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《熱情是做你「喜歡」的事不是你「非做不可」的事》
當你為了某個目標全速衝刺,卻還是闖關失敗時,會不會懷疑是因為自己還不夠努力、還不夠想要,所以才達不到成果?
「想要」是人們對目標的熱情來源,使人充滿幹勁,能讓你展現最大的能力,克服困難和阻礙,但是鼓吹「發掘自己的熱情」和「追隨熱情而行」的人卻沒告訴你,它也可能使你精疲力盡,導致身體和心理疾病。
根據研究,熱情的來源可分為「和諧性熱情」(harmonious passion)和「強迫性熱情」(obsessive passion),前者是指因為「喜歡」從事某件事情而主動去做,後者則是認為自己「必須」從事某項活動,從中證明自己的價值而著手行動。如果你是以強迫性熱情驅動行為,就很可能因為過於執著,無法停止思考相關事物,甚至到了廢寢忘食的地步,而產生過大的壓力,引發身體疼痛或心理憂鬱。
《管理金律你不是不懂,而是用錯了》作者傑克‧布禮登(Jake Breeden)指出,熱情的確是成功的重要成分之一,不過你得先把磨損人心的「強迫性熱情」拒於門外。他提出以下3種練習,幫助你找到更健康強韌的和諧性熱情:
1.找出心中的執著:
要找到和諧性熱情的第一步,就是先抓出整天糾纏你的執著。試著問問自己,「你需要證明什麼事?」「你想證明給誰看?」「為什麼想這麼做?」
當你不停地自我對話,就會發現原本的熱情可能不是建構在喜好和快樂之上,而是要向大眾證明你所說的、所想的一切都是正確的。這種過度的熱情會使你想要加倍投入戰鬥,積極為自己的想法辯護,而無視於反對的證據。然而,這種短期衝刺只會讓你心力交瘁,無助於目標達成。
2.借重他人之力:
多數擁有和諧性熱情的人,會投入多元的領域,並從中汲取能量挹注自己的熱情。反之,強迫性熱情則會迫使你朝單一目標直奔而去。
如果擔心自己無法辨別熱情的來源,你可以請友人協助留意,詢問對方是否覺得你太過專注於眼前的任務?你的熱情是不是在工作和生活中產生反效果,而不知道何時應該暫緩腳步?透過和朋友的簡短交談,可以提醒自己避免過度熱情,成為不計一切代價的偏執狂。
3.關懷他人:
心理治療師會建議罹患輕微憂鬱症的病人,到庇護所擔任志工,幫助他人走出憂鬱,獲得正面能量。面對熱情時也是一樣,太過心急挖掘內心的熱情,可能會讓你偏向執著。因此,不妨先環顧世界,轉而照顧他人的需求,這能幫助你擴大自己的視野,從中辨認出真正會讓你打從心裡愉快的事。
巧人吃人、憨人吃天吃地
我有個雙胞胎哥哥,他早我八分鐘被產婆拉出來,排行老三,我老四。但四十五年來,我沒叫過他一聲「三哥」,我最常叫他─「笨蛋」。
這個世界還沒掃完
小學六年同班,每次打掃,同學隨意揮幾下就跑到操場打棒球,只剩下低著頭仍與每一片落葉奮戰的三哥,和左右為難的我:「你這個笨蛋,都沒有人要掃,你為什麼不去一起打球?」
「就,就……還沒掃完啊!你也可以去打球啊!」
三哥不知道當初我有多恨他,因為他的蠢,我的棒球天分被埋沒了一輩子。
三哥小時候常被玩伴嘲笑「歪嘴」,我聽到後總怒不可遏,馬上和對方打架,每次打輸後,我總是鼻血夾著淚水:「你這個笨蛋,長那麼胖,有什麼用,也不幫我……」
國三那年,三哥體重六十八公斤,我三十八公斤,兩人走在路上,像勞來與哈台,沒想到我們未來人生道路的分歧,會比我們身材的差異還大。
不良品?
