🙌 The 8 Stages of Change
𝐒𝐭𝐚𝐠𝐞 𝟒 - 𝐃𝐞𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐞𝐝𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬: 𝐈 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐞
This is the tricky one. Hardly anyone of us escapes childhood without any limiting beliefs about ourselves.
Beliefs like: “I’m not lovable.” “I don’t deserve love.” will absolutely block the change you want to happen. Because this translates to “I don’t deserve what I want because there’s something fundamentally wrong with me.”
When I was small, my father went through tough period with alcohol. My child’s mind couldn’t understand why he was never happy with me. There must be a reason for it, and it concluded that there was something wrong with me.
Therefore throughout my early adulthood, I struggled with unworthiness and the shame of being fundamentally flawed. Naturally, I unconsciously punished myself the way my father punished me, through bad relationships, smoking, alcohol, sex, irresponsible spending, self-criticism... I’m sharing this is not to blame him. I love my father. But I needed to do a lot of deep inner work to heal our relationship and heal my inner child.
Once I was healed, I was able to release those beliefs. Then, I started allowing myself to receive beautiful things in life (instead of punishments). And I could work on creating a beautiful marriage, friendships, passion business, realizing my childhood dream... instead of sabotaging it.
You see. The sense of deservedness is a consequence of doing inner healing work. I’ve met many people who are resistant to healing their inner child. They just want to get what they want. I always needed to remind them that healing is essential. Otherwise, it’s like a chain on your ankles. You just can’t move forward.
#healing #innersoul
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