【一切的失敗和不足,都是最美好的安排】
All Failures & Lacks Are The Best Things to Happen to Us
三個月前,收到來自台灣客人的這封電郵時,開心和心酸交織著在心裡。
開心,因為這是一年前通過Zoom視訊的客人。他居然在我們看八字的一週年,特地寫了封感謝函給我,真有心!
心酸,因為他寫在電郵裡的低落心情,我完完全全明白。
他的經歷,是我的曾經。我當初也是很難,很久才能走出來。
有一回,我為一位芳華正茂的女子批八字時,她很用心的寫下我說的話。
論寫筆記的完整,她是我客人當中的佼佼者。
寫到一半,我注意到她的右手開始微微顫抖。我以為是空調的風太大了,冷到她,便問她要不要披巾。
她說,是她的焦慮症發作。
「我沒在兇你,也沒對你嚴厲,你為何突然焦慮?」
「我.....打從今年疫情打亂了我的計畫,我就一直很焦慮。我覺得我很沒用,同學們都前進了,只有我現在什麼都不是,亂糟糟的。我就一直很緊張,萬一我一直都是這樣,怎麼辦?」
說著,她眼眶一紅,眼淚像斷了線的珍珠鏈似的灑下來。
我的媽呀!是我的樣子長得很催淚,還是我的聲音聽起來很虐心?怎麼客人,不分男女老少,東南西北,看到我好像都很容易哭?
我抓起一張紙巾遞給她。
「所以,我不是來了嗎?你來找我,就是要問個明路,而你很幸運那麼快就看到我啦!你看你的筆記寫得多工整,多齊全。我很多客人都不如你啊!我今天的工作,就是來給你答案的。我沒有把握,也不會接你這份差事。我接了,就代表還可以補救。你照著我的指示去做,一定柳暗花明又一村。」
又另一回,一位四十多歲的媽媽請我看兒子的八字。
我在批著八字時,這位媽媽點頭認同,然後就聲淚俱下。
我轉頭看著她沈默不語的先生。我說錯了什麼嗎?太太哭成淚人,你怎麼連紙巾也不拿給她啊?
「我是個沒有用的母親,很不稱職的母親。我沒有辦法教好孩子。我很愛他,可是很多時候我都不知道要怎麼做,我就會對他發脾氣,說狠話,過後我又後悔。我忍下來,可是後來還是會一樣!」
我沒打斷她,等她的哭聲逐漸小聲後,我柔柔的說:「我來啦!我坐在你前面了。你已經看到我,就是有辦法了。你知道你自己不行,會去找辦法,就代表你願意去學習做個好媽媽啊!」
我把紙巾遞給她,再說:「不要哭了,要不然,別人看了以為是我不要借你錢,才把你弄得那麼傷心。」
曾幾何時,我們都會以外在所擁有的,來定義自己的人生是否值得自己喜歡。
從原生家庭、樣貌、健康、身型、智力、天賦等,到後來的學歷、友情、事業、財富、婚姻、子女......
哪一樣沒有,而偏偏是我們最想要的,我們就會認定自己失敗的一塌糊塗。
我認為這就是普通教育最大的問題所在。父母老師都是這樣把我們「分門別類」的。值不值得父母疼愛或向親朋戚友炫耀,也離不開那幾點。
久而久之,我們也只會以「成功」來定義自己是否有價值,甚至來衡量自己是否有活下去的勇氣。
我比較喜歡佛法的定義。我們每個人都是一尊佛,六道眾生皆有佛性,只因一時的迷,因此墮落在苦輪不停的輪迴。
可正因為我們有佛性,我們都有無窮無盡的可能。每個人的內在有著很強大的力量,等著我們遇到明師後,去發掘、探索和了解。
而這天生俱來的力量,就是你改命立命的資本。
如果人生順風順水,我們永遠不會想要出離,誤把人間當極樂,所以一定要有苦,我們才會意識到,為什麼我們會在這鬼地方?要怎麼樣才可以離開這鬼地方去到極樂?
反過來,我們都應該感恩自己遇到的挫折,因為從這些苦中,我們才能生出智慧。
沒有一個八字是完美的。一切的失敗和不足,都是最美好的安排,如此你才會有出離心,返本歸源。
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3 months ago, when I received this email from my Taiwan client, there was this feeling of bittersweetness.
I was happy because this was the client I did a Zoom consultation last June. He sent me this email on the one-year anniversary date of our Zoom call, to express his gratitude. How sweet!