高中聯考我考了六百多分,他的分數還不到我的一半,從此父親帶我們四兄弟外出時,總這麼介紹:「老大考上南一中,老二念建中,老四念中一中,老三是不良品,小時候燒壞了,你看他嘴歪歪的。」
父親經商失敗後,想東山再起,用三哥的名字成立公司,我當進口部經理,他看倉庫。
等到公司跳票後,三哥成了有前科的票據犯—他真是笨蛋!不像我一見苗頭不對,就跑到補習班去了。
二十四歲時,三哥得了鼻咽癌第三期,體重從八十八公斤掉到五十五公斤。有天晚上他叫我到房裡:「這是我用剩下的錢為媽剛買的保單,如果…如果那個……以後麻煩你……」
「你這個笨蛋!」我把保單接下:「誰說你會那個!」
子時出生的三哥命重六兩 ,比醜時才羞於見世的我重一兩,他福大命大,真的命不該絕。
以其不爭故天下莫與之爭
一年後,剛好補習班缺人,介紹體重已回到七十公斤的三哥到補習班工作。
初任副導師,負責點名、泡茶、招生等瑣事,但怪事出現了。
以禿鷹般兇狠聞名的補習班總裁,竟在短時間內一路將三哥擢升至工科主任、二技部主任到副總裁,服務第二年的年終獎金竟是一間四十五坪的大樓公寓。
多年之後,補習班已成長為全國最大的補習班,忍不住問志得意滿的總裁:「我哥學歷差,胖子一個,總裁為什麼在幾百個員工中,特別照顧他?」
「沒看過一個員工像他一樣每天好好掃地、清廁所,又沒人逼他做,他像個笨蛋,每天做的比別人多,我觀察了他一年,覺得全世界如果只有一個人不會背叛我,那應該就是你哥了!你說,我不重用他,要重用誰?」
三哥當工科主任時,補習班來了一位年輕貌美的新導師,每一位未婚的男職員都自信滿滿,展開攻勢,想不到後來跌破大家眼鏡,她後來成了我三嫂。大家都納悶:「一位正妹為何會選擇一個有癌症病史的胖子?」
今年春節忍不住問已是兩個孩子媽的三嫂。
「真的是被騙了,」三嫂有點不好意思:「別的男孩子都約我看電影,但你三哥這個笨蛋,竟邀我去看你外公外婆,不僅不好玩,而且還要拖地洗碗,後來想想,嫁一個老實的人,應該比較保險,就這樣被騙囉!」
補品格的補習班
十年前,彰化某明星國中附近的一家補習班要脫手,詢問三哥有無意願要接,幾乎每個人的意見都是「萬萬不可!只有笨蛋才會在這裡燒錢。」因為該國中的在職老師,流行自己在校外開班,從不放學生出來,因此附近的補習班是開十家倒十家。
但三哥卻另類思考:「這些家教班以考進彰中、彰女資優班為目標,後段的學生在裡面是鴨子聽雷,我只要收一些成績差,沒被照顧到的學生,讓他們在這個階段不要走錯路,不僅是替他們父母解決問題,而且補習班還可能有生存的空間。」三哥補習班的口碑,漸漸傳了出來,家長和老師遇到管教不了的學生時甚至會說:「把他送到泰X補習班去,如果連蔡主任都教不好,大概也沒救了。」
沒聽過補習也有補「品格」的,但三哥的市場區隔真的奏效了,現在他已是四家補習班的老闆,月入近七位數,有閒錢就扶貧濟弱。
巧人吃人憨人吃天吃地
媽常說三哥是「憨人有憨福」,因為「巧人吃人,愈吃愈窮;憨人吃天吃地,天地供養無窮」。這個世界的憨人還真不少。
就像一個以前在精誠高中教過的學生分享的經歷:「那陣子我在銀行的業績最差,因為我笨到不敢賣黑心商品,但等到雷曼兄弟連動債導致金融海嘯,只有我的客戶沒受傷,反而是那些以前嘗到甜頭的同事大都被迫離職,我卻成為少數升主管的人之一。」就像二○一二年一月,《商周》報導一位信義房屋的菜鳥業務員,在房屋簽約後,還笨笨地對客戶說:「對不起,報告顯示這間房子的氯含量太高,所以我要解約,不能把房子賣給你。」
被嚇傻的客戶,從此只找這個笨到把白花花銀子往外推的業務員買房子,這個業務員,後來也成了信義房屋的明星業務員。
就像觀眾在電影《那些年,我們一起追的女孩》聽到「我就是笨蛋啦!大笨蛋才能追妳這麼久!」而感動得一把鼻涕一把淚時,真正感動的是自己生命伊始,那個還學不會算計而寧願當笨蛋的初心。
就像我寫了這麼多之後,若你還不願當個笨蛋,我只好說∼「你這個笨蛋!」
(文章來源:經理人月刊 2014/04/16)
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《光明之心旺渡猴年》
To A Fortuitous Year of The Monkey (English version below)
很多很多的人,都對自己的命運,或來年的運程抱著一種「先睹為快」的心理。吾,玳瑚師父認為,這是可以理解的。問題是在於,妳你知道了妳你的命運,或來年的運程後,妳你可曉得,如何趨吉避凶、扭轉乾坤、反敗為勝嗎?又或者增旺自己的運勢,使之好上加好呢?還是「先睹為快」後,淒淒慘慘,慘慘淒淒呢?若然是這樣的話,妳你就得歸類迷信者了哦!
