【一切的失敗和不足，都是最美好的安排】
All Failures & Lacks Are The Best Things to Happen to Us
三個月前，收到來自台灣客人的這封電郵時，開心和心酸交織著在心裡。
開心，因為這是一年前通過Zoom視訊的客人。他居然在我們看八字的一週年，特地寫了封感謝函給我，真有心！
心酸，因為他寫在電郵裡的低落心情，我完完全全明白。
他的經歷，是我的曾經。我當初也是很難，很久才能走出來。
有一回，我為一位芳華正茂的女子批八字時，她很用心的寫下我說的話。
論寫筆記的完整，她是我客人當中的佼佼者。
寫到一半，我注意到她的右手開始微微顫抖。我以為是空調的風太大了，冷到她，便問她要不要披巾。
她說，是她的焦慮症發作。
「我沒在兇你，也沒對你嚴厲，你為何突然焦慮？」
「我.....打從今年疫情打亂了我的計畫，我就一直很焦慮。我覺得我很沒用，同學們都前進了，只有我現在什麼都不是，亂糟糟的。我就一直很緊張，萬一我一直都是這樣，怎麼辦？」
說著，她眼眶一紅，眼淚像斷了線的珍珠鏈似的灑下來。
我的媽呀！是我的樣子長得很催淚，還是我的聲音聽起來很虐心？怎麼客人，不分男女老少，東南西北，看到我好像都很容易哭？
我抓起一張紙巾遞給她。
「所以，我不是來了嗎？你來找我，就是要問個明路，而你很幸運那麼快就看到我啦！你看你的筆記寫得多工整，多齊全。我很多客人都不如你啊！我今天的工作，就是來給你答案的。我沒有把握，也不會接你這份差事。我接了，就代表還可以補救。你照著我的指示去做，一定柳暗花明又一村。」
又另一回，一位四十多歲的媽媽請我看兒子的八字。
我在批著八字時，這位媽媽點頭認同，然後就聲淚俱下。
我轉頭看著她沈默不語的先生。我說錯了什麼嗎？太太哭成淚人，你怎麼連紙巾也不拿給她啊？
「我是個沒有用的母親，很不稱職的母親。我沒有辦法教好孩子。我很愛他，可是很多時候我都不知道要怎麼做，我就會對他發脾氣，說狠話，過後我又後悔。我忍下來，可是後來還是會一樣！」
我沒打斷她，等她的哭聲逐漸小聲後，我柔柔的說：「我來啦！我坐在你前面了。你已經看到我，就是有辦法了。你知道你自己不行，會去找辦法，就代表你願意去學習做個好媽媽啊！」
我把紙巾遞給她，再說：「不要哭了，要不然，別人看了以為是我不要借你錢，才把你弄得那麼傷心。」
曾幾何時，我們都會以外在所擁有的，來定義自己的人生是否值得自己喜歡。
從原生家庭、樣貌、健康、身型、智力、天賦等，到後來的學歷、友情、事業、財富、婚姻、子女......
哪一樣沒有，而偏偏是我們最想要的，我們就會認定自己失敗的一塌糊塗。
我認為這就是普通教育最大的問題所在。父母老師都是這樣把我們「分門別類」的。值不值得父母疼愛或向親朋戚友炫耀，也離不開那幾點。
久而久之，我們也只會以「成功」來定義自己是否有價值，甚至來衡量自己是否有活下去的勇氣。
我比較喜歡佛法的定義。我們每個人都是一尊佛，六道眾生皆有佛性，只因一時的迷，因此墮落在苦輪不停的輪迴。
可正因為我們有佛性，我們都有無窮無盡的可能。每個人的內在有著很強大的力量，等著我們遇到明師後，去發掘、探索和了解。
而這天生俱來的力量，就是你改命立命的資本。
如果人生順風順水，我們永遠不會想要出離，誤把人間當極樂，所以一定要有苦，我們才會意識到，為什麼我們會在這鬼地方？要怎麼樣才可以離開這鬼地方去到極樂？
反過來，我們都應該感恩自己遇到的挫折，因為從這些苦中，我們才能生出智慧。
沒有一個八字是完美的。一切的失敗和不足，都是最美好的安排，如此你才會有出離心，返本歸源。
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3 months ago, when I received this email from my Taiwan client, there was this feeling of bittersweetness.
I was happy because this was the client I did a Zoom consultation last June. He sent me this email on the one-year anniversary date of our Zoom call, to express his gratitude. How sweet!
On the other hand, I could relate to the emotional turmoil he felt at that point in his life.