On the other hand, I could relate to the emotional turmoil he felt at that point in his life.
His experience was my past. It also took me a very long time to walk out from my gloominess.
Once, I analysed the Bazi of a very young lady. She was meticulously jotting down notes as I spoke.
Her detailed note-taking skills easily took the top place among my clients.
Halfway through, I noticed her right hand was trembling slightly. I thought it was due to the cold draft from the air conditioning, so I asked if she needed a shawl.
She replied that it was her anxiety disorder acting up.
“I was not fierce or strict with you. What caused your sudden anxiety?”
“I…ever since the pandemic disrupted my plans, I have been in this state of anxiety. I kept feeling useless. All my classmates are progressing expect me. I have nothing to show for and my life is in a mess. I am very anxious. What if I continue to be like this? What am I going to do?”
As she spoke, her eyes turned red and tears started rolling down like a broken strand of pearl necklace scattering onto the ground.
Oh dear! I am beginning to wonder if I have a tear-jerker face or a heart-tormenting voice. Why do my clients, regardless of gender and age, North South or East West, seem to cry easily when they see me?
I grabbed a piece of tissue and handed it to her.
“Ain’t I here already? You came to me for a roadmap and you are very lucky to see me so soon. Look at how precise and neat your notes are! Many of my clients aren’t even on par with you. My job today is to give you answers. If I didn’t have the confidence, I would not have taken up your request. Now that I did, that means there is still hope. If you follow my instructions, you will see things looking up very soon.”
On another occasion, a mother in her forties came to me for her son’s Bazi consultation.
As I was analysing, the mother nodded her head in agreement. The next thing I know, she started weeping loudly.
I turned to look at her husband, who had been silent all along. Did I say something wrong? And hello, your wife was crying. Why weren’t you gentleman enough to give her a tissue paper?
“I am a useless mother. I am incompetent. I do not know how to teach my son well. I love my son very much. But many times, I do not know what to do and thus I flare up at him and speak harshly. I always regret afterwards. I tried enduring but it still ends badly!”
I did not interrupt her and waited for her cries to soften, before speaking gently, “I’m here! I’m already sitting in front of you. You are looking at me now and that means help is here. You know that you are incompetent, so you went looking for solutions. That means you are willing to learn how to be a better mother!”
I handed a piece of tissue and said, “Don’t cry anymore, otherwise, other patrons will think that it’s because I refuse to lend you money.”
Since young, we have been using external possessions to define whether our lives are worth liking.
The family we are born into, our looks, health, body shape, intellect, talents, and then we move on to compare our academics, friendships, career, wealth, marriage and children.
If we are lacking in the area we covet most, we grade our lives as a failure.
I think this is the biggest problem in societal education. Our parents and teachers categorized us that way. Whether we as children are worthy of their love and bragging, depends on the few points above too.
Thus over time, we can only use the term “success” to determine whether we are of value, for some people, whether they should live on to take their next breath.
I very much prefer the definition in Buddhism. We are all Buddhas. Each and every sentient being in the six realms has a Buddha nature in them. But they got lost momentarily and fell into the endless wheel of reincarnation.
Yet, because of our Buddha nature, we have an unlimited source of potential. Every one of us has a very powerful strength inside us. It is just waiting for us to meet an accomplished teacher, so that we have the tools to explore and understand it:
And this strength that we are born with is the capital for us to transform and establish our own destiny.
If life is smooth-sailing, we would never want to leave and would mistake this mortal realm for Pureland. Thus, we all need sufferings, to realise that we should break out of this hell of a place. There has to be a better world somewhere. So how we get there?
We should, in fact, be grateful for all the setbacks and failures we have. Because it is from these sufferings, our wisdom arise:
No single Bazi is perfect. Every failure and lack we experience is the best arrangement for us, so that the heart of renunciation will arise in us and we will return to where we came from.
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I always feel hesitant to post videos like this. But I have learned that we cannot control what people say or think about us, but what we can control is what we do. And I choose to share this inspiring experience I have had yesterday.
A few weeks, ago, I was at Pugon Bakeshop eating my favourite Super Lugaw, as you already know how much of a fan I am. And then, I remembered a campaign on TikTok which was #LugawIsEssential. I asked the owner (he is very private so I am not gonna name him) if they have had a feeding program. At this point, I already know what they do for the community. He replied that they actually have a feeding program where some business owners in Boracay come together to feed the locals.
