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Masa awal aku kahwin dengan isteri aku, aku dapat pakej 4 orang anak. Alhamdulillah. Yang mana 2 daripada 4 ni istimewa sikit. Dua-dua aspergers. Sorang ADD sorang lagi ADHD. Paling mencabar sekali tau tak apa? Anak-anak ni sebelum kehadiran aku, diorang ni di manjakan betul. Cukup manja! Semua nak, dapat. Tak boleh kena tegur, mesti menaangis dan membentak. 3 lelaki, sorang perempuan. Masa tu umur yang sulung 14 tahun. Yang second 12 tahun...
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When I married my wife, I got a package of 4 children. Thank God. Which 2 of the 4 is a little special. Both aspergers. Another ADD another ADHD. It's most challenging to know it's okay? These kids before my presence, they are being pampered right. Pretty spoiled! All want, got it. Can't be told, must cry and snap. 3 men, a woman. At that time the eldest was 14 years old. The second 12 years old. Third 9 years old. Fourth of 6 years old girl.
First time entering the family, I've had a meeting done. With gangster style, long hair braids. I'm doing a LIVE FB meeting with children. In the meeting, I just entered the family, so follow my rules. I don't follow their rules.
At the beginning, many people who are nearest have started tripping and spreading stories, not saying that I will hit the kids. The swing bowl is right who reads people from this person's use.
Remember the early marriage, my wife always reminds me of me. If these kids promise anything they need to be fulfilled, they will cry badly and scream. Hard to persuade. Sometimes I want to break my breath and cry. The other one is ADHD if he cries, he can't be angry, he has to say it carefully. Because later he will be raging and coming hyper. The one who added is his own attitude. It's just his problem that he doesn't take the port. The eldest is the most pamper. Ask for whatever the confirmation gets. After that it's urgent to work.
I really don't feel like I'm suitable at all. What should I do? Wash his mother first. My wife cried when she washed her first. I said it's simple. I don't want my son to grow up to die and get everything he wants to wear. Nothing, tomorrow won't be given, he rebel like going crazy.
Everything that my wife says can't do, I prove it to my wife, everything that she thinks is wrong. I made it. I didn't see anyone doing what my wife said. I just tried to bring MCD, then I parked at the Tomyam shop. Look at all the faces that are slammed. But no one is crying.
That's where it all started. Until one part I saw my wife still wrongly. I said it's simple.
′′ Want something big, need a big sacrifice. If you maintain like this, it's too wrong that you have to follow all your child's wishes, you're afraid to say NO and then you're crying and tired of your brother Trust me. Just like this, you'll lose your brother. Choose. ′′ ′′
Hah my wife was shaking at that time.
Yes, it's not easy to fight the mother's instinct. I really understand. But have to remember, you want to be sad until when you just want to entertain the extreme motherhood instincts? How do you want your child to grow up? What's he doing today, he's already big tomorrow. You're poor, he asks for something you can't fulfill. You think he got it? That's the wrong time he just said this sentence.
′′ Why is my mom not like someone else's mom. It's okay. I am not important ′′
Heart was shaking at that time. He didn't tell me 100 times, once didn't let him release such a painful sentence?
I'm nothing, kids like this even more men, have to grow up to be men. Not a bapok, not a Kpop. Man. The world will come far more evil. Responsibility is far bigger. It is compulsory to grow up to be a man. I repeat.
MEN.
That's when my wife slowly became a mad mother. Kah kah kah. The kids were shocked at that time. Suddenly mom is good at screaming? Suddenly mom is good at tunjal head? Suddenly mom is good at slapping? Suddenly mom dares to throw her phone against the wall?
Most power if a child I say near her mother,
′′ Mom doesn't love me, I hate mom.."
If my wife used to hear this verse, she will feel sinful and crying. Now you know what my wife answer?
′′ Once you hate me, 100 times I hate you.."
Stunned again child. Feels like the tactical of playing sentiment is not going to be. Continue to continue doing homework.
After that the scene of running away from the middle of the night, haa my wife is already cuak. Look for me to tell my child to run home. Cleaning up the bag. If you're as a mother, are you rocking? 10-year-olds when they were running home. Other siblings are busy trying not to run away, they insist on running.
I told my wife I'm happy je.
′′ Do not persuade. Just ask him to run the house faster. Go help her pack the bag. Do not worry. I used to threaten my mother like this when I was small. When my mother is stupid, I stay outside for a while and then I will go home because it's scary outside the dark.. if you persuade, don't run away, believe Tomorrow he's busy threatening to run again."
My wife went down and asked her to leave her house faster. This kid won't go out after opening the door. Look at the dark outside. He immediately opened the saji headscarf, making him hungry. It's so hard to look at it.
Want to turn into a Lion, it looks evil. Many will talk about this. You say you don't love your children. If this part is not strong, it will be stupid to be eaten by these words. But you have to believe one thing. This mother and father knows her child better than all of you. He knows so much. Know which limit he can make or not. We who watch from outside don't pretend to teach other people's children, teach our own children first to let go. Look at our children today he appreciate us how.
I was worst being criticized at that time.
He said since my wife married me, my wife's attitude has changed. Getting harder. Fierce with the kids. And many more lah. I'm lazy to take a port. The one who speaks is a woman who has never tasted anything. Work is great. So bored listening to it. But I'm cooking so much, it's normal that the sound of this person's confirmation since childhood has never lived hard, the child and the one that is like diva is usually the same. Just deaf the ear. Focus on the mission for the good of the child to come.
After 3 years, I recently had a meeting with all my children. I ask, did you notice that mom used to be different from now?
All bobbing. Getting more ferocious and crazy people say.
I'm so happy to hear. Let go of that I said.
′′ Try all of you to look back at this day. What's the difference? Neno 8 years old can be brushed by school clothes. Already able to wipe Ayra out. Luth 10 years can wash everyone's dishes. Hoze is the most improvement. From my own world today, you are the most helping to work in your house. 13 years old, washing clothes, hanging clothes, sleeping ayraa, bathing ayraa. And many more. Anish, you are the eldest brother. Thank God. No more pushy. See you already understand the reality of being a brother. Every morning sitting in the kitchen helping mom cook.. that's okay. Proud for a while Dedi. Dedi is nothing, you ask Dedi's siblings if they are rude to his mother, what happens to them. Must eat Dedi's feet. You become a son, you have to be a protector to your mother. Don't make it a slave mother."