His experience was my past. It also took me a very long time to walk out from my gloominess.
Once, I analysed the Bazi of a very young lady. She was meticulously jotting down notes as I spoke.
Her detailed note-taking skills easily took the top place among my clients.
Halfway through, I noticed her right hand was trembling slightly. I thought it was due to the cold draft from the air conditioning, so I asked if she needed a shawl.
She replied that it was her anxiety disorder acting up.
“I was not fierce or strict with you. What caused your sudden anxiety?”
“I…ever since the pandemic disrupted my plans, I have been in this state of anxiety. I kept feeling useless. All my classmates are progressing expect me. I have nothing to show for and my life is in a mess. I am very anxious. What if I continue to be like this? What am I going to do?”
As she spoke, her eyes turned red and tears started rolling down like a broken strand of pearl necklace scattering onto the ground.
Oh dear! I am beginning to wonder if I have a tear-jerker face or a heart-tormenting voice. Why do my clients, regardless of gender and age, North South or East West, seem to cry easily when they see me?
I grabbed a piece of tissue and handed it to her.
“Ain’t I here already? You came to me for a roadmap and you are very lucky to see me so soon. Look at how precise and neat your notes are! Many of my clients aren’t even on par with you. My job today is to give you answers. If I didn’t have the confidence, I would not have taken up your request. Now that I did, that means there is still hope. If you follow my instructions, you will see things looking up very soon.”
On another occasion, a mother in her forties came to me for her son’s Bazi consultation.
As I was analysing, the mother nodded her head in agreement. The next thing I know, she started weeping loudly.
I turned to look at her husband, who had been silent all along. Did I say something wrong? And hello, your wife was crying. Why weren’t you gentleman enough to give her a tissue paper?
“I am a useless mother. I am incompetent. I do not know how to teach my son well. I love my son very much. But many times, I do not know what to do and thus I flare up at him and speak harshly. I always regret afterwards. I tried enduring but it still ends badly!”
I did not interrupt her and waited for her cries to soften, before speaking gently, “I’m here! I’m already sitting in front of you. You are looking at me now and that means help is here. You know that you are incompetent, so you went looking for solutions. That means you are willing to learn how to be a better mother!”
I handed a piece of tissue and said, “Don’t cry anymore, otherwise, other patrons will think that it’s because I refuse to lend you money.”
Since young, we have been using external possessions to define whether our lives are worth liking.
The family we are born into, our looks, health, body shape, intellect, talents, and then we move on to compare our academics, friendships, career, wealth, marriage and children.
If we are lacking in the area we covet most, we grade our lives as a failure.
I think this is the biggest problem in societal education. Our parents and teachers categorized us that way. Whether we as children are worthy of their love and bragging, depends on the few points above too.
Thus over time, we can only use the term “success” to determine whether we are of value, for some people, whether they should live on to take their next breath.
I very much prefer the definition in Buddhism. We are all Buddhas. Each and every sentient being in the six realms has a Buddha nature in them. But they got lost momentarily and fell into the endless wheel of reincarnation.
Yet, because of our Buddha nature, we have an unlimited source of potential. Every one of us has a very powerful strength inside us. It is just waiting for us to meet an accomplished teacher, so that we have the tools to explore and understand it:
And this strength that we are born with is the capital for us to transform and establish our own destiny.
If life is smooth-sailing, we would never want to leave and would mistake this mortal realm for Pureland. Thus, we all need sufferings, to realise that we should break out of this hell of a place. There has to be a better world somewhere. So how we get there?
We should, in fact, be grateful for all the setbacks and failures we have. Because it is from these sufferings, our wisdom arise:
No single Bazi is perfect. Every failure and lack we experience is the best arrangement for us, so that the heart of renunciation will arise in us and we will return to where we came from.