生肖屬猴、虎、豬、蛇者,請向妳你自己的師父(若有的話),請示要如何安奉當年太歲星君,以保流年身心、身體健康、事業順心、家庭合樂、道心堅固、智慧增長、投資安穩、大事化小、小事化無等等。一般人都不會及較少,在家中安奉當年太歲星君。因此,可到有供奉六十位太歲星君的廟宇拜太歲及點光明燈。禮拜太歲星君時,除了獻上供品、蠟燭紙金以外,千萬要記得虔心稱呼,值年的太歲星君啊!歲次丙申太歲星君叫管仲,在拜太歲時,妳你就虔心稱呼祂為「丙申年管仲太歲星君」,這樣妳你才真真正正,拜到那一位值年的太歲星君。
接下來就讓玳瑚師父,為妳你們「紙上談運」吧!生肖屬猴的妳你,在這猴年裡,凡事要加以忍耐、忍讓,退一步才可以海闊天空,且莫食喪家之物、送葬出殯宜避之、夜間場所勿流連、對於年邁的長者或親屬,應多加關懷與關注,她他們的身、心發展,以免真的給玳瑚師父「說中了」,妳你也不必對著她他們唱: 我是不是妳你最疼愛的人,妳你為什麼不說話?哈....! 若妳你正打算「東家不打,打西家」的話,吾勸妳你待明年再說吧!喜歡投資的妳你,則要小心陰溝裡翻船哦!今年應該不圖非份,「萬事如意」才可能在妳你身上應驗。
生肖屬虎的妳你,請勿暴飲暴食哦!不食喪家之物,也勿「自告奮勇」的奔喪,以免累己累人。今年家中乃「多事之秋」,心情忐忑不安、情緒波動,再所難免。但,還是要把家中長者照顧好,或許可免喪神入屋。今年亦是妳你忙碌的一年,轉工、搬家、旅遊,流年中必應驗,要不然就應驗在跌倒哦!請多加注意足下的「工具」,是否是良好的「狀況」。一切宜守不宜攻。
生肖屬豬的妳你,在六親眷屬的關係方面,應多加關注,敢敢做個有愛心的人,自然就能歡度此猴年了。工作、事業與投資,應按部就班地進行,風險自然化小。婚姻及感情生活,祗要不要執著一個「我」字,也就會融洽了。
至於生肖屬蛇的妳你,身邊的親人、愛人、朋友等等,有可能會「突然間不見掉」。真心誠意的對待與珍惜,是唯一的安撫靈藥。再加上「不在乎天長地久,祗在乎曾經擁有」這句「名言」,那就更能夠釋懷了。
其實犯太歲,並不祗是人而已。妳你的宅地的坐山及向首,妳你的公司,妳你的辦工桌,妳你家中的書桌、床位,每個隔間,都可能是在太歲的位置上,因此也就犯了太歲。無論是老、中、少或幼(嬰孩),犯之意外連連,生病破財是小事,不慎連命也陪了,對一般人而言,就非小事了。不妨禮請一位妳你信得過的師父,為妳你及家人,規劃妳你居家的風水,擁抱妳你生命中美好的每一天,根本無需提心吊膽、戰戰兢兢地過日子。若妳你從來都沒找過任何師父勘察妳你居家的風水,那就在今年吧!給妳你及家人,生命中最大的禮物,而且是最愛的禮物,來個「水濂洞中勝樂大,花果山上年年好」。猴塞磊(廣東話),哈....!快樂得不得了。
吾,玳瑚師父,在此溫馨提醒哦!在立春來臨前,就好去拜太歲了哦!可別等或拖到清明,或農曆七月才去拜哦!因為這兩個節日,是讓人們上山掃墓祭祖,及拜俗稱的「好兄弟」的哦!若立春妳你所謂的錯過了,可請妳你信得過的師父,依妳你的生辰四柱,在農曆初一至十五日間,擇吉日良辰去拜太歲,那是很棒的拜太歲法之一。祝:大家「猴塞磊」哈....!
