【一切的失敗和不足,都是最美好的安排】
All Failures & Lacks Are The Best Things to Happen to Us
三個月前,收到來自台灣客人的這封電郵時,開心和心酸交織著在心裡。
開心,因為這是一年前通過Zoom視訊的客人。他居然在我們看八字的一週年,特地寫了封感謝函給我,真有心!
心酸,因為他寫在電郵裡的低落心情,我完完全全明白。
他的經歷,是我的曾經。我當初也是很難,很久才能走出來。
有一回,我為一位芳華正茂的女子批八字時,她很用心的寫下我說的話。
論寫筆記的完整,她是我客人當中的佼佼者。
寫到一半,我注意到她的右手開始微微顫抖。我以為是空調的風太大了,冷到她,便問她要不要披巾。
她說,是她的焦慮症發作。
「我沒在兇你,也沒對你嚴厲,你為何突然焦慮?」
「我.....打從今年疫情打亂了我的計畫,我就一直很焦慮。我覺得我很沒用,同學們都前進了,只有我現在什麼都不是,亂糟糟的。我就一直很緊張,萬一我一直都是這樣,怎麼辦?」
說著,她眼眶一紅,眼淚像斷了線的珍珠鏈似的灑下來。
我的媽呀!是我的樣子長得很催淚,還是我的聲音聽起來很虐心?怎麼客人,不分男女老少,東南西北,看到我好像都很容易哭?
我抓起一張紙巾遞給她。
「所以,我不是來了嗎?你來找我,就是要問個明路,而你很幸運那麼快就看到我啦!你看你的筆記寫得多工整,多齊全。我很多客人都不如你啊!我今天的工作,就是來給你答案的。我沒有把握,也不會接你這份差事。我接了,就代表還可以補救。你照著我的指示去做,一定柳暗花明又一村。」
又另一回,一位四十多歲的媽媽請我看兒子的八字。
我在批著八字時,這位媽媽點頭認同,然後就聲淚俱下。
我轉頭看著她沈默不語的先生。我說錯了什麼嗎?太太哭成淚人,你怎麼連紙巾也不拿給她啊?
「我是個沒有用的母親,很不稱職的母親。我沒有辦法教好孩子。我很愛他,可是很多時候我都不知道要怎麼做,我就會對他發脾氣,說狠話,過後我又後悔。我忍下來,可是後來還是會一樣!」
我沒打斷她,等她的哭聲逐漸小聲後,我柔柔的說:「我來啦!我坐在你前面了。你已經看到我,就是有辦法了。你知道你自己不行,會去找辦法,就代表你願意去學習做個好媽媽啊!」
我把紙巾遞給她,再說:「不要哭了,要不然,別人看了以為是我不要借你錢,才把你弄得那麼傷心。」
曾幾何時,我們都會以外在所擁有的,來定義自己的人生是否值得自己喜歡。
從原生家庭、樣貌、健康、身型、智力、天賦等,到後來的學歷、友情、事業、財富、婚姻、子女......
哪一樣沒有,而偏偏是我們最想要的,我們就會認定自己失敗的一塌糊塗。
我認為這就是普通教育最大的問題所在。父母老師都是這樣把我們「分門別類」的。值不值得父母疼愛或向親朋戚友炫耀,也離不開那幾點。
久而久之,我們也只會以「成功」來定義自己是否有價值,甚至來衡量自己是否有活下去的勇氣。
我比較喜歡佛法的定義。我們每個人都是一尊佛,六道眾生皆有佛性,只因一時的迷,因此墮落在苦輪不停的輪迴。
可正因為我們有佛性,我們都有無窮無盡的可能。每個人的內在有著很強大的力量,等著我們遇到明師後,去發掘、探索和了解。
而這天生俱來的力量,就是你改命立命的資本。
如果人生順風順水,我們永遠不會想要出離,誤把人間當極樂,所以一定要有苦,我們才會意識到,為什麼我們會在這鬼地方?要怎麼樣才可以離開這鬼地方去到極樂?
