最好的自己不在未來,就在現在。
認真回想,以前我好像在每一段關係中都是在扮演某一個角色,不由自主的在為每個對象做調整。不只有在戀愛上,有時候可能跟朋友、工作夥伴都是,尤其是在前輩面前,常常我都會本能反應似的改變自己。聲音要甜一點嗎?笑話要低級一點嗎?從穿衣服就可以看出,我今天是要跟誰吃飯。雖然是微調,但透露出了一件事,我好像不夠喜歡真正的自己,所以才會擔心大家也不會喜歡真正的我。我告訴自己即使累,但如果持續努力,有一天就能變成大家都喜歡的Lara。
久而久之我和世界的相處模式只有「由外到內」,會依照別人對我的反應去斷定我的下一步。大家會覺得我很好相處,我卻越來越不快樂。現在我慢慢開始懂了,原來我把順序弄反了。我該優先處理的是自己內心的感受,其他人買不買單,其實跟你一點關係都沒有。就像找另外一半,如果我跟夢中情人在一起,但我根本無法在他面前做自己,最後還是會走不下去。
我現在33歲,So What? 終於懂,「當下的自己」才是人生時間軸上最重要的!
對了,有人好奇這次「{}」的意思嗎?簡單說是「大括號」,在數學運算式中稱作「空集合」。數學不好的人就想像一個清空的行李箱吧。「空」不是無,而是無限可能。括號還有另外一個更好懂的意思,就是「優先處理」。將過去整理過後的自己,回歸純粹,態度成熟自信!(失戀後重新出發的人應該很有感觸吧!🤣)
Your best self is not in the future, but in the Now.
Looking back, I seem to have been playing a role in almost every relationship I was ever in. I'm not just talking about romantic relationships. Whether it was with friends or colleagues (especially seniors), I would modify myself almost instinctively. Should my voice be sweeter? My jokes dirtier? If you wanted to know who I was eating with that day, all you had to do was look at the clothes I was wearing.
The changes were subtle, but they still reflected a truth: I didn’t feel like the real me was enough so I was worried that other people would also find her lacking. I told myself that if I just kept working at it, I would someday become a version of Lara that everyone accepted.
Eventually I only knew how to get my cues from the external world. I would always base my next step on feedback I got from others. Most people considered me easy to get along with, but I grew more and more unhappy.
I think I had it all wrong. My first priority should have been listening to my inner voice. Whether or not other people agree with it is not in my control nor of my concern. Take looking for a partner. Even if I found the person of my dreams, it would never last if I couldn’t be myself around them.
I am 33 years old. So What? I finally understand that "the present self" is the most important thing on the timeline of life! It’s time to prioritize me!
By the way, is anyone curious about the meaning of "{}" this time? Besides the more commonly known representation of parentheses as prioritization, these curly brackets are called “the empty set”. The empty what? If like me, math is not your strongest suit, think of it as an empty suitcase. "Empty" doesn’t mean nothing, but infinite possibilities! What will you fill your life with this time?
2021全新專輯《來者何人{}》
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<再也沒有你> 陳勢安 Andrew Tan
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#再也沒有你 #NoMoreU #SoWhat30
同時也有1部Youtube影片,追蹤數超過1萬的網紅鍾舒漫 Sherman Chung,也在其Youtube影片中提到,今年12月18日Sherman即將迎來首個個人演唱會《 鍾舒漫 R u Sher? 演唱會 》,而《R U Naughty?》作為演唱會的主題曲,MV講述一行人在夜裡,神色凝重地駕車突襲孤獨佬Byron,務求以歌舞令其反叛基因覺醒,一起PARTY! 有得玩 ,唔通仲要扮乖乖? 鍾舒漫 -《R U...
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take a step back意思 在 Facebook 的最讚貼文
大概是在準備DS的時候發現自己常常會有思緒突然斷掉的現象...
或是一整個腦袋不靈光(?)