相信大家對「近水樓臺先得月」這句話,應該不會太陌生吧!如果妳你還是有些陌生的話,那「投其所好」,應該有聽聞過了吧!如果還是陌生的話,那看來妳你真的是....。丙申年管仲太歲星君,乃是位熱愛行善、佈施、教育、為善不落人後的神明。因此,妳你若要祂特別「注意」、「守護」、「關照」妳你的話,今年妳你就要比往年,更積極、更勤勞地行種種善,打個比方說;放生戒殺、助印、印施善書、開口勸善、捐錢建寺廟、撥款振災、關注及協助社會不幸的一群,等等。
天天做,天天增。增什麼?增福增慧、增資糧。當中也含蓋了改善命運的利益,天天不計較時間、不計較金錢、不計較體力、不計較工作量的多寡,持之以恆地做下去,很快的就會產生一種力量,無與倫比的力量,可改命可改運。反之,存有計較的心,那妳你所做的,就不能、也無法產生光明。沒有光明之心的「善行」,就不可能「投其所好」,妳你的心和太歲星君的心,始終扣不上,今年妳你諸多的願,就變成了天馬行空。什麼意思?泡湯了!
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There are countless number of people who cannot wait to take a "sneak preview" into their future. Master Dai Hu thinks that this mentality is not without reasons. The problem lies in this: after you have had a glimpse of what your destiny hold, or what would be your fortunes in this coming year, would you know how to usher in the good luck and evade the bad ones? Would you know how to turn a disastrous situation around and emerge as the eventual winner? Or would you be able to ride on the waves of good fortune for an even better outcome? Would it be the case that after you had known what lies ahead, that you fall into depression and self-pity? If this is true for you, then I would say you belong to the category of superstitious people!
For those of you born under the Chinese zodiac sign of the Monkey, Tiger, Pig and Snake, please seek advice from your Master, if you do have one, on how to seek blessings from the Grand Duke of Jupiter of the year to ensure well-being in your physical and emotional health, career, family and investments, faith in your spiritual cultivation, growth in wisdom, and that the magnitude of all disasters be minimized or reduced to none. Most people do not or rarely worships the Grand Duke of Jupiter at home. So you can visit temples that enshrine the 60 Dukes of Jupiter to pay your respect and make a light offering. When you are paying respect to the Duke of Jupiter, with the offerings, candles and joss papers, please remember to address Him with all your sincerity and faith. In the coming Lunar year of the Fire Monkey, the Grand Duke of Jupiter is addressed as "Guan Zhong". You should formally address Him as the "Grand Duke of Jupiter of the Fire Monkey Year, Guan Zhong". In this way, you can be sure that your prayer goes to the correct Grand Duke of Jupiter.
Now please allow Master Dai Hu to talk about your fortunes, on paper at least! If you are born under the Chinese zodiac sign of the Monkey, please exercise more tolerance in the coming year of the Monkey. Taking a step back will often lead to clear skies. Please do not consume any food from anyone with recently-deceased family members, and refrain from attending funerals and funeral processions. Stay away from places of leisure which operate in the night time.
For the elderly at home, please watch out and show concern for their health and mental well-being as Master Dai Hu does not want to be spot on with his words. I am sure you would not want to be singing, "Am I not the one you loved most? Why are you not talking to me?" Ha!
If you have any thought of changing employer, I would advise you to hold off the plan for another year. For those of you who love to invest, please exercise caution so as not to get caught out by unexpected situations! Do not go after wild ambitions this year so that you can have a smooth and fulfilling year ahead.
