【國立臺灣大學109學年度畢業典禮 致詞代表 資訊工程學系韓哈斯】
Student Address, National Taiwan University Commencement 2021
International student Seth Austin Harding from Department of Computer Science and Information Engineering
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校長、教授、以及在螢幕前的各位同學,大家好。非常感謝臺大給我這個機會。我是韓哈斯,來自美國華盛頓特區。我會以自身的真實經驗出發,來跟大家分享臺大帶給我的收穫。
我當初為什麼選擇來台灣求學呢?我小時候非常喜歡看武打片,然後我十歲的時候去看了一部電影叫做「功夫熊貓」。這部電影成為了我最喜歡的電影,主角「阿波」的故事跟我的故事很像。我看完了之後就決定要開始學功夫,所以去了「美國武術學院」。那個時候我每天都聽旁邊的人講中文,到了高中我就決定開始學中文。當時我遇到了一位貴人,她是從台北到美國來教書的中文老師,她教的課是我當時最喜歡的課,我每天去她的教室跟好朋友練習。到了高中畢業時,我是全高中中文最好的非母語人士。同時,我第二喜歡的課程是電腦科學,那時候我是程式能力數一數二的學生。後來在成功錄取夢寐以求的學校:臺灣大學之後,我感到雀躍不已,因為我既可以繼續學習中文,也可以持續在世界頂尖的學府中,往電腦科學的方向精進自我。
不過老實說,當我回顧大一的時期,我也曾迷失自我。雖然我修了很多很多的中文課,但是我那時只聽得懂大概一半的課程內容。跟大家對美國人的印象不同,我其實很害羞,也很害怕舉手提問,我甚至不太敢參與社交,所以當時朋友也很少。我開始想家,也變得有一點憂鬱。那時籃球是我唯一的紓壓方式。
但更不幸的是,我在打籃球時弄傷了我的前十字韌帶,做了兩次手術,需要一年半才能恢復。許多的負面情緒壓得我喘不過氣。我被困在人生的低谷,不知如何是好。我覺得我的中文不夠好,我也被診斷出失眠跟ADHD,另外,美國高中的數學太簡單了,來這邊不夠用。種種壓力讓我足不出戶,找不到自己的人生方向。後來,我向臺大心輔中心以及我的心理醫師尋求協助,然後我也開始跟系上有更多互動。有一位教授叫徐宏民跟我說,"Never give up",雖然那時候我覺得這句話太過於簡化了我的問題,不過,在我仔細思考了一個禮拜之後,我下定決心,發誓不讓自己被這些事擊敗。我決定要克盡全力,認真做好每件事。這是我人生的轉捩點,我開始變得異常自律。當時廖世偉教授和洪士灝系主任帶我進入它們的研究室鑽研學術。這重燃了我對資訊工程的熱忱,提醒了我當初會愛上這個領域的原因。我開始研究人工智慧以及區塊鏈,也開始跟其他系上同學交朋友,一起成立臺大人工智慧應用社NTUAI。NTUAI現在是校內頗具規模的技術研究社團,致力於推廣人工智慧給任何對該領域有熱忱的學生。歡迎加入NTUAI,可以掃描我們的QR CODE。
最近,由於疫情的緣故,我已經一年半沒回美國了。但是沒關係,因為我已經找到了我第二個家。我很愛臺大,以及台灣的人事物。雖然我經歷了人生的低潮,但這裡的一切總是給我滿滿的祝福與協助。最後,我想送給大家「功夫熊貓」裡的一句台詞: "You just need to believe"。只要用樂觀的態度去面對困難,就有能力改變自己,甚至改變身旁所愛的人。就像阿波的父親說的,"心誠則靈,只要你相信,點石就能成金。根本沒有什麼秘笈。只有你。"謝謝大家。
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President, professors, and classmates, I'm very honored to be here. Thank you to NTU for giving me this opportunity. My name's Seth Austin Harding, and I'm from the D.C. metropolitan area. I'm going to tell a real story that's personal but that's relatable and what I see as the real me.