All sighs. I'm connecting again.
′′ Do you know why this Seremban house Dedi doesn't install air conditioner near Indeed Dedi doesn't let mom install air conditioner. Let me sleep hot. Learning how to use a fan. Dedi used to grow up but never sleeps in air conditioner, thank God I grew up healthy. Dedi wants anything can't just get like that. So men have to learn how to feel hard. So that tomorrow, you will learn to be grateful. I will remember your parents when they are happy. You'll be close to siblings, tomorrow this is what you'll laugh back when you tell the story. Trust me. All of these are the sweetest memories. Mother and father don't know when will die. Maybe tomorrow we die, at least Anish can take care of the younger siblings."
Everyone was laughing at that time. My eldest child will interrupt in a while.
′′ Dedi, but honestly Anish likes the current mother from mother before. Even though it's fierce, but it's true when I remember it again. All of us are good at all. I just noticed that someone else is 8 years old but doesn't even know how to take care of the baby who is a year old and shower and defecate. Luth has changed a lot. No more crying. Hardworking. Hoze has changed a lot of crazy. Playing with the phone. There's only one problem, when you have a relative, you can come, don't sit in the Just sit down once. Anyway, I swear, Anish loves the mother who was now from the old times. Even though the current mother is crazy saiko! Haha. Mom, you are Queen Of My Heart! Mother is crazy, before Anish didn't understand a lot. When Anish sees mom struggle, Anish becomes a pity. Just saw all the sacrifices of the mother for all of us."
Others bobbing heads agree and laugh with what brother anish he said.
All impressed when I remember back. Until neno's turn, she keeps crying. She really apologizes near her mom.
The most powerful, they are siblings when their aunt wants to ask them to come out. Each one has completed the job of who managed his / her sister's clothes this year, who will beat his / her younger sibling's pampers, who will manage his / her sister's pampers. All of them think for themselves. Talk to each other and manage the equipment of his little brother who is a year old. No need to have a mother with her dedi.
Power, isn't it? Two Aspergers, an ordinary person. The eldest has entered MRSM. It means that the number two child of ADD is taking over.
Even when I'm going back to hometown, my wife just gave me an order. They all clean up their own bags. My wife doesn't even mix a single dust. My wife looks like a big boss today. All homeworks are managed by the child. My wife's duty is to cook. Wash clothes, dry clothes, wash dishes, wash toilets, throw away garbage, shower ayra for a year, all the kids who manage it.
If I don't move, I won't let my wife shout out to other children. But mad at the eldest child. Let the eldest child be stressed. Whatever happened to the younger siblings, I told her mother to kill her eldest child. So when the younger siblings aren't working, fighting, the eldest brother already knows that he needs to be tiaw with his mother later. Didn't say much, he just settled his younger siblings. That's it brother!
Thank God. The story is only one. Our children, we know each other. There's a part of being fierce, there's a part that needs to be There's a part that can laugh. This mother has one veto power, but many are afraid to use it because she is not in other s' language and is so afraid that her child will hate It doesn't mean anything! It's boring to entertain the sentiment of pity that is extreme. You used to be your mother who hit your face, do you hate your mother to big? Nothing. We're fierce because we just want to educate. Not fierce all the time. More than firm. When you see your child hardworking, listen to it, there's a day that will give you a surprise Chocolate or what? Taking a walk to the park. Time with family has to be there.
If you're too spoiled, you can make your child become responsible and the person who will defend your family, I think that the Malay soldiers won't even be training hard as hard as possible. It's better for them to just pray for all the new soldiers. What do you want, everything is given. Wake up late, swipe your hair and then kiss your forehead. Even eating time is delicious. Sleeping at night comfortably, installing air conditioner. Put on the wifi.
What was it?
Before you want to say this person, ask ourselves first. Our 7-year-old child eats, is he good at washing his own dishes? Do you know how to follow your time schedule? Can you brush your own school clothes?
If you're not good at anything, don't make me feel bad about the way other father's mother educate someone's child.
The hardest episode in educating children at this age. Believe me, this will all be a longing for the kids when they leave the house later. And this also makes them siblings get closer.
Patience, victory day is coming! Early sacrifice is the most important. Fight all the wrong feelings that always play in the soul. Only one thing you have to remember, as long as you don't fight with religion. Mom is never wrong! Angry, fierce lah. Do not worry. Continue to educate our ways. Don't forget the power of Veto!
Eh forgot, waimah is a special child. What the doctor said put number two. Accompanying kids like normal kids before but there's a limit. Don't teach him to be a special child since you were young. We know our children again, right? Because I always believe, crazy people when we clap their hands twice when they want to take our food, the third time they will understand and won't take it anymore. That's the crazy person. So, Don't let the child know he's special. Don't disturb her brain. Just entertaining the same thing.
Everyone is like that. If he feels like there are advantages, there is someone who defends more, he will start to get a chance. Can't believe it? You try to pamper your child crazy. Let go of the try in front of you, someone tease him less, you see how he has torn to tears later he will get your attention.
Anyway..
Only one thing I'm still failing. Failed to change their name call among siblings. No call Along, Angah, Bangde. I feel strongly, calling this name also has a certain advantage to put the difference between the younger brother and brother. There is a family aura.
Don't forget, Father's role in psychology is important to be crazy. Because with this mother, no matter how fierce it is, the child is brave to fight. Dad must be good at playing roles. No need to touch, you need to know when you want to have a high voice. When you want to call your child, sit down and talk about others.
Become a child idol.
Trust me, step child and biological child two things that are impossible. Because the power of VETO only exists in biological children. This step child has a risk that you need to face. What happened to them, people will say that you don't love them because it's not your biological child. Painful and sad that sentence is for me. Allah knows how I love them.
