“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
Something I’ve been working on lately is practicing to be more proactive and mindful in my response towards what happens in my life rather than being a passive reactive participant.
I’ve first heard this quote during an argument with my family member and the quote was read to me with good intentions. At the time I was too ticked off to truly understand the meaning and thought the person to be condescending and trying to place undue blame on me.
At the time I did not understand by being a passive reactive participant to upsetting stimulus I was actually putting myself in a torturous prison of my own emotions. Being proactive and mindful isn’t the same as saying whatever awful things that happen to you is your fault. I mean you by all means could 100% be the victim. It does however let you tap into the true reasons of why you’re feeling the way you are and allow you to think in the space between stimulus and response and about the fruitfulness of your reactions. It also allows you to more effectively communicate your feelings in a constructive non- destructive manner and drastically increase the chances of you actually achieving a win-win outcome. It will no longer be just you blowing steam off yet not achieving the real end goal of bringing happiness to you and the person you’re arguing with.
Lastly there’s no book more interesting to each of us than a book that talks about us right? Think of it as a self experimental study each time - stay curious, and observe the space, observe the responses ❤️ Could be fun don’t you think?
英文寫太長了啦夭壽
你們有沒有過發完火之後
超級後悔自己的所作所為
想把話回收的?
來來來有什麼經驗可以歡迎分享🤣
其實呢,
我小時候是個很不乖很公主病的孩子。
爸媽除了會為了成績罵人
還有很嚴厲的門禁
跟不准菸酒之外
對其他生活的要求很少說不。
想買什麼吃什麼去哪裡玩
其實都很寵著我。
雖然不敢在家裡造次
但是在外面小時候是個小惡霸🐑
脾氣很差如果朋友不依著我會抓狂😱
國中開始打工之後
陸續遇到很多很好的人
讀了很多很好的書
還有身邊的朋友都是
不離不棄從小學到大學畢業
都在身旁默默幫助著我改變
讓我知道我行我素
讓情緒驅使其實會傷害到很多人。
不知道大家有沒有聽過這句話?
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
發生了什麼壞事有可能不是我們的錯。
但是在發生的事與
我們做出反應中間有個空間,
在這個心靈的空間裡面
有著我們選擇建設性的反應
或是把我們自己鎖在心靈監牢的權利
在我們的反應裡我們可以成長
也會得到渴望的心靈的自由。
我們有可能百分百是受害者,
也有可能是別人百分百對不起我們
不體貼我們
對我們沒禮貌等等
別人怎麼對我們怎麼樣我們無法控制
但是我們怎麼去在發生的事
與反應中間的心靈空間裡
思考以及選擇我們的反應
是我們完全可以控制的。
絕對不是說不能難過不能生氣
只是可以開始比較注意跟省思
為什麼自己會對某些事情選擇某種反應?
了解之後也可以比較接受負面情緒
與這些負面情緒找到最好的共處方法
也可能會進而漸漸的發覺
我們對某些反應特別大
是因為我們加註在他人的行為上的一些
自我本身的包袱,標籤,與偏見
在驅使著我們。
同一個人的行為
在不同人的眼光裡反應百百種。
在自己的心靈空間裡想一下,
為什麼自己的反應會是如此是很有趣的!
如果有本關於你自己的破解密碼的書
你會不會很想看?
每個人都有打開這本書大看特看的力量。
了解自己可以越不被情緒影響工作
影響生活
影響人際關係
跟剝奪自己舒服過一天的權利。
了解自己
最受惠的不是別人
是我們自己。
當然啦~
說的比做得簡單
還是得繼續加油
森七七的時候還是會內心一堆三字經
不然就是和朋友大肆吐苦水
然後冷靜完才會花時間
去讀一下關於自己這本書🤣
慢慢來💪
一起加油吧!
#怎麼感覺往出家的路邁進
#誰發火完有後悔過的舉手
#很感謝很衰老是不會對我說教等我想通的朋友們🤣
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victim meaning 在 Firdaus Wong Wai Hung Facebook 的最佳解答
KENYAN PROVERB:
When elephants fight, it is the grass that gets hurt.
MEANING:
Fights of the powerful hurt only the little guys.
MORAL OF THE PROVERB:
When the scholar differ, the public will be the victim. When politician clashes, it is the public who will be a victim.
If you among those who are consider powerful, think before you act because your action will not hurt you much except your ego but it will hurt the majority public who look up on YOU!
victim meaning 在 9bulan10hari Facebook 的最佳貼文
ABANG.... SAYA TAK BUAT BUAT..... ia sebenarnya SILENT KILLER yang boleh membunuh isteri abang =(
Mesti mommy dah baca kisah Cikgu Siti Rohana yang baru 3 hari habis pantang 44 hari... & dijumpai tak bernyawa di atas katil manakala anaknya yang berusia 48 hari & 19 bulan berada di sisi =(
Punca kematian disebabkan paru paru berair & masalah jantung.
