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🤬 如何主動提勸告卻不煩人
How to Offer Unsolicited Advice Without Being Annoying
開啟「接收通知」和「搶先看」每天吸收雙語時事新知
來讀華爾街日報獨家
✍️ If your suggestions often meet with resistance, maybe you need to change your technique. The WSJ’s relationships columnist offers these ideas.
如果你的忠告常被拒絕，或許你該改換技巧。華爾街日報的關係專欄作家提供以下點子：
📧 Dear Bonds,
My adult son hates when I give him advice. So I try to stay quiet, let him learn from his own mistakes, and wait until he asks for help, just as I tried to do when he was little. But as a father, I do feel I have valuable wisdom to impart. Take this weekend, when my son was making steaks for dinner. He didn’t warm up the grill before putting the steaks on! When I mentioned this—“Son, let me show you how I like to do it”—he snapped and told me to finish them myself. What did I do wrong? —Grilled in Chicago
親愛的關係大師：
我的成年兒子很討厭我給建議，因此我盡量保持沈默，讓他從自己的錯誤中學習，等到他尋求幫助，就跟我在他小時候做的一樣。但身為父親，我認為我能傳授寶貴智慧，就像這週末，我兒子烤牛排當晚餐，他在放牛排前沒先熱烤肉架！當我說「兒子，讓我來示範我都怎麼烤。」他突然發火叫我自己烤算了。我是哪裡做錯了？—芝加哥的焦頭老爸
-bond: 紐帶；聯繫；關係，例如bond of friendship友誼關係
-impart: 傳授；告知；給予
-grill: 燒烤
-snap: 折斷；突然動怒，就像理智突然「喀嚓」一聲斷線，導致情緒爆發
💞 Dear Grilled,
Oh dear. You’ve butted in between a man and his fire. I realize that the man in question is one whose diapers you once changed. That, as a father, you do have hard-earned knowledge to share. And that searing meat over an open flame seems like a perfect father-son bonding experience. But I’m afraid you need to tend to your technique a little.
My guess is you often offer unsolicited advice, probably not just to your son. I know you’re just trying to be helpful. So let’s come up with a plan to make sure your guidance is welcomed, and maybe even heeded. I want you to follow the Three A’s: Assess. Ask. Adjust.
親愛的焦頭老爸
喔天啊～你竟然對一個男人的火焰潑冷水。我懂你曾替該名男子換尿布，身為父親，你也確實有難能可貴的知識可以分享，而明火上的燒肉像極了完美的父子交心時光，但恐怕你得先練練你的溝通技巧。
我猜你常主動給建議，或許不只對你兒子。我知道你只是想幫忙，因此我們來定個計劃，好確保別人歡迎你的指導、甚至聽從。希望你遵守「3A原則」：Assess、Ask、Adjust。
-hard-earned: 得來不易的
-unsolicited: 未經要求的(not asked for)，主動的
✍️ between a man and his fire - 這句有雙關趣味，一指烤肉的炭火，二指熱情，如「man on fire」就是指充滿熱誠的人
👂 Start with assess. You need to do a little research. Talk to a few people you trust—your wife or partner, a good friend, another child who isn’t always annoyed with your advice—and get their take on your feedback style. Do you give too much of it, or does it come across as harsh? This isn’t about analyzing your son’s response; it’s about examining your approach.
從評估開始，你需要稍做功課，跟幾位你信任的人聊聊，像你的妻子或伴侶、一位好友、另一個不總是厭煩你建議的孩子，瞭解他們對你給予回饋風格的看法。你會給太多回饋嗎？講法是否太過苛刻？這不是要分析你兒子的反應，而是要檢驗你的溝通方式。
-harsh: 苛刻；嚴峻
-come across: 讓人覺得，給人的印象
-approach: 方法，途徑
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