I got excited to have known this because I have been wanting to film moments like this- not influenced by other people, but just me doing it because I love doing it. And so I asked them to invite me next time so I could capture it. They agreed.
I honestly had no idea how fascinating it was until I experience it. Yesterday, I came along with the guys, we got lost, but we arrived with so many kids waiting for us with their bowls and glasses. The entire time, I was hiding my emotion. I get so emotional when I see things like this on social media and the impact of seeing and experiencing it in person is quite bizarre- in a great way.
We were accompanied by Malay Municipal Police Station, a few people who organised the BARANGAYanihan crowd (yes, there's indeed a program like that), and the people from Boracay Community Sharing Group. Surprisingly, I did not know I was with the people from the Community Sharing Group.
Okay, I just realise I am writing too much, so I am going to make my point of this post now.
You see, I have met a lot of people in my life. I have met people who complained about our community all the time and do nothing even they have the influence, power and connections to do so. And we have people who do not talk about the problems in our community, they see it, and instantly do something about it in hiding. Not all heroes wear capes, they said. And it is true.
I have seen the struggles on this beautiful island, and I am blessed and grateful to have been a part of this activity. It restores my belief in humanity- that somehow, even with the lockdowns happening, people doing their best to get by, there are a few good people who hide in the dark and are helping people silently.
And thank you.
To the policemen of Malay Municipal Police Station,
to the people from the Boracay Community Sharing group, and to Pugon Bakeshop/Bar & Cafè and Salaver Clinic - Boracay, thank you for allowing me to experience this inspiring moment. I hope and pray that people from other municipalities and cities would see this video and be inspired by what you do. Please, please, please, I ask you, to continue being the gold standard. Thank you for allowing me to capture it without giving you a heads up.
And for my final note, we do not need to wait for our government to help. We can help one another. If we have a little bit of something to share with our neighbours, it is already a great start. All we need is compassion and little kindness especially during these lockdowns.
#NationalHeroesDay
#boracay #boracaystories #BARANGAYanihan
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Well America, today seems as good a day as any to say my first proper “thank you” 🇺🇸
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I got on a plane at the drop of a hat on a risky overdue whim, with obvious excitement at my first adventure here, but minimal expectations 🤷🏻♂️ I’m glad I didn’t have time to create any because whatever I could have dreamt up would have been blown out of the water 💦
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You’ve turned celebrities into colleagues, pictures and movie scenes into reality and thrown catalytic sparks into things I’d given up on.
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There are plenty of things about this place I’m yet to get my head around (the whole gun thing is a bit odd, the mosquitos are the size of birds and like to bite me on the head, the fact that someone can ask me if a place called “Malaysia” is in Europe is gobsmacking and some of the alternative vocabulary is questionable) but for the other 996 reasons it’s a truly wonderful place 🏞 Consider me smitten and very grateful to be here - I only wish it wasn’t in such contrast to the current situation back home 😔
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It’s a good thing the exchange rate and visa limitations mean I’ll have to leave eventually, or things could get dangerously permanent 😅
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Thanks for having me so far. The dream is a real humdinger, and next week it’s set to get better again.
#july4th
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【豚ニラ玉豆腐】
今日は、調味料1つだけで包丁まな板いらずなのにご飯がめっちゃ進む美味しい一品『豚ニラ玉豆腐』を作りました!
手抜きで超簡単レシピなのに、とっても美味しいので頻繁に食べたくなる大好きな一品です。
豚バラとニラと卵と豆腐という組み合わせもスタミナ満点で最強ですし、オイスターソース一つだけでめっちゃ美味しく味が決まるのでホントおすすめ!!
途中でごま油やブラックペッパーで味変しても美味しいです。ぜひとも面倒な日のレパートリー入りしていただけると嬉しいです!!
〈材料〉1〜2人分
豚バラ肉 100g
木綿豆腐 150g
ニラ 1/2束
卵 2個
オイスターソース 大さじ1と1/2
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【Pork Chinese Chives Tofu】
Today, I made a delicious dish, "Pork Chinese Chives Tofu," which uses only one seasoning and does not require a kitchen knife cutting board, but the rice goes really well!
It's a super-easy recipe, but it's so delicious that you'll want to eat it often.
The combination of pork rose, garlic chives, eggs and tofu is also the strongest with full stamina, and it is really recommended because the taste is really delicious with just one oyster sauce! !!
It is delicious even if you change the taste with sesame oil or black pepper on the way. I would be grateful if you could join the repertoire of troublesome days! !!