不管事之前上了幾個訪談節目宣傳DS時
或是後來解封跟朋友見面聊天時
常常腦袋在聽別人講話
很用力想要進入狀況
可是卻突然停止運作😱
正當我開始覺得完蛋了😱「我發生什麼事」時
謝謝 @1day1music 的Koko在她的Podcast訪談不斷地斷掉後的我後哈哈
點出我斷掉時間點都是被問到有關自己的問題的時候~(這個神觀察!)
說我是不是需要跟自己多多講話了
我才意識到
Wow… 我好久~沒有讓自己腦袋休息了
常常很多時候
我們為了追上自己給自己
在一定的時間內所設定的目標
心無旁騖的一頭栽
因為深怕let ourselves down…
然後就這樣把達成的壓力一口氣扛在自己的肩上
但忘了停下腳步問問自己
my gosh are you okay?
我是個對自己要求很高的人
但也是一個沒有自信把焦點放在自己身上的人
會覺得別人focus在我身上很不自在
但是內在的inner child卻渴望被認可被了解
很矛盾卻總是不斷努力再抓一個自己舒服的節奏
找自己存在的價值與意義
打到這裡我已經不知道我在打什麼了.... 完蛋了是不是又要斷掉了!!!
我覺得啦~反正我就是想很多!是不是想太多腦袋真的會燒壞啊...
等一下maybe我的腦袋會斷掉是一種保護機制吧
它正在努力吶喊著
“Ok Dena enough! STOP thinking this much! Life can be so much more simple if you just take it one step at a time and effing BREATHE! If you can’t do this, I’m just gonna shut you off. It’s called tough love babe. ” 然後它就這樣為了要保護我強制把我腦袋關掉這樣 …
好啦!說到這裡
大家有沒有什麼可以保養腦袋的一些方式呢🥲😬
(謝謝最近朋友跟同事們對常常突然斷掉的我的包容與體諒
其實我每一次斷掉我真的很不好意思😖
因為you all truly deserve my time and attention!
So I just wanna let ya’ll know that when I space out it’s not because of you,
It’s MEEEE hahaha! And I’ll try my best to snap back soon!)
take a step back意思 在 SU YANG , 蘇婭 Facebook 的精選貼文
早晨被一個夢打醒⋯
這個夢很有意思 代表我內心的渴求 狀態⋯有一陣子沒有這樣子有點複雜紛亂又清楚的夢⋯。
才知道今天是1月11日~1/11⋯❤️
在我生命中有兩個日子,刻劃很深的記號⋯11/1 和1/11~。我從來沒有覺得數字有什麼特別,但這兩個數字卻讓我永遠記得,紀念甚至感恩!❤️🌹🥰🥰
那是一段刻骨銘心很難明白的艱困過程,多年前1/11那個日子讓我跨了一個大門,有一點像是生孩子的過程,痛到你幾乎不想生,但是忍過那個最痛的階段,就是一個新生命的開始⋯,真的是如此啊⋯若沒有勇敢的跨過去往前走,我就看不到現在一片綠意盎然,充滿生氣的我的人生風景!所有的細節美麗和精彩啊⋯!
我曾經有一個經驗,很可愛很真實!轉換了我面對傷害的態度~!
特別傷你的人是你愛的人,特別難面對⋯。
有一次我跟主禱告,和著眼淚和氣憤⋯,在禱告中,我看見一個影像,就像電影一樣~那個傷我的人對著我扔石頭,但那石頭沒打著我,於是我撿起那塊石頭很生氣的回丟過去,扔過去時,覺得很沒力道手很輕⋯一看,我扔過去的,居然是一個麵包!我突然就噗哧的笑了⋯怎麼那麼沒力呀!連傷人都傷不到!🥰🥰這時上帝對我說,如果別人用黑暗用憎恨來對你,難道你回他的是一樣的嗎?你的心中有的是什麼呢?如果你有了我,你會知道要回應什麼⋯⋯
真的,我即刻從生氣到笑自己,這麼容易被激怒,因為我心中充滿的⋯真的不是這些,我可以給予的美麗和美好太多了⋯。
在黑暗中,唯有你自己成為光,才可以找出一條路⋯不要再等候其他的⋯。
你自己就可以成為光,你自己就是那個美麗!那個力量!那個智慧!那個勇敢!⋯只是你沒有找到那個鑰匙⋯甚至是你不想找~
最近有一個很深的體悟,不管你有多愛一個人,或者有人多愛你,不管你有多少人陪在你旁邊,你最終都是得孤獨的面對自己~靈魂的那一個你~如果你自己不能好好欣賞愛你自己,明白你自己是美麗的,你就沒有辦法自在和滿足~。

對於那些傷害與破碎,還有那些不明白為何傷害你的人~放了吧!