I wrote it,
Mr Amir Lake
P / s: In the past my wife was criticized by the Aspie group when my wife said she educated her aspie's child in the way she was a little firm. All sorts of people are teasing, he said that this aspie child will take revenge and kill him. Have to be teased every day. Poor. My wife doesn't agree with my actions early because she holds the doctor's order. Today, I'm asking my child aspie. Tomorrow if mom gets disturbed by someone else in front of you what will you do? What did he answer? I'll hit him enough! And I asked my wife, how about the person who teased her child? He said his child is under control but sometimes he's raging badly until he's about to breath. At the same time today my child aspie is good at cooking, can do all homework and love his siblings so much.
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APAKAH MASIH ADA MASA HADAPAN BUAT PARTI KERAMAT INI?
Sedikit catatan perkongsian.
Saya masih ingat lagi bagaimana saya bergelut dengan diri sendiri ketika mahu membuat keputusan yang besar dalam hidup saya, iaitu menyertai politik dan menyertai parti Bersatu.
Saya menyoal banyak perkara. Adakah saya sesuai menjadi seorang ahli politik? Adakah saya sanggup melondehkan jubah akademia saya dan turun bergulat di bawah menghadapi pelbagai tikam belakang, tawar-menawar, caci-maki dalam kerancuan dunia politik yang lebih menjanjikan kekhilafan berbanding kebenaran?
Apa yang menyebabkan saya didorong untuk menyertai politik dan Bersatu adalah suasana politik tanah air yang dilanda kemelut yang kronik waktu itu.
Tatkala dunia mengenali Malaysia kerana salah guna kuasa dan penyelewengan perbendaharaan negara oleh sesetengah individu, negara bagaikan memanggil-manggil warganya yang sedar untuk bersama merubah keadaan tersebut.
Sebagai warga akademia yang dididik untuk berdiri di atas fakta, idealisme dan kejituan moral, saya merasakan telah sampai waktunya untuk saya mula menterjemahkan segala teori dan idealisme yang sering dimuntahkan ke minda para penuntut lewat kuliah-kuliah ke dalam realiti.
Dilema yang menguliti jiwa menemui penawarnya apabila saya bertemu dengan Tun Dr Mahathir, dan seterusnya saya bertemu pula dengan Tan Sri Muhyiddin Yassin. Kedua-dua tokoh ini mempunyai tempat yang istimewa di dalam hati saya sehingga kini.
Saya merupakan moderator pertama forum Tun (yang bukan sebagai ahli UMNO lagi) di depan khalayak awam di Pasir Gudang Johor.
Setelah itu, saya sering diundang untuk menjadi moderator forum-forum Tun yang dianjurkan oleh pelbagai pihak sekitar 2016-2017. Bercakap depan-depan dengan Tun adalah momen yang paling saya tak boleh lupa. Saya masih ingat pesan Tun waktu itu,
“Kita kena selamatkan negara Malaysia dari kleptokrat. Dulu Malaysia dikenali dunia kerana kemajuannya dan kehebatannya, kini dikenali kerana rasuah.
Di samping itu kita sebagai orang Melayu wajib menyelamatkan survival orang Melayu. Apa akan jadi dengan masa depan orang Melayu jika budaya rasuah, salah guna kuasa dan politik wang ini menjadi normal tanpa ada langsung orang yang bersuara menentangnya?”
Jelas di wajah Tun yang di senja usia itu keresahan dan kegelisahan memikirkan nasib politik orang Melayu.
Selain itu, saya tak boleh lupa pesan Tan Sri ketika saya bertemu dengan beliau (lama dulu, sebelum PRU14). Saya juga merasa bersyukur kerana menjadi moderator pertama forum awam beliau di Johor Bahru sejurus beliau dibuang dari UMNO.
Setahun selepas peristiwa tersebut, saya telah mengambil keputusan untuk menyertai Bersatu, dan telah diberikan peluang untuk bertemu dengan Tan Sri. Antara kata-kata Tan Sri yang begitu terkesan di dalam jiwa saya;
“Kita perlukan wajah ahli politik baru untuk membentuk budaya politik yang baharu. Kita perlu wujudkan budaya baharu politik Bersatu.”
Kemudian saya cermati satu persatu tentang penubuhan Bersatu. Bersatu meletakkan batu asas yang sangat kukuh semasa ditubuhkan.
Selain menegakkan Islam, mempertahan kedudukan bumiputera dan bahasa, menjunjung demokrasi, Bersatu berikrar mahu ‘memerangi rasuah dan salah guna kuasa untuk mewujudkan amalan tadbir urus yang baik dan pemerintahan yang bersih, beramanah dan berintegriti.’
Rujuk di laman web Bersatu, Prinsip-prinsip Perjuangan Bersatu: https://www.pribumibersatu.org.my/prinsip.php
Maka berbondong-bondonglah orang menyertai Bersatu. Dari hujung Wang Kelian sampailah luar negara, orang meletakkan harapan yang tinggi kepada Bersatu sebagai ‘fresh start’ budaya politik yang baru.
Semua orang tahu dan sedar bagaimana kerosakan sistem yang telah berlaku sekian lama, skandal-skandal besar dan kes-kes pecah amanah yang luar biasa, segalanya perlahan-lahan terdedah.
Tidak usah pergi jauh, di dalam pendidikan sendiri lihatlah kes projek solar sekolah luar bandar Sarawak yang sudah mula dibicarakan. Perhatikanlah bagaimana pertelingkahan sesama sendiri berlaku oleh watak-watak yang mahu menyelamatkan diri dari didakwa.
Sayang sekali perbicaraan kes itu tidak dapat diselesaikan sebelum PH jatuh. Hari ini, watak yang terlibat secara langsung dengan projek tenaga solar tersebut mendapat jawatan sebagai pengerusi GLC (yang juga berkaitan dengan ‘tenaga’).
Sekiranya ada agamawan pernah berkata, lantiklah menteri-menteri kabinet yang bersih agar menjadi hujah yang kuat kepada kerajaan yang tertubuh,
sekarang bagaimana pula dengan perlantikan watak-watak begini dalam GLC-GLC? Adakah ada hujah agama lain yang perlu disandang pula untuk menjustifikasikan tindakan ini? Jika ada, saya teringin membacanya.