...Continue ReadingBrother.... I didn't do it..... it's actually a silent killer that can kill my wife =(
Surely mommy has read the story of teacher siti rohana who has only been 3 days after confinement for 44 days... & found not alive in bed while her 48-day-old and 19-Month-old child is on the side =(
The cause of death due to watery lungs & heart problems.
For the case of the late... we don't know what's going on... only that we know the late is complaining about her husband.
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Good... this story has nothing to do with the late... it's only more to give awareness to husbands & wives that their form is extraordinary in confinement.....
The meaning of tiredness for a woman is not just the tiredness that a husband has passed.. What else when she just gave birth normally or czer.... movement is limited.. her emotions are mixed with baur plus the feeling that is trying to be strong even though weak...
Know... it's wrong if....:
1. Confinement alone..
2. Confinement & managing everything alone...
3. Abstain if husband is not only do not take it to know but hurt...
4. Confinement in a place that disturbing emotions & thoughts...
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Please tell this to the husband... so that he also understands what you are going through:
During abstinence... where to take care of the wound after giving birth.. Jalan slammed reserve... Stone Stone (Rahim) that was berdenyut2, before shrinking & went up to the original place... by wanting to throw away the big water, the pain is afraid of tear & then constipation... Not mixed with milk swelling... the midwife is cut to remove milk.. Allah is very sick...
It's time to rest at night.. the child cried asking for milk... the husband slept and didn't help.. where with the milk didn't come out.. where with the czer wounds that are waiting for the time can be opened again if the wrong way..... plus stress With the cry of the child that makes mom confused... the yellow fever is not lacking... forced to be forced with people here to try that & this... & finally the child is vomiting & sick....
When I eat the wrong drink.. My veins hurt... one body is weak.. Blood comes out with an orgasm.. feels like there's someone who came out of the vagina... Allah... the uterus fell & almost came out....
This is just a few % of what pregnant mothers go through that makes her not only her... can even act cruel to herself & child without her self-conscious.... =(
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Husband & wife need to be alert that the form of pulmonary embolism is one of the silent murderers when women are in confinement =(
" Pulmonary Disease Disease (Frozen blood in the blood channel to the lungs) is one of the main causes that causes the death of pregnant mothers and during the confinement period which is 6 weeks after giving birth. This incident rarely happens yet, it can cause the death of a sudden victim " - Dr. Mardiana kipli m. D (Unimas) - Expert and Gynecology expert.
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Bad news - when... all women who are pregnant and also in the period of confinement are exposed to get disease disease disease because your blood is thicker than usual.
And, the risk of getting a pulmonary embolism during pregnancy becomes higher if you are:
1. Age more than 35 years old
2. Have children more than 2 people
3. Paralyzed and can't move straight over 3 days
4. Weight Over 80 kg or more than 30 kg / m2
5. Undergoing surgery surgery
6. Long-distance flights over 4 hours
Dehydrated
7. Ever got frozen blood disease before pregnant or on the content first
8. Blood spilled during birth (OVER 1 Liter)
9. Pregnant with twins.
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Must be among mommy who has been through this sign, right? & make it light because I am afraid of husband & people around say it isn't it?
Not only you... but there are many women out there who 'keep' themselves sick & finally get to the hospital in fainted.. in a coma & some are not alive anymore.
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Say you experience signs like this when it contains & abstain PLEASE TELL HUSBAND & MEET DOCTOR SOON...
1. Feet and pain on the calf (usually one foot only)
2. Hard to breathe
3. Chest pain
4. Bleeding cough
5. Pulse is so fast
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That's why since pregnant mommy's emotions need to be taken care of.... afraid of being carried away until confinement =((for those who already have the book of @[151329642013884:274:9bulan10hari]... ask husband to refer to page 53-55... about the role of husband when wife Pregnant & listen to the expert in documentary video...-may it help husband understand the condition of the wife facing this change)
Confinement 44 days.... 100 days.. 6 MONTHS & 2 years... there is a reason.... (page 132).
Wearing socks... avoid sleeping in the air conditioner there is a reason....
My hand.. Herbal Shower... Massage.... There's a reason.... (page 135-138)
Don't make all your own work... ask husband to make it.. say husband BZ ask for family please... say BZ too.. then take CL / midwife to take care of mommy.
Avoid eating pelik2 during confinement.. refer to the confinement food set on page 140.
Don't be alone when abstain.... if you feel like someone whisper '.. quickly install Surah Ruqyah at home....
For Mommy.. Yes.. of course we make our husband happy & try to do the best for the family... but know.. if mommy is healthy... then the children will be happy too.... =)
Think good... do good things.. Insyaallah everything will be fine...
Source: #9 Bulan10hari & mmgazette.com
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