For those born under the Chinese zodiac sign of the Tiger, refrain from overeating! Do not consume food from anyone with recently-deceased family members, and avoid any misguided bravery in attending funerals. This will bring harm to yourself and others around you. Unavoidably, this year is going to be a season of troubled times, often with plenty of unease and emotional upheavals. However, please take extra care of the elderly at home to ward off any visit by the Angel of Death. This is a very hectic year for you with plenty of activities in your career moves, change of residences, as well as travels. If these things do not happen, the year's fortune will take on another appearance: you will risk suffering from falls! So please inspect your footwear to ensure they are in good condition! Every plan this year should be set to defensive mode, instead of invasive.
For those born under the Chinese zodiac sign of the Pig, please treat your relationships with your family and kin with extra care, and be bold to shower more love towards them, so that the Year of the Monkey will be a happy journey for you. As for your career and investment, do not deviate from your plans so as to minimize your risks. In your marriage and relationships, let go of the notion of "self", and all will be nice and harmonious.
As for those of you born under the Chinese zodiac sign of the Snake, your family relations, your lover and friends, etc, may "suddenly disappear" from your life. The only way to seek comfort from this is to treat them sincerely and cherish the affinities with them. Remember this famous saying, "It may not last forever, but at least you had the moments. " and you will come to a closure with it.
In actual fact, it is not only human beings that come into conflict with the Grand Duke of the Jupiter. Your residence, specifically its sitting and facing directions, your office premises, your work desk, your study desk at home, your bed, and every individual room can be in conflict with the Grand Duke of Jupiter. No matter your age, even if you are a baby, you will encounter accidents, illness, and loss of wealth if you are in conflict with the Grand Duke of Jupiter. But these are small matters. In more serious cases, your life may be in danger.
There is no harm to engage a Feng Shui Master whom you can trust to conduct a Feng Shui audit at your home, for the sake of your family and yourself. Embrace every beautiful day in your life. There is no need to live each day in trepidation and fear. If you have not engaged any Feng Shui master for your home before, make it this year! Let this be your perfect gift to yourself and your family, a gift of great significance and love, and create a haven of bliss and years of prosperity! Ha! How joyous that will be!
Master Dai Hu would like to sound out a gentle reminder: please pay your respect to the Grand Duke of Jupiter before Li Chun, the beginning of Spring. Do not wait until the Qing Ming Festival or the Lunar Seventh Month before you fulfill this important task. The Qing Ming Festival and the Lunar Seventh Month are meant for paying respects to our ancestors and the wandering spirits, commonly known as the "good brothers"! If you had missed the Li Chun date, you may request a Master you can trust to select an auspicious date and time, based on your birth chart, to pay your respect to the Grand Duke of Jupiter any time between the First Day and the Fifteenth Day of the First Lunar Month. This is an excellent way to pay your respect to the Grand Duke of Jupiter. I wish everybody an awesome Year of the Monkey!
The Grand Duke of Jupiter, Guan Zhong, for the Year of the Fire Monkey, is a God who is passionate about performing virtuous deeds, generous giving, education and always the first in line when it comes to kind deeds. Therefore, if you would like Him to take notice of you, to protect and take care of you, you should therefore be more enthusiastic and diligent than the years before to perform virtuous deeds. For examples, refrain from killing lives, liberate lives, sponsor the printing and distribution of virtuous books, speak to encourage virtuous behaviour, donate to build temples and towards disaster relief funds, show care and give assistance for the less fortunate, etc.
Consistent action on a daily basis yields consistent gains. What do you gain? Your merits, fortunes, wisdom and resources increase. In the midst of this lies the enormous benefit of altering your destiny for the better. Do not be calculative in your time, money, bodily effort, and volume of work. Press on day by day, consistently, and soon, you will witness the emergence of a powerful force that is unprecedented, one that can turn your life and fortune around! On the other hand, if you live with a calculative mindset, all that you have done will not invoke the radiant Light, without which your supposedly virtuous deeds can never be aligned with the Grand Duke of Jupiter. Ultimately, there is still a distance between your heart and His, and your many wishes and hopes for this year are just a figment of your imagination. What do I mean by that? I mean you can kiss your dreams goodbye!
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