安。
Every mother and even father has the fear that their baby will get tangled on its umbilical cord and stop breathing just DAYS before he or she is supposed to be born, or that it will start to poop inside and eat it’s own poop inside the amniotic fluid which can be very dangerous and cause infection, or the placenta will start will fail, etc etc. As a mother, you are constantly worried about that baby inside your belly and you just want to do anything possible to make sure it is OK.
所以,因為腦中有這麼多的擔心和顧慮不斷徘徊,於是我們乖乖的聽醫師的話,10月9日的中午12點準時到醫院報到,和飯店check in,喔不是,我是說我們的產房,並且真的開始面對催生這件事。
So, with these concerns and considerations in mind, we listened to our doctor and by 12 noon on October 9th, we checked into our hotel room, I mean, our hospital room, and started INDUCTION.
長話短說,38小時過後,我們的男寶寶來到這個世界。我絕對會說他是我們”美麗的男寶寶”!但你們真的見過寶寶剛生出來的樣子嗎?(George當時是搖滾區) 它當時並不是我認為最美的事物我必須承認...,它其實長得像異形啊!哈哈!
Long story short, 38 hours later, we have our baby boy. I would say our “beautiful baby boy,” but have you SEEN a baby when it comes out?! (George did at the business end). It is not the prettiest thing… it looks like an alien! Haha!
說真的我真的不知道如果沒有林思宏醫師、產房護理長王俐文還有其他護理人員、Holly及許多客服人員們的協助我會怎麼樣。生寶寶真的是件既美妙卻又嚇人的一件事,尤其當妳在分娩的這段期間只有感受到自己的無比脆弱,妳絕對會需要一個懂妳也懂妳的寶寶的團隊來支持妳:一個能不時監測妳和寶寶狀態的專業團隊,且具備充分耐心可以願意一一回答妳百萬種不可思議的問題。妳絕對會需要一個盡量能讓妳感到放心的環境,在這可能是妳人生中最不舒服的一天!(或者舉我為例,我人生中最不舒服的38小時!)
I honestly don’t know what I would have done without the support of Dr. Jason Lin, Wendy (our doula), and the rest of the nurses and staff at 禾馨婦產科-專業母胎兒醫學中心 . Having a baby is a wonderful, yet absolutely terrifying thing, and you feel completely vulnerable when you are going through labor. You need a team by your side who knows what YOU want for your delivery and for you and your baby. A professional group who is there to monitor you and your baby in case anything goes wrong, and who is also caring and supportive enough to answer all of your millions of silly questions. You need an environment which makes you feel as comfortable as possible, in what is going to possibly be THE MOST UNcomfortable day in your life! (Or, in my case, 38 LOOONG hours of my life!)
謝謝林醫師的熱情和專業,尤其在回答我們千奇百怪的問題的同時還能用一套幽默與邏輯來平息我們的不安。如果我真的要再做一次生產這件事,不用問,我一定會讓George來生...哈哈。不過說真的,我真的找不到第二人選來幫我的男寶寶順產接生。
Thank you Dr. Lin for your passion for your job, your professionalism when answering our questions, and your sense of humor to calm our nerves. If I had to do it all over again, there’s no question… I’d make GEORGE have our baby… Haha. But seriously, I can’t think of a better person that I’d rather have deliver our baby boy.
再來是護理長王俐文,妳真的是上帝派來的天使、我的救世主!妳陪伴著我和George最難熬的那幾個小時是我永生難忘!妳在我最艱困的的每一次陣痛幫我擦乾我的眼淚、用妳的笑容鼓勵我,幫我擠出那些痛、按摩我、跟我一起做骨盆搖擺運動,妳是我的意志力讓我堅持到最後。真的真的真的好感謝妳
And Wendy. Oh Wendy. You are an angel. A godsend. My savior! The hours that you spent with George and I during my most difficult moments will never be forgotten. You helped wipe away my tears, encouraged me with your smile, squeezed, massaged, swayed, and moved with me through all of my toughest contractions, and you kept me sane when I thought I couldn’t last another second. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU.
獻給那些即將臨盆的媽咪們,我不騙你,生產真的是我人生目前做過最嚇人的一件事!我從來沒有為一件事情如此害怕、緊張過。不過希望妳也可以一樣,有個很支持妳、照顧妳的家人和醫療團隊在妳身邊,也能像我一樣,順利地生出健康、開心又獨一無二珍貴的寶寶,妳們的寶寶!祝妳好運!加油!
To any moms out there about to deliver a baby, I won’t lie. It is the scariest thing I have ever done in my life. I have never been so nervous or scared about anything before. But hopefully, like me, you have an amazing support group and family by your side… and like me, you will also deliver a healthy, happy and precious baby. YOUR baby. GOOD LUCK. JIA YOU!