Benar. Bersatu adalah parti yang sangat muda. Tetapi penubuhan Bersatu sangat jelas tujuan dan asasnya. Tentu kita bukanlah parti yang sempurna, parti yang juga punyai kelemahan, tetapi sedikitpun kita tidak pernah tergelincir dari tujuan asal penubuhan parti keramat ini.
Dukung demokrasi, pertahan agama, perkukuh bangsa, dan yang paling penting, ikrar kita untuk terus lawan rasuah, lawan salah guna kuasa dan bina budaya tadbir urus yang baharu, yang berintegriti.
Sekarang, apa yang perlu kita jawab kepada diri kita sendiri apabila budaya ini kembali bermaharajalela di dalam negara kita, di depan mata kita?
Tidakkah terdetik rasa gelisah melihat watak-watak yang kita perangi tindakan mereka dahulu kini kembali mendominasi tanpa sedikitpun rasa malu dan bersalah?
Mereka inilah yang merupakan Raison d'etre (sebab kewujudan) Bersatu. Bersatu diwujudkan untuk menggantikan mereka, untuk memberikan alternatif kepada politik lama, politik korupsi kepada politik baru yang pernah diilhamkan nama sebagai budaya Bersatu.
Di atas niat murni ini jugalah saya menyertai Bersatu dan menceburkan diri ke dalam politik.
Saya perlu ucapkan terima kasih kepada ahli MPT Bersatu, Dato Dr Rais Husin yang telah Berjaya menyempurnakan penyertaan saya ke dalam parti yang saya cintai ini. Mac 2018 merupakan tarikh keramat dalam hidup saya apabila saya menyertai Bersatu secara rasmi.
Sejujurnya, saya masih kabur melihat arah tuju perjalanan parti ini dikala ini. Ketika kita (Bersatu) menjadi komponen penting dalam PH dahulu. Identiti kita jelas, orang Melayu berlindung di rumah Bersatu dalam PH sementara kaum lain boleh berlindung di rumah lain dan kita cuba hidup seadil yang mungkin (walaupun kadangkala kita tergigit lidah).
Pergeseran dalaman adalah lumrah politik, persoalannya ialah bagaimanakah kita menguruskan konflik dan perbezaan.
Apabila Bersatu dibawa keluar dan menyertai PN lewat hujung Februari yang lalu, saya mula bertanya, masih relevan lagikah identiti yang Bersatu bawa, iaitu untuk menjadi parti alternatif orang Melayu dan menggantikan UMNO? Masih terpakaikah lagi idealisme yang diperjuangkan selama ini?
Jika Bersatu akhirnya hanya mengikut arus yang sama, mula bercampur dengan mereka yang membawa budaya politik yang dulu kita berikrar untuk perangi, apologetik dan merasa tak bersalah pula bersama dengan mereka yang pernah kita kalahkan kerana kerakusan wang dan kuasa yang jelas berlaku di depan mata, di manakah lagi rasionalnya keperluan parti kita untuk orang Melayu?
Akhirnya, orang Melayu, anak muda, generasi masa depan yang mempunyai harapan untuk melihat budaya politik baharu, seakan kelam dan hilang.
Impian pengundi-pengundi yang pulang mengundi 9 Mei 2018 dengan tekad untuk membentuk Malaysia Baharu, gugur dan retak.
Apakah masih masa hadapan untuk parti keramat kita ini?
Hal ini semakin merunsingkan saya terutamanya apabila UMNO dan BN hanya menerima kerajaan PN sehingga menjelang PRU15 sahaja.
Majlis Tertinggi UMNO telah memutuskan bahawa mereka melalui Muafakat Nasional akan menggempur semua kerusi-kerusi yang dipertandingkan oleh Bersatu dan sekutu Bersatu di dalam PRU 15 nanti. Perikatan Nasional hanyalah hubungan sementara bagi UMNO.
UMNO yang sepatutnya digantikan kewujudan mereka dengan Bersatu di dalam hati orang-orang Melayu tanah air ini.
Di kala itu, sekiranya kita tidak melakukan apa-apa, soalan saya, di manakah kedudukan Bersatu?
Ke PH tidak, ke Muafakat Nasional pun tidak. Kita menjadi pihak ketiga yang paling marginal berhadapan dengan dua blok PH dan Muafakat Nasional pada PRU15 nanti.
Apakah nasib Bersatu pada waktu itu nanti?
Apakah masih ada masa hadapan buat parti keramat ini?
YB Dr Maszlee Malik
Ahli MPT Bersatu
13 Mei 2020
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IS THERE STILL A FUTURE FOR THIS PARTY?
Just something to share.
I can still remember how I had struggled with myself when I made the major life decision of joining politics and joining the party Bersatu.
I questioned many things at that time. Was I fit to be a politician? Would I be able to take off my academic robe and instead roll around with backstabbing, bargaining, and insults in the political world which promises more deceit than truth?
What drove me to be involved in politics and Bersatu was the political atmosphere of the country that was plagued by the chronic turmoil of the time.
As the world knew Malaysia for the misuse of power and financial mismanagement by certain individuals, the nation seemed to be calling on its citizens to wake up and change the situation.
As an academic trained to stand on facts, idealism and moral fastidiousness, I felt that it was time for me to begin actualising all the theories and idealisms that were frequently conveyed to the minds of students through lectures.
My soul-searching dilemma found its antidote when I met Tun Dr Mahathir, and then I met Tan Sri Muhyiddin Yassin next. Both figures continue to hold a special place in my heart to this day.
I happened to be the first moderator of Tun’s forum (who was no longer a UMNO member then) attended by the people in Pasir Gudang Johor.
After that, I was often invited to be the moderator of Tun’s forums organised by various parties circa 2016-2017. Holding a face-to-face conversation with Tun was truly a moment that I will never forget. I still remember Tun's sage words at that time,
“We have to save Malaysia from the kleptocrats. Malaysia used to be known for its progress and its glory, now only known for its corruption.