What motivated and guided me to take my undergraduate studies in Taiwan? When I was very young, I really loved watching kung fu movies, and when I was 10 years old, I went to the theater to watch "Kung Fu Panda". This became my favorite movie as I felt like the story of the main character Po was one to which I could very much relate. After watching this movie, I decided that I wanted to start learning kung fu, so I went to the United States Wushu Academy. At the time, I began hearing Mandarin on a daily basis, so when I was in high school, I decided to begin formally studying Chinese. It ended up being my Chinese teacher from Taipei who was my favorite teacher who taught my favorite class, so I decided I'd hang out in the Chinese classroom every day and practice lots. By the time graduation came around, I had attained the highest proficiency in Chinese among any non-native speaker in my school. My second favorite class was computer science, and I ended up attaining among the best coding skills in my school. After getting accepted to the school of my dreams -- National Taiwan University -- I felt honored, humbled, and excited; I could now spend time at among the world's finest universities studying Chinese and at the same time advancing my knowledge of computer science.
But when I look back at my freshman year, to be honest with you, I didn't know what I was doing. Despite having taken very many Chinese classes, when I went to the NTU lectures, I understood only about half of what the teachers were saying. Contrary to most people's impressions of an American, I was actually too shy to raise my hand, to ask questions, or to even meet with teachers after class, so I had very few friends at the time. I started to become homesick and depressed. At that time, I found that basketball was the only way I knew of relieving my stress. However, while playing basketball, I had torn my ACL and it would take two surgeries and a year and a half in time to fully recover. At this point, I felt caught between a rock and a hard place. In fact, this was the lowest point of my life, and I didn't know what to do. I felt like my Chinese wasn't good enough, I had been diagnosed with insomnia and ADHD, and I felt like the math taught in America was too simple to allow for me to keep up with my classmates. I was under immense pressure, and at this time, I lost any sense of purpose or direction. Later on, I went to seek help from NTU counseling, from my psychiatrist, and from my department. I reached out to Professor Winston Hsu from CSIE, and he told me this: "Never give up"; it was such an oversimplified way to approach such a complex series of problems, I had thought. However, I pondered these words intensely for one week, and by the end of that week, I had made a firm decision. This would NOT be another example of me giving up. I decided to go all out, to work diligently and passionately on all tasks at hand. This was the turning point of my life; I started to discipline myself to a very high degree. At this time, I met my then-to-become advisors Professor Shih-Wei Liao and Professor Shih-Hao Hung and entered their labs to begin research. Finally, the passion that I had for computer science that I had previously held in high school was kindled again, and I was finally reminded why I loved this field. I began my research life in blockchain and AI, and at the time I entered the lab, I also began creating NTUAI. NTUAI is now a large and highly successful NTU club that is dedicated to the research and public understanding of AI. Welcome one and all to join us; please scan our QR code here.
For a year and a half I haven't returned to America because of covid. But not to worry; I have found my second home, away from home. I love it here in NTU and I cherish all of the things I've had the privilege to experience in Taiwan. I've gone through the most difficult of struggles in my life here, but I've also had the most fortunate and blessed of experiences. To conclude, I'd like to quote a line from "Kung Fu Panda": "You just need to believe". As long as you are willing to adopt an optimistic attitude in facing challenges and hardships, you may become a positive force in changing the lives of those around you as well as your own life. It all depends on how you view it; just like what Po's father says, "there is no secret ingredient. It's just you." Thank you, everyone.
詳見:
https://www.facebook.com/NTUCommencement/posts/2718185771805180
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📔【週五主題】青少年
選書:跟阿德勒學正向教養-青少年篇
作者: 簡‧尼爾森、琳‧洛特
出版社:大好書屋
https://www.books.com.tw/products/0010762226
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內容簡介:
百萬家庭跟阿德勒學正向教養力!
「培養成年人」的任務,讓青少年學會管理自己!
家有青春期孩子的父母,你需要一本真正理解你和青少年、
化解對立衝突、學習愛與尊重的教養書!
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如果你總是拯救或控制青少年子女,是否想過當有一天你不在時,孩子會變得如何?教養青少年從來不是一件容易的事!在美國風行數十年的「正向教養」創始人──簡.尼爾森,與幫助過無數親子度過青春期風暴的琳.洛特告訴你,身為父母的最高成就是「無用」──不再被需要,幫助青少年子女學會獨立生存所需的人格特質與生活技能,如此,才能放心讓孩子邁向充滿挑戰的未來。
◎關於青春期孩子成長的探問,與青少年「握手言和」
該如何「賦能」青少年,幫助孩子學會獨立,而不是幫他們做他們能做的事,使孩子「減能」──降低學習能力?簡和琳以大量的生活實例和具體方法,幫助父母從了解青少年成長困境到積極啟發青少年走向獨立,深度探討孩子成長的各種難題,協助親子一同面對和解決:
.如何知道孩子變成了青少年?理想中的青少年跟真實的青少年差距有多大?