一句傷害的話都不用說,因為你更多的能量是看自己愛自己成為⋯美麗的那一個你~!使人看見你就開心就喜樂!好像吃到麵包那樣滿足!🥰🥰❤️🌹

在2021/1/11的今天~~這曾經令我痛哭欲絕的這一天,我向我的主獻上感恩~
謝謝祢總是不離不棄,在我最艱困的時候,用祢最溫柔有力的胸膛擁抱我!用祢最溫柔最有智慧的言語餵飽我,用祢最溫柔明亮的光帶領我,用祢最深最廣的愛情包裹我⋯。 使我可以在靈魂的海洋裡 大山裡面自由奔放⋯I love you,My Lord....🌷

(馬太福音 5:9) 使人和睦的人有福了!因為他們必稱為 神的兒子。
(Matthew 5:9) Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.
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Photographer:Su 蘇婭
🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹
I Waked up by a dream in the morning...
This dream is very interesting. It represents the desire ,my situation in my heart....It hasn't been a somewhat complicated and clear dream like this for a while.
I just know that today is January 11 day~1/11...❤️
There are two days in my life, with deep marks...11/1 and 1/11~. I have never felt that the numbers are special, but these two numbers make me always remember, commemorate and even be grateful! ❤️🌹
It was a difficult process that was unforgettable and hard to understand. ..The day 1/11 many years ago ...made me step through a door. It was a little bit like the process of having a child. The pain was so painful that you almost didn’t want to give birth to ... But to endure the most painful stage is the beginning of a new life... , it’s true! If I didn’t step forward bravely, I would not see the greenery and fullness now. ...My Life...Landscape! All the details are beautiful and wonderful...!
I once had an experience, very cute and real! Changed my attitude in the face of injury~!
I once had an experience, very cute and real! Changed my attitude in the face of injury~!
The person who hurt you in particular is the one you love.
Once I prayed to the Lord, with tears and anger... During the prayer, I saw an image, just like a movie. The person who hurt me threw a stone at me, but the stone did not hit me, so I picked it up. I picked up the stone and threw it back angrily. When I threw it over, I felt very weak and light in my hand... At first glance, what I threw over was actually a piece of bread! Suddenly I laughed...how could I be so weak! Can't even hurt people! At this time, God said to me, if someone treat you in hatred in darkness way ,would it be the same for you to treat him? What is in your heart? If you had me, you would know what to respond...
Really, I instantly went from being angry to laughing at myself, I am so easily irritated, because my heart is filled with...it really is not this, I can give too much beautiful things and kindness...
In the dark, you can only find a way out by becoming the light yourself...don't wait for others...
You can become light yourself, and you yourself are the beauty! That power! That wisdom! That brave! ...But you didn't find the key...even you don't want to find it~
Recently, I have a deep realization that no matter how much you love someone or how many people love you, no matter how many people being with you, you will eventually have to face yourself alone~ the soul of you~ If you can’t appreciate and love yourself well, and understand that you are beautiful, you can’t be comfortable and satisfied~.
For those who hurt and broken, and those who don’t understand why they hurt you~ let it go!