Besides, as Malays we must ensure the survival of the Malays. What will be the future of the Malays if the culture of corruption, abuse of power and money politics becomes the norm without anyone speaking out against it?"
It was clear that Tun, in the twilight of age, was fraught with worry and anxiety thinking about the political fate of the Malays.
Also, I could not forget Tan Sri's words when I met him (long ago, even before the 14th General Election). I was also the first moderator of his public forum in Johor Bahru immediately after his removal from UMNO.
A year after the event, I decided to join Bersatu, and was given the opportunity to meet Tan Sri. Among Tan Sri’s remarks that left a deep impact on me;
“We need new faces to shape a new political culture. We need to create a new culture of Bersatu politics.”
I scrutinised the establishment of Bersatu, bit by bit. Bersatu had a very solid foundation when it was set up.
In addition to upholding Islam, upholding the position of bumiputera and language, upholding democracy, Bersatu pledges to 'fight corruption and abuse of power to create good governance and a clean, trustworthy and integrity-based government.'
You may refer to Bersatu website for the party’s principles: https://www.pribumibersatu.org.my/prinsip.php
From then on, a substantial number of people had joined Bersatu. From Wang Kelian to abroad, the people placed their high hopes on Bersatu as the 'fresh start' to a new political culture.
Everyone was aware how damaging the system had been for so long, the major scandals and the outrageous cases of breach of trust, all slowly unfolding.
No need to go too far for examples. Within education itself, you can see the case of the Sarawak rural school solar energy project that is already on trial. Just observe how the persons in question are quarrelling with one another simply to save themselves from prosecution.
It is truly unfortunate that the trial could not be completed before PH fell. Today, the person who was directly involved in the solar energy project is getting the chairmanship of a GLC (which is also related to 'energy').
If a religious figure had once said, appoint clean cabinet ministers to be the strength of the established government,
now what about the appointment of these characters in GLCs? Is there another religious argument that will be brought forth to justify this action? If indeed there is, I'd love to read about it.
True. Bersatu is a very young party. But the establishment of Bersatu was very clear in its purpose and basis. Of course we are not a perfect party, we are a party that has weaknesses, but at least we have never slipped from the original purpose of this party’s establishment.
To uphold democracy, to defend religion, to strengthen the nation, and most importantly, our commitment to continue our fight against corruption, abuse of power, and the building of a new culture of governance, with integrity.
Now, how do we answer ourselves when the same culture is back in our country, before our very eyes?
Do we not feel anxious seeing the persons whose actions we had fought against in the past are now dominating the scene once again without any shame and guilt?
They are the raison d’etre Bersatu was formed. Bersatu was established to replace them, to provide an alternative to the old, corrupt politics, bringing about the new politics that was once envisaged as the Bersatu culture.
It was for this higher purpose that I had joined Bersatu and entered politics.
I would like to thank the Bersatu MPT, Dato Dr Rais Husin who had successfully finalised my registration as a member in this beloved party. March 2018 was the blessed day of my life when I officially joined Bersatu.
To be honest, at this juncture the direction of the party is still a blur to me. When we (Bersatu) were an important component of PH previously, our identity was clear, the Malays could take refuge in the home of Bersatu within PH while other ethnicities could take refuge in other homes and we tried to live together as fairly as possible (although sometimes we did bite our tongues).
Internal disputes are a norm in politics, the question is how do we handle conflicts and differences.
When Bersatu was taken out and had joined PN at the end of February, I started asking, is the identity that Bersatu carries still relevant, that is to become an alternative party for the Malays to replace UMNO? Is the idealism that we fought for still applicable?
If Bersatu eventually follows the same trend, begins to mix with those who bear the political culture we had once vowed to fight, becomes apologetic and guiltless to be with those we had defeated in the past simply because of greed for money and power clearly happening before our own eyes, then where is the rationale of the need for our party for the Malays?
In the end, the Malays, the youth, the future generation who had hopes to see a new political culture, seem to be in the dark and lost.
The dream of the voters who returned to vote on May 9, 2018 with the determination to build Malaysia Baharu, collapses and crashes.
Is there still a future for our beloved party?
I find it especially disturbing to know that UMNO and the BN have accepted the PN government only until the GE15.
The UMNO Supreme Council has decided that they, through Muafakat Nasional, will assail all the seats contested by Bersatu and allies of Bersatu in the coming GE15. Perikatan Nasional is only a temporary relationship for UMNO.
This is the same Umno whose existence in the hearts of Malays in this country should have been replaced by Bersatu.
So, if we do nothing, then my question is, where will Bersatu stand?
With PH we are not, with Muafakat Nasional we are not either. We will be the third most marginalised party to face the two blocks of PH and Muafakat Nasional in the GE15.
When that time comes, what would the fate of Bersatu be?
Is there any future for this party?
