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Midnight Thoughts: Toxic Femininity
ICYMI - I had a not-so-nice conversation with a woman who wanted to shame me for being in a bikini in a waterfall and later for not being married with kids like her. It was one of the most disappointing things I've read from a woman in a long time. If you have time, feel free to read how dangerous this rhetoric is, especially to still exist in 2021.
https://www.sarahlian.com/2021/01/toxic-femininity/
6am thoughts. It sucks BUT.
I'm not victim blaming, but I just can't stand the fucking hypocrisy.
APART FROM EVERYTHING that has been happening; I can't help but think that as much as this social justice crap has been stupid, in a sense that if people just behaved well, all of this could have been avoided.
On top of whatever the fuck that is happening with women (and let's just talk about this first). Is that, women have also contributed to the issues itself. I’m not saying all, but SOME. Those who have claimed to fight for women's rights, who have claimed to stand by your side and help you through this.
When in reality, whatever they have done has been far worse than men. They'd sabotage their own kind for their own petty gains. They'd shit on other women for their own petty reasons, and do whatever the misogynists would do like:
1. Claim that women cannot succeed, especially in this industry; just because they are women.
2. Shit on literally any other woman who is supposedly 'a threat' to them; and when I say threat, they probably aren't even real threats but petty drama and/or jealousy that they are too proud to admit.
3. They side with toxic men, just so that they're excluded from 'the pitiful bunch'.
4. Accredit your progress/success solely to sexual promiscuity; and weaponizing your femininity
And suddenly, when this entire movement re-surfaced, especially in our industry. I can't help but see so many of these people try to jump on the hype-train and claim shit, like 'I AM WOMAN, I SIDE WOMEN".
But throughout all these years they have done nothing but the opposite. All of the cyberbullying and slandering that I, personally had to deal with are MOSTLY from other women.
So please. Stop.
At this point you can probably see that it's not just because men are toxic. Women are also toxic. PEOPLE in general are toxic. And this all broods off of selfishness, people; to a fault, are selfish.
If you really want to help; stop contributing to the problem, and start relearning how to be a decent human being.
Stop putting other people down, just to try and make yourself look better.
Stop judging people based solely on your own assumptions.
Stop talking shit about people just because 'your friends said so'; there’s always two sides to every coin, and if this happened to you; try thinking whether or not you’d find it fair.
Stop all this crap. Seriously.
You can fool others into thinking that you’re so into that whole ‘women’s rights’ thing. But for the people who have suffered through the shit; that YOU put them through, and got away with it; and for so long, you’re nothing but a- wait. You are worse than shit. You are nothing.
So please. Before you start jumping on this whole thing. Take a good hard look at yourself first, and ask yourself; if you really stand for what you speak.
It’s already hard enough. All people have to do is just be decent human beings to eachother and things would be a whole lot better.
Mic fucking drop dudes. Micho the Haram-Bae is idola plz.
[Battle Arena Women's Empowerment Campaign #1]
Featuring Micho Teh!
🔺 Why do you post sexy pictures of yourself?
Micho: My intention wasn't to gain viewership through sex selling, but to showcase to others my (imperfect) beauty and that beauty doesn't just have one shape & look. Appreciating my femininity and sexuality actually empowers me and I want to inspire other women and men to feel good in their own skin and embrace their sexuality too.
I also wish to challenge the "slut-shaming" culture -- women are often seen as less than human and are more vulnerable to violence (verbal and physical) because of the way they dress or the way they embrace their sexuality.
I wish to become living proof that a woman can still be respected as a role model because of her achievements and contributions in society without being reduced by her sexuality.
🔺 Do you think what you do helps empower women and help them feel more confident about themselves?
Micho: Yes, in fact, many women have thanked me through private messages and expressed their support. Recently, a male called me out asking me how I would feel if my daughter posted explicit images like mine. I responded saying that it is the judgmental and oppressive mindset that makes society so toxic towards women. If it were me, I would tell my daughter to do what she wants as long as she does not hurt herself and others around her. She should never feel ashamed of herself or her sexuality.
Later, a mother of one and a Muslim lady came forward and supported me. They commended me for not letting others define who I am and what I do. I am
touched to witness how my actions have inspired people from different backgrounds, religion and age to come together to empower each other. Their words keep me going.
🔺 Which game related cosplay is your favourite and why?
Micho: This is such a tough choice as I love all the characters I've cosplayed. My top 3 would be Ellie from The Last of Us, Meredy from Tales of Eternia and Rhasta the Shadow Shaman from Dota 2 because they are all my most favorite games and I saw myself in these 'seems-weak-but-is-actually-strong' characters.
I'm a survivor and fierce fighter like Ellie and Rhasta, I'm someone who will step out of the comfort zone to protect her loved ones from harm like Meredy.
I invested so much into working on these cosplays to achieve character accuracy and ultimately bring the characters to life so I can't help but feel proud looking at all the cosplays and love them equally.
🔺 Lastly, how do you feel about client’s expectations of female cosplays having to be provocative and sexy?
Micho: Based on my experience, not all local clients expect female cosplayers to be provocative and sexy. In fact, sometimes they prefer it to be less revealing.
However, in the male-dominated gaming industry, female characters were often sexualized to appeal to male fans. Whenever clients requested and expected for sexy female cosplays or assume that they are costumed escorts and fetish models dressing up for benefits, it does make me uncomfortable and disappointed.
In reality, many fans started cosplaying to express their love for the characters and while sexy cosplays are sometimes inevitable due to the characters being created that way, it does not give anyone the right to assume her intention or to take advantage of her.
I always try my best to educate others to promote respect to cosplayers as creative talents instead of fetish models.
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This is part of an ongoing series in conjunction with the International Women's Month to highlight female gamers, whom we truly believe should be celebrated for pursuing their dreams fearlessly in a male-dominated industry.
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