There is no need to say a hurtful sentence, because you should take more energy to see yourself loving yourself and becoming...the beautiful you~! Make people happy when they see you! As satisfied as if they had bread! ❤️🌹
Today on January 11, 2021~~This is the day that once made me cry, I give my thanks to my Lord~
Thank you for always staying true to me. In my most difficult time, hug me with your most tender and powerful chest! Feed me with your tenderest and wisest words, lead me with your softest and brightest light, and wrap me with your deepest and broadest love... So that I can be free in the ocean of the soul...I love you, My Lord...🌷
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take a step back意思 在 鍾舒漫 Sherman Chung Youtube 的精選貼文
今年12月18日Sherman即將迎來首個個人演唱會《 鍾舒漫 R u Sher? 演唱會 》,而《R U Naughty?》作為演唱會的主題曲,MV講述一行人在夜裡,神色凝重地駕車突襲孤獨佬Byron,務求以歌舞令其反叛基因覺醒,一起PARTY!
有得玩 ,唔通仲要扮乖乖?
鍾舒漫 -《R U Naughty?》立即收聽: https://ShermanChung.lnk.to/RUNaughty
作曲: 王雙駿
作詞: 陳詠謙 (Rap 詞: Byron Cheung)
編曲: 王雙駿
監製: 王雙駿
喂 阿靚你夠鐘化妝
阿懶快快跳落床
阿譖氣廢話不要講
陪我去玩 一起發狂
Get up, get up, get up, get down
This is how it’s going down
You and me, that’s all we need
One, two, three, follow my lead
Hey you, what’chu doin’ over there?
C’mon, don’t be shy
I promise you’ll have fun :)
喂 阿怕你怕乜嘢醜
阿無態我灌你電油
嗱阿痛阿痛 最多拖你走
陪我去玩 不講理由
頭上有七彩燈光瀉下來
又有轟天的音響撲面來
Babababa who’s my party boy
求刺激 不壓抑 借一借開
曳啲曳啲 (明明有意思)
你曳邊個知 (忘形太得意)
我的舞姿 懷疑你想試
為何咬一咬唇 暗裡拍拍子
著起戰衣 (預備要脫衣)
偷偷的閃一次 (今晚今晚閃一次)
微調著四肢 原來你可以
為何有心卻無意
快快 快快 快快 跳進舞池
Sing Sing, yeah that’s me
A B C D E F G
Nursery? Don’t play with me
Party so hard, you’ll need surgery
One step, to the left (okay)
Two step, to the right (okay)
Break it down, don’t bring it down
Put your whole self in and shake it all around
喂 阿喪你碰到對手
阿少女這裡有電流
嗱阿醉阿醉 有得飲醉酒
陪我去玩 不返轉頭
頭上有一粒星星跌下來
又有多好的青春撲面來
Lalalala where’s my love and joy
舊記憶 新角色 喝一喝采
曳啲曳啲 (明明有意思)
你曳邊個知 (忘形太得意)
我的舞姿 懷疑你想試
為何咬一咬唇 暗裡拍拍子
著起戰衣 (預備要脫衣)
偷偷的閃一次 (今晚今晚閃一次)
微調著四肢 原來你可以
為何有心卻無意
快快 快快 快快 跳進舞池
Alright alright alright,
I don’t think these people really understand what it means to…
WOAH!!!
OKAY!!
Hit em once,
One more time
THREE TIMES
Oh Yeah, what about four times?
Ehhh… I dunno... You know what Sher…
Lemme talk to em’
B to the Y to the R O N
Rockin’ this beat with the dancing queen
Break-in’ it down for the Hong Kong scene
Ain’t nothing like this you’ve ever seen
Comin’ back in yeah we’re here to win
Let the groove kick in, just keep moving
Put your hands, put your hands in the air
Like you just don’t care, and keep it there
Okay Sherman, I think they get the idea
Lets break it down and take it back home
What do you say?
曳啲曳啲 (明明有意思)
你曳邊個知 (忘形太得意)
我的舞姿 懷疑你想試
為何咬一咬唇 暗裡拍拍子
著起戰衣 (預備要脫衣)
偷偷的閃一次 (今晚今晚閃一次)
微調著四肢 原來你可以
為何有心卻無意
快快 快快 快快 太理智
快 快快 快快 快快 我介意
快 快快 快快 快快 跳進舞池
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