YB Dr Maszlee Malik
MPT member, Bersatu
13 May 2020
age is just a number young at heart 在 Patchai Pakdeesusuk Facebook 的最讚貼文
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ผมไม่เชื่อว่ามนุษย์จะทำได้ทุกอย่าง
แม้เชื่อว่าถ้ามีวินัยและความพยายาม มนุษย์สามารถทำในสิ่งที่ดูเหมือนเป็นไปไม่ได้กระทั่งสำเร็จ แต่ก็ไม่คิดว่าคนคนหนึ่งจะทำทุกอย่างได้ดีในเวลาเดียวกัน
หนึ่งเรื่องที่ทุ่มเท เรากำลังแลกกับหนึ่งเรื่องที่ปล่อยมือไป
งานจึงช่วงชิงเวลาจากความสัมพันธ์ การหาความรู้จึงยื้อยุดเวลากับการออกกำลังกาย เฮฮากับเพื่อนฝูงจึงแย่งเวลากับห้วงสงบเมื่ออยู่ตามลำพัง
เรามัก 'เห็น' คนที่ทำสิ่งหนึ่งสิ่งใดได้ดี เพราะเมื่อทำได้ดีแสงสปอร์ตไลท์จะจับจ้องไปที่ตัวเขา ผู้คนในสื่อจำนวนมากคือคนที่ประสบความสำเร็จ แต่ที่จริงมีวงเล็บต่อท้ายว่า (ในเรื่องใดเรื่องหนึ่ง) สำหรับบางคนอาจสำเร็จหลายเรื่อง กระนั้นก็มีวงเล็บอยู่ดีว่า (แต่ไม่ใช่ทุกเรื่องในชีวิตหรอก)
เพราะหนึ่งความสำเร็จนั้นแลกมาด้วยการยอมเสียอะไรไปบางอย่าง สิ่งที่เขาเสียไปเราอาจไม่เห็นและไม่รู้
ขณะที่คนที่จัดสมดุลชีวิตได้ดีอาจไม่ใช่คนโดดเด่น เพราะเขาอาจไม่เก่งเป็นที่หนึ่ง แต่เก่งพอประมาณ มีความสุขกับชีวิต และมีเวลากับเรื่องที่ตัวเองอยากทำ รักษาสัมพันธ์ได้กลมกล่อม คนแบบนี้ถ้าให้คะแนนในด้านต่างๆ อาจประมาณ 7 คะแนน แต่ทุกช่องไม่มีต่ำกว่า 7 จึงไม่ค่อยมีใครสนใจเขา
ท่ามกลางการรับรู้ผ่านสื่อ เรามักให้ความสนใจกับคนที่ได้คะแนนเต็ม 10 หรือทะลุไปถึง 15 ในด้านใดด้านหนึ่ง แต่เราไม่มีวันรู้เลยว่าถ้าต้องกรอกคะแนนให้ตัวเองในช่องอื่น เขาจะกรอกคะแนนเท่าไร เป็นไปได้ว่าบางช่องอาจได้แค่ 2 คะแนนจากเต็มสิบ
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เป็นไปได้ไหมว่าการรับรู้เช่นนี้ทำให้เราอาจเป็นคนที่มีคะแนนเต็มสิบอยู่ตลอดเวลา และถ้าเป็นไปได้เราก็อยากเต็มสิบในทุกช่องของชีวิต
งานดี กีฬาเด่น ครอบครัวสุขสันต์ จิตใจสดใส เที่ยวก็ได้ไป หนังก็ได้ดู ดนตรีได้เล่น ดำน้ำลึก ฝึกปีนผา เป็นอาสาเพื่อชุมชน อ่านหนังสือร้อยเล่มต่อปี พูดบาลีคล่อง อ่านสเปนออก จัดดอกไม้เป็น คิดเห็นเป็นนวัตกรรม ก้าวทันเทคโนโลยี มีสตาร์ทอัพยูนิคอร์น สอนลูกให้เก่งกว่าลูกข้างบ้าน เบิกบานเป็นอิสระทางการเงิน ฯลฯ อีกมากมาย
เรานำเอาคุณสมบัติ 'เต็มสิบ' ของทุกคนทุกเรื่องราวที่เสพมาวางไว้บนบ่าตัวเองโดยไม่ได้ตั้งใจ แต่แรงปรารถนานั้นบอกว่าฉันอยากเป็นให้ได้
ความคาดหวังมากมายกับตัวเองอาจนำพาความคาดคั้นเพื่อดึงศักยภาพสูงสุดของเราออกมาในทุกมิติโดยเชื่อว่ายังมีอีก 'หลายก๊อก' ซุกซ่อนอยู่ในตัวเรา ราวน้ำพุไม่มีวันเหือด
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กระนั้น, ความจริงมีอยู่ว่า พลังและเวลาของมนุษย์มีจำกัด
เมื่อทุ่มให้กับอะไรสักอย่างย่อมมีบางอย่างถูกปล่อยปละไป-\-\นี่คือสัจธรรมอันมิอาจเลี่ยง
การพยายามประคับประคองทุกอย่างเอาไว้ด้วยสองมือกับยี่สิบสี่ชั่วโมงที่มีเท่าเดิมมีโอกาสที่จะสร้างบาดแผลในใจให้เกิดขึ้น ยิ่งนานก็ยิ่งบอบช้ำและลงลึก
ผมค่อยๆ เข้าใจผ่านประสบการณ์ปรารถนาฉวยคว้าทุกอย่างไว้และทำให้เต็มที่ที่สุดด้วยคำตอบง่ายๆ กับตัวเองว่า-\-\มึงทำไม่ได้หรอก
ประหลาดแท้! ทันทีที่ยอมรับว่าเราทำทุกอย่างให้เต็มสิบไม่ได้หรอก ทันใดนั้นภูเขายักษ์นาม 'ความคาดหวัง' ก็ไหลหล่นลงจากบ่าหายวับไปกลายเป็น 'ที่ว่าง' ให้ผมเลือกสิ่งที่อยากนำมาวางไว้บนบ่าของตัวเองใหม่
ไม่ใช่ 'ทุกอย่าง' อีกต่อไป แต่เป็นเพียง 'บางอย่าง' ที่สำคัญในช่วงเวลานี้
บางอย่างที่ยังไม่ต้องทำให้สำเร็จตอนนี้ ผมเลื่อนเวลาออกไปก่อน หากต้องกรอกคะแนนมันอาจจะเป็น 0 ในตอนนี้ เช่น หนังสือบางเล่มที่ตั้งใจเขียนให้เสร็จภายในปลายปีนี้ ผมลองพักวางไว้และจะใช้สมาธิตั้งใจเขียนให้จบภายในปีหน้าแทน เมื่อคิดได้ก็เบาใจไปเยอะ
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"ค่อยๆ สำเร็จทีละเรื่อง" คือสิ่งที่ผมได้เรียนรู้ เพราะสำเร็จพร้อมกันทุกเรื่องนั้นกดดันตัวเองเกินไป เรามีชีวิตยืนยาวพอที่จะให้เรา "ค่อยๆ ทำ" ระหว่างน้ันจะได้ใช้เวลาไปกับมิติอื่นในชีวิตไปพร้อมกันด้วย
เมื่อเลือกน้อยสิ่งเราจะใส่ใจและใส่พลังลงไปกับมันได้มากขึ้น สำคัญกว่านั้น, เราจะมองเห็นตัวเองตามความเป็นจริงมากขึ้นว่า "มึงไม่ใช่ซูเปอร์แมน" และที่สำคัญที่สุดคือ-\-\เราไม่ต้องเป็นซูเปอร์แมน
เป็นมนุษย์ธรรมดาๆ ที่เกลี่ยคะแนนชีวิตในช่องต่างๆ ให้มีค่าเฉลี่ยที่น่าพอใจ จากเคยมีช่องที่ได้ 15 เต็มสิบ ก็เกลี่ยมาให้กลายเป็น 7 คะแนน แล้วแบ่งคะแนนไปใส่ช่องที่เคยเป็น 0 หรือ 2 ให้กลายเป็น 7 แทน
คนอาจไม่ปรบมือให้เราหรอก เพราะช่องที่คะแนนเพิ่มขึ้นนั้นอาจไม่มีใครเห็นหรือรับรู้ แต่ตัวเรารับรู้อยู่ด้วยหัวใจที่เป็นสุขขึ้น เสียงหัวเราะของคนรอบตัวที่เรามีเวลาได้ฟังบ่อยขึ้น มิตรภาพที่แน่นแฟ้นกว่าเดิม