.如何開啟與青少年子女的真誠對話?
.如何教導孩子生活的技能?何時該對青少年放手?又該放手到什麼程度?
.如何將錯誤轉變成美好的學習機會?
.如何在教養青少年的同時保持理性?
.如何避免落入對子女過度控制或溺愛的陷阱?
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青少年不是叛逆,而是對自己和世界開始好奇。當你站在青少年子女的角色思考與同理,放下威權責罵,以積極鼓勵取代責備、命令的無效教養,就能發揮溫和堅定的父母力!
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都能幫助你檢視自己,重新學習更有效的教養!
孩子需要被理解,而不是控制!本書運用阿德勒心理輔導法:一套涵蓋溝通、衝突處理與相互尊重的「正向教養法」,為父母和青少年設計各種實用的教養技巧,舉凡:壓力遊戲、畫一個青少年、發展「感受詞彙」工具、打開「第三隻耳朵」傾聽、召開「家庭會議」、從錯誤中復原的步驟、「做交易」激勵青少年、共享「特殊時光」的點子……包含90個教養守則、65個實用練習,以及許許多多親子對話情境、衝突實況、情緒難題;甚至可以聽到來自無數青少年的真實心聲。邀請父母以「注重長期效果」的教養法,跟孩子建立親密、信賴、相互尊重的關係。
◎親子傳達愛與尊重訊息、給予積極鼓勵的時刻!
實行正向教養法的目的,是為了幫助青少年日後有能力處理人生各種危機及挑戰,並帶著快樂的心、獨立的意志,迎向下一段生命旅程。全書深度而完整涵蓋青少年各個面向的探討,提供父母明確的指引和教養技巧,幫助你進入青少年的內心世界,給予溫和堅定的支持。而當父母明白,青春期只是一段孩子嘗試搞清楚自己想法的時期,就更能平心靜氣地享受這幾年陪伴孩子的時光,以此創造溫暖平和的家庭關係。
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前几天出门前其实收到一个邀请。详读了讯息之后发现原来是场亲子相处课程的邀请。突然觉得主办当局真的好勇敢耶!他们竟然邀请我这只虎妈参加亲子课程!!!还是他们其实不知道我是只暴躁虎妈?🤣🤣🤣
老实说,对于现今社会,这样的课程其实是非常的被需要的。尤其是天天忙碌于工作的父母们,常常因为忙碌而忽略了与孩子的相处时间,可嘴里却又常常喊着口号:现在的忙碌是为了小孩的将来!仔细想想,真的非得是这样吗?那忙碌之后,您可有时间来好好了解您的小孩,可有拨出时间来与小孩沟通和教导您的小孩呢?
主办当局因为了解到现今这样的一种风气,所以希望把有效育儿这一回事变得轻松有趣然后再推广出去让大家受益。
很可惜,由于我是孩子上下学的的柴可夫司机,而且也住的远。所以时间上没办法安排出席课程。但为了感谢主办当局那么有诚意的邀请,所以在这里和大家稍微分享一下详情。
大家其实也可以直接联系主办当局询问详情和参加课程的费用:
面子书请搜:JHM Xpert Resources (@jhmexpert)
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育儿就是这么轻松和有趣
课程长达3个小时:
3个小时老师教什么?
1.有效的正面育儿
2.惩罚 VS 奖励
3.建立孩子的生活和社交技能
4.平衡爱与纪律
5.弥合沟通代沟
6.激发孩子的批判性思维
7.积极语言的用法
8.如何与孩子一起管理情绪
9.如何赋予孩子权力
中文场:
日期:7th September 2019
时间:9:30am – 12:30pm
地点:ARA Eventhall Ampang Putra
费用:请联系主办当局的面子书询问或是点入以下链接报名,
点击报名:https://forms.gle/Y2Eia2Znvd7QHgsB7
MAKING PARENTHOOD FUN & EASY
The seminar last for 3 hours:
What do you learn in 3 hours?
1. Effective Positive Parenting
2. Punishment VS Reward
3. Building Your Child’s Life & Social Skills
4. Balancing Love & Discipline
5. Bridging Communication Gap
6. Inspire Your Child’s Critical Thinking
7. Usage Of Positive Language
8. Managing Emotions With Your Child
9. Empowering Your Child
English Session
Date: 24th August 2019
Time: 9:30am – 12:30pm
Venue: Thotbox Training Room in Petaling Jaya
Registration Fee: Kindly contact the organiser for further information or you may:
Register Here: https://forms.gle/FR3njPcRhYB1MeJT7