〈INGREDIENT〉for1〜2
Pork belly 100g
Cotton tofu 150g
Garlic 1/2 bundle
2 eggs
1 and 1/2 tablespoons of oyster sauce
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【無限きゅうりキムチ】
今日は、包丁まな板いらずでポリ袋だけで完結する『無限きゅうりキムチ』を作りました!
ポリ袋できゅうりを叩いて、残りの材料を入れるだけで完成するめっちゃ簡単なレシピですが、この味付けがめちゃくちゃ美味しくて、一瞬でなくなる人気レシピです。
ご飯にはもちろんお酒にも合います!!これはホント無限に食べれるおいしさ!!ぜひぜひお試しいただけると嬉しいです。
〈材料〉1〜2人分
きゅうり 1本
キムチ 60g
砂糖 小さじ1/2
すりごま 小さじ2
めんつゆ(4倍濃縮) 小さじ2
ごま油 小さじ2
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【Cucumber Kimchi】
Today, I made "Infinite Cucumber Kimchi" which can be completed with just a plastic bag without using a kitchen knife cutting board!
It's a very simple recipe that you just hit the cucumber in a plastic bag and add the rest of the ingredients, but this seasoning is so delicious that it's a popular recipe that disappears in an instant.
Of course it goes well with rice and sake! !! This is really delicious to eat infinitely! !! I would be grateful if you could give it a try.
〈INGREDIENT〉For1~2
1 cucumber
Kimchi 60g
1/2 teaspoon sugar
2 teaspoons of ground sesame seeds
Mentsuyu (4 times concentrated) 2 teaspoons
2 teaspoons of sesame oil
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今日はメイドの日!
メイドさんごっこをしてたらカメラが回ってしまっていた…!
的な動画を撮ってみました♡
初めての試みだったんですが、どうでしたか…?
始終ワチャワチャしてますが、
私なりのフェチ要素は盛り込んでみました!
ぜひ高評価、チャンネル登録してもらえたら嬉しいです♡
また、つぎはこんなシュチュエーションを!的なリクエストや
他にやってほしい事などもありましたらどしどしコメントお待ちしてます♡
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Today is maid day!
When I was playing the maid, the camera was spinning ...!
I took a video like ♡
It was my first attempt, but how was it ...?
Dogs and cats are noisy from beginning to end, but I tried to incorporate my own fetish elements!
I would be grateful if you could give it a high rating and subscribe to the channel ♡
In addition, next is such a situation! Request
If you have any other things I would like you to do, I'd love to hear from you ♡
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不定期で気ままに更新します!
チャンネル登録、高評価よろしくお願いします!
It will be updated irregularly and freely!
Subscribe to the channel and appreciate it!
http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjh7PnbWQM351Dt_C5INw9g?sub_confirmation=1
釘町みやび(みーちゃん)
Miyabi Kugimachi (Mi-chan)
■Twitter
https://twitter.com/miyajyaga382
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■お仕事のご依頼等
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↓プレゼント宛先 (Destination of gifts)↓
〒150-0044
東京都渋谷区円山町15-3
グランエストビル 5F
株式会社FANSTAR
(ロゼ女王) 釘町みやび 宛
150-0044
Grand Est Building 5F
15-3 Maruyama-cho, Shibuya-ku, Tokyo
FANSTAR Co., Ltd.
To Miyabi Kugimachi (Queen Rose)
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アイドルグループ「めたもるふぉーぜ」でも活動しています!!
YouTubeチャンネル「めたふぉちゃんねる」でも動画を上げているので遊びに来てください♥
We are also active in the idol group "Metamorphose"! !
I'm also posting a video on the YouTube channel "Metafo Channel" so please come and visit me♥
https://www.youtube.com/c/metafoch/
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♥1st DVDやROMも発売しています!
是非、釘町商店へ!!
1st DVD and ROM are also on sale!
Come to Kugimachi Store!!!
https://miyajyaga382.official.ec/
♥ホラードラマ「ぞくり。」にも出演させて頂いています👻
I have also appeared in the horror movie "Zokkuri." 👻
https://amzn.to/3qyQAMi
■BGM
DOVA-SYNDROME様
https://dova-s.jp/
こんとどぅふぇ様
https://conte-de-fees.com/
■SE
効果音ラボ様
https://soundeffect-lab.info/
■イラスト
いらすとや様
https://www.irasutoya.com/
落書きアイコン様
https://rakugakiicon.com/
フリーペンシル様
https://iconbu.com/
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