ที่สำคัญ, เราไม่รู้สึกกดดันตลอดเวลา ซึ่งจะว่าไปอาจไม่มีใครกดดันเราเลย แต่เป็นตัวเรานั่นเองที่กดดันให้ตัวเองต้องเก่งทุกด้าน ทำทุกสิ่ง และสำเร็จทุกอย่างมากเกินไป
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กระนั้นก็ใช่ว่าการทำเช่นนี้จะไม่ต้องแลกกับอะไรเลย แลกสิครับ แลกเหมือนกัน มันแลกกับการที่กลายเป็นคนที่ไม่สำเร็จมากมาย ไม่โดดเด่นนัก ไม่เป็นซูเปอร์แมน
เรื่องนี้ก็เป็นเรื่องช่วงเวลาของชีวิต บางช่วงของชีวิตเราอาจไม่พร้อมแลก แต่บางช่วงเราก็อาจอยากแลก และไม่อยากเป็นซูเปอร์แมนอีกต่อไปแล้ว
สำหรับผม, ซึ่งผ่านช่วงวัยหนุ่มอันร้อนแรงลุกโชนมาแล้ว, ข้อดีที่สุดของวัยสี่สิบปีคือการยอมให้ตัวเอง 'ไม่ทำ' หรือ 'ไม่สำเร็จ' หรือ 'ไม่เก่ง' บ้างในบางเรื่อง เพื่อใช้เวลาไปกับสิ่งอื่นที่สำคัญไม่น้อยกว่ากัน เช่น ความสงบในใจ การใช้เวลากับพ่อแม่ที่แก่ชราลง และเสียงหัวเราะของเพื่อนเก่าที่เข้าใจกัน
ในวัยหนุ่มกว่านี้ผมชอบตัวเลข 10 และอยากดันตัวเองให้ทะลุไปถึง 11 หรือมากกว่านั้น แต่ในวัยนี้ผมชอบตัวเลข 7 ซึ่งถ้าเป็นคะแนนสอบก็คือ ผ่านมาได้แบบกำลังดี และเมื่อทุกวิชาได้ 7 แล้ว เราก็ไปเน้นในบางวิชาในบางเทอมให้ได้ 10 สักครั้ง ทีละเรื่องก็พอ เท่านี้ก็เป็นชีวิตที่น่าพอใจ
ผมทบทวนเรื่องนี้บ่อยขึ้นเรื่อยๆ ว่า สิ่งที่เรากำลังทุ่มพลังและเวลาให้นั้น เราแลกมันกับอะไร
และมันคุ้มหรือไม่ที่เราจะแลก
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I don't believe humans can do anything.
Even though I believe that if discipline and effort, human beings can do what seems impossible, even succeed, but they don't think one person will do everything well at the same
One dedicated story. We are in exchange for one that let go.
So the job takes time from the relationship. Finding knowledge, so I hold on time with exercise. Fun with friends. So I steal time with peace when they are alone.
We always 'see' people who do something well because when we do well, spotlight will stare at him. Many people in the media are successful people, but in fact, there is a parence (in something) for Some people may accomplish many things. There is a bracket (but not everything in life)
Because one success comes by losing something. What he lost, we may not see and not know.
While a person who balances life well may not be outstanding because he may not be good at first, but moderately, happy with life and have time with what he wants to do. Keep relationship. This kind of person. If you rate in different aspects, it may be approx. 7 POINTS BUT EVERY CHANNEL IS NOT LESS THAN 7 so nobody cares about him.
In the midst of media awareness, we often pay attention to people who score 10 or through 15 on one side. But we never know how much points to fill in other fields, they will fill in other points. It's possible. The channel may only get 2 points out of ten.
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Is it possible that perception like this makes us to be the one with a full ten score all the time? and if possible, we want to be full ten in every channel of
Good work, Sports, happy family, bright mind, you can travel, go to movies, watch music, play scuba diving, practice climbing, volunteer for the community, read a hundred books a year, speak bali fluently, read Spain, arrange flowers as an innovation, move in time for technology Cuddle unicorns teach kids to be better than the kids next door. Cheerful, financially independent, etc.
We bring the 'full ten' qualities of everyone. Every story that I use on my shoulder unintentionally, but the desire says I want to be.
Many expectation with ourselves may bring out our highest potential in every dimension, believing that there are 'many taps' hidden in us. The Fountain will never be seen.
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However, the truth is that human power and time are limited.
When you give to something, something will be released -\-\ this is the cuddle truth that cannot avoid.
Trying to hold everything with two hands and twenty-four hours with the same. There is a chance to create wounds in your heart. The longer it takes, the more traumatized and deep.
I slowly understand through experience, desire, seize everything and do my best with a simple answer to myself -\-\ you can't do it.