mistake學歷 在 Re: [新聞] 名校生休學拼電玩冠軍- 精華區LoL - 批踢踢實業坊 的推薦與評價
※ 引述《scorpioman (阿桑看到都說帥)》之銘言：
: 【專案組╱台北報導】本月初有5萬年輕人擠爆世貿中心展覽館，只為目睹一場線上遊戲
: 決賽，獲勝隊伍是7名平均21歲的頂尖玩家，明將代表台港澳出賽競逐總獎金500萬美元世
: 界大賽。23歲的隊長Mistake毅然放棄國立大學學歷，選擇當職業選手，他不後悔放棄名
: 校學歷，除因代表台灣出賽的榮譽，月薪4萬已比大學畢業賺得多。
: 成軍5個月的台北暗殺星（Taipei Assassins，TPA），為英雄聯盟（LoL）遊戲台灣職業
: 電競隊，明將出征在美國洛杉磯舉辦的「英雄聯盟S2世界冠軍賽」，與歐美、韓國等12支
: 隊伍爭取電競史上最高獎金─總獎金500萬美元（約1.47億元台幣）、冠軍100萬美元獎金
: （約2950萬元台幣）。英雄聯盟為時下最熱門線上遊戲，台灣擁有250萬名玩家，全球有
: 3250萬玩家。
: TPA奪下台港澳區代表權，明赴美爭奪冠軍。Garena提供
: 家人一度不諒解
: TPA成軍5個多月，成員底薪4萬加比賽獎金，平均約領4萬3千元月薪，除隊長Mistake陳彙
: 中、Stanley王榮燦及唯一女生Colalin林穎璇等6人，還有香港選手Toyz劉偉健，多數高
: 中畢業即進入職業生涯，隊長Mistake從國立大學休學「打電動」，家人一度不諒解。
: 英雄角色艾希。
: 薪水比大學生好
: Mistake說，他是長子，考上國立大學後本也想畢業當公務員，但發現所學不合志趣，直
: 到獲邀進入職業隊，他決定休學完成夢想，但家人希望他完成大學學業，於是他轉學至私
: 立技術學院，但以職業選手訓練為主。
: 親戚雖不諒解他休學去打電動，Mistake說，現在薪水比大學畢業生好很多，且他是代表
: 台灣出賽，他說，電競選手的路沒想像中狹窄，2、3年後退居幕後，可當教練或遊戲研發
: 人員。對外界偏見，他說：「不了解我的職業，也不須多解釋。」
: Mistake說，當玩家時，研究作戰策略都只是好玩，但當選手要打出成績，「壓力很大。
: 」他因過度練習導致手腕肌腱發炎、眼睛紅腫痠痛，還是得忍痛完成訓練。
: 女神選手粉絲多
: 唯一女選手Colalin被玩家封「女神」，但幾個月前她只是23K的業務助理，當職業選手後
: ，素顏都有粉絲要簽名，臉書粉絲團逾3萬5千人。她說，不知選手生涯能維持多久，但「
: 我一個女生辦到了，覺得很驕傲。」
: 台北暗殺星小檔案
: 成軍日期：2012/4/7
: 選手：台灣選手Mistake、Stanley、NexAbc、Liballz、Bebe及Colalin，香港選手Toyz
: 選手月薪：底薪4萬元，加比賽獎金
: 征戰成績：
: ．英雄聯盟S2世界冠軍賽台港澳區代表權
: ．StarsWar 7大賽冠軍
: ．Go4LoL Pro Asia大賽冠軍
: ．GPL Ceremony大賽冠軍
: 資料來源：《蘋果》採訪整理
: https://ppt.cc/lUuD
剛剛輸在編輯文章 剛剛在去掉有圖的內文所以lag了幾秒.... (汗
不過原新聞影片內容還有接到下則新聞 順便幫忙補充
新聞來源：蘋果日報
反覆練習 鍵盤快手 每秒下6次指令
https://www.appledaily.com.tw/appledaily/article/headline/20120929/34541899
靠打電動賺錢，不是誰都有本事辦得到，除頂尖玩家，一般人難如登天。《蘋果》記者深
入集訓地挑戰職業電競選手，結果當然慘敗收場；職業選手的訓練生活也絕不像玩家輕鬆
「打電動」，為研究遊戲獲勝關鍵，Colalin說，「一樣的地圖、動作，每天要重複幾十
次，說不累是騙人的。」
集中訓練工時長
自認實力不差的玩家王彥荏單挑隊長Mistake，不到10分鐘就慘敗，他說，職業選手精神
很集中，點擊速度也超快，「很難比得上。」《蘋果》利用小程式測試選手操控鍵盤、滑
鼠的「手速」，Mistake每秒下達6.1次指令，記者只有1.8次，足見選手的反應並非一般
人所及。
為備戰世界大賽，選手集中訓練，每天上午9時起床到晚上12時就寢，扣除吃飯、休息都
在訓練，工時比上班族還要長。Colalin說，以前玩遊戲是樂趣，輸也沒什麼大不了，但
現在玩遊戲是工作，是為了獲勝，「有不能輸的壓力。」
變工作後壓力大
Toyz也說，訓練生活扣掉吃飯、睡覺，「生活就是英雄聯盟」，興趣能當工作令人振奮，
但既是工作就必須認真看待，「沒辦法用有趣的角度來看。」
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