So weird! As soon as I admit that we can't do everything to the full ten, suddenly a giant mountain named ' expectation ' fell from my shoulder. Cuddle baht to become ' space '. Let me choose what I want to put on my shoulder.
NOT ' everything ' anymore, but just ' something ' that matters in the moment.
Something that hasn't had to be accomplished. Now I have to postpone the time. If I have to fill out the score, it may be 0 now. Such as some books that I intended to finish writing by the end of this year. I tried cuddle put it and I End of next year instead. When I think about it, it's too light.
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" gradually successful one by one " is what I learned because everything is done together. It's too pressure on ourselves. We live long enough to " slowly do " between cuddle am so that we can spend time with other dimensions in life together.
When we choose less, we will pay more power and put more energy. More important, we will see ourselves in fact that "you are not superman" and the most important thing is -\-\ we don't have to be superman.
I am a normal human being who spreads life in various channels to have a satisfying average. There was a channel that got 15 full of ten, it into 7 points and then divided the points to the channel that used to be 0 OR 2 Let's become 7 instead
People may not applaud us because the channel where the score may not see or know, but we know with a happier heart. The laughter of those around us have more often. Stronger friendship.
Most importantly, we don't feel pressure all the time. No one may pressure us, but it's me who pressure ourselves to be good at all aspects. Do everything and accomplish everything too much.
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It's not that doing this doesn't have to exchange for anything. It's the same. It's in exchange for becoming a lot of unsuccessful. Not outstanding, not superman.
This is a moment of life. Some of our lives may not be ready to exchange, but sometimes we may want to trade and don't want to be superman anymore.
For me, who has passed the hot young age, the best thing of forty years old is to allow myself to ' not do ' or ' unsuccessful ' or ' not good ' in some things to spend time with other things that matter. Less, such as peace in mind, spending time with older parents and laughter of old friends who understand each other.
At a younger age, I like the number 10 and I want to push myself through 11 or more. But at this age, I like the number 7 which if it's a test score, it's good and when all subjects are fine. 7 and we go to focus on some subjects in some semester. 10 once at a time. This is enough. This is a satisfying life.
I review this more and more often what we are giving power and time we trade it for.
And is it worth us to tradeTranslated
age is just a number young at heart 在 Warner Music Malaysia Youtube 的精選貼文
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Jessie Chung is an international recording artist and actress based in Australia, currently under the management of Future Entertainment & Music Group. True to her multitalented status, she is also a doctor of medicine in oncology, naturopathic doctor (US), certified nutritional consultant (US), homeopathic doctor, certified iridologist, biotech researcher, accomplished entrepreneur, author, martial arts coach, and philanthropist from Malaysia. Besides holding a doctor of medicine degree (M.D.) in Clinical Chinese and Western Integrative Medicine—Oncology from Guangzhou University of TCM, China, she also possesses a MBA from The University of South Australia and a BSc. in Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine from Oriental Medical Institute, Hawaii, USA. In recent years, she was the only naturopathic oncologist selected as one of the Hummingbird Cancer Centre leading members to head their natural therapy department.
Her passion for music was evident at a young age as she racked up numerous singing competition awards. In junior high school, Jessie was the only youth representative in the entire district selected to sing at the National Day Celebration. She then proceeded to perform on many TV programmes in subsequent years. Her high school years in Canada was highlighted by her participation in an international talent contest held by TVB, and she successfully entered into the finals at the ripe age of sixteen. Besides singing, Jessie also has a gift for musical instruments, passing grade 8 organ at a young age with distinction, under the examination of Japanese auditors.
After her studies, she devoted herself into the entertainment industry and charity; so far, she has released eight albums and starred in three feature films. In 2013, she took on lead actress in the Chinese film Faces and Malaysian film Unchanging Love. She also appeared in the 2014 film Kungfu Taboo.
She is known for her ebullient and enigmatic concert performances in countries all around the world, including the United States, Canada, China, Taiwan, and Malaysia. With experience in dozens of concerts in five different languages, Jessie yielded huge responses from fans around the world during her 2015 Love Unity Concert, leaving barely any space in the arena. Building on her success from the previous year, she proceeded to perform in the Jessie Chung Exquisite Chinese Orchestra Concert in 2016, selling out all ten performances. Besides touring and performing in concerts, she has also starred in several stage plays, tackling lead roles in Malaysia, Singapore and Canada. Her recent stage production Moonlight was also well received by the visual arts community, and the organizer has brought Moonlight to numerous locations around the country.
By now, she has released six Chinese albums and two English albums. Her single Love in You was selected as the theme song for the Korean TV series My Secret Garden in Taiwan, whereas her album of the same name topped Malaysia’s aiFM Top Hits Chart, staying at number 1 for many consecutive weeks. In China, her album Loving You charted among the top 10. Her recent album Tearless Sky rose to 4th place on the I Radio Top Hits Chart and 6th place on the Pop Radio Top Ten Music Chart just within two weeks of initial release in Taiwan. The album was well received by the public and has received appraisal from music journalists. She has appeared on numerous TV shows in Taiwan, and her album was strongly recommended by the TV hosts of the programmes, one of them being Kevin Tsai (Cai Kang Yong), in his legendary TV show Kangsi Coming. Exhibiting a strong presence on TV shows, Jessie has recently been invited to host TV shows in both China and Australia.
Although she spends a great deal of time releasing albums and performing on stage, Jessie also enjoys a retreat from the hectic world once in a while to recharge and ponder upon her life. During these quiet times squeezed out of her schedule, she authored Stay Away from Cancer, Stay Away from Diseases, and the Jessie Diary series, informing the world with her medical experiences while also giving them a peek into her soul. She has authored more than ten literary and medical works to date, most of them in English and Chinese, with translations in Malay.
As an accomplished martial arts practitioner, Jessie has successfully achieved the 5th Duan of Chinese Wushu Duanwei; she is also a certified Wushu coach, referee, and instructor. She has won a total of 12 gold medals and 5 silver medals in various international Wushu competitions.
Jessie has been honoured with countless awards received from various ministers of Malaysia for her achievements, particularly two awards from the prime ministers of Malaysia.