反過來,我們都應該感恩自己遇到的挫折,因為從這些苦中,我們才能生出智慧。
沒有一個八字是完美的。一切的失敗和不足,都是最美好的安排,如此你才會有出離心,返本歸源。
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3 months ago, when I received this email from my Taiwan client, there was this feeling of bittersweetness.
I was happy because this was the client I did a Zoom consultation last June. He sent me this email on the one-year anniversary date of our Zoom call, to express his gratitude. How sweet!
On the other hand, I could relate to the emotional turmoil he felt at that point in his life.
His experience was my past. It also took me a very long time to walk out from my gloominess.
Once, I analysed the Bazi of a very young lady. She was meticulously jotting down notes as I spoke.
Her detailed note-taking skills easily took the top place among my clients.
Halfway through, I noticed her right hand was trembling slightly. I thought it was due to the cold draft from the air conditioning, so I asked if she needed a shawl.
She replied that it was her anxiety disorder acting up.
“I was not fierce or strict with you. What caused your sudden anxiety?”
“I…ever since the pandemic disrupted my plans, I have been in this state of anxiety. I kept feeling useless. All my classmates are progressing expect me. I have nothing to show for and my life is in a mess. I am very anxious. What if I continue to be like this? What am I going to do?”
As she spoke, her eyes turned red and tears started rolling down like a broken strand of pearl necklace scattering onto the ground.
Oh dear! I am beginning to wonder if I have a tear-jerker face or a heart-tormenting voice. Why do my clients, regardless of gender and age, North South or East West, seem to cry easily when they see me?
I grabbed a piece of tissue and handed it to her.
“Ain’t I here already? You came to me for a roadmap and you are very lucky to see me so soon. Look at how precise and neat your notes are! Many of my clients aren’t even on par with you. My job today is to give you answers. If I didn’t have the confidence, I would not have taken up your request. Now that I did, that means there is still hope. If you follow my instructions, you will see things looking up very soon.”
On another occasion, a mother in her forties came to me for her son’s Bazi consultation.
As I was analysing, the mother nodded her head in agreement. The next thing I know, she started weeping loudly.
I turned to look at her husband, who had been silent all along. Did I say something wrong? And hello, your wife was crying. Why weren’t you gentleman enough to give her a tissue paper?
“I am a useless mother. I am incompetent. I do not know how to teach my son well. I love my son very much. But many times, I do not know what to do and thus I flare up at him and speak harshly. I always regret afterwards. I tried enduring but it still ends badly!”
I did not interrupt her and waited for her cries to soften, before speaking gently, “I’m here! I’m already sitting in front of you. You are looking at me now and that means help is here. You know that you are incompetent, so you went looking for solutions. That means you are willing to learn how to be a better mother!”
I handed a piece of tissue and said, “Don’t cry anymore, otherwise, other patrons will think that it’s because I refuse to lend you money.”
Since young, we have been using external possessions to define whether our lives are worth liking.
The family we are born into, our looks, health, body shape, intellect, talents, and then we move on to compare our academics, friendships, career, wealth, marriage and children.
If we are lacking in the area we covet most, we grade our lives as a failure.
I think this is the biggest problem in societal education. Our parents and teachers categorized us that way. Whether we as children are worthy of their love and bragging, depends on the few points above too.
Thus over time, we can only use the term “success” to determine whether we are of value, for some people, whether they should live on to take their next breath.
I very much prefer the definition in Buddhism. We are all Buddhas. Each and every sentient being in the six realms has a Buddha nature in them. But they got lost momentarily and fell into the endless wheel of reincarnation.
Yet, because of our Buddha nature, we have an unlimited source of potential. Every one of us has a very powerful strength inside us. It is just waiting for us to meet an accomplished teacher, so that we have the tools to explore and understand it:
And this strength that we are born with is the capital for us to transform and establish our own destiny.
If life is smooth-sailing, we would never want to leave and would mistake this mortal realm for Pureland. Thus, we all need sufferings, to realise that we should break out of this hell of a place. There has to be a better world somewhere. So how we get there?
We should, in fact, be grateful for all the setbacks and failures we have. Because it is from these sufferings, our wisdom arise:
No single Bazi is perfect. Every failure and lack we experience is the best arrangement for us, so that the heart of renunciation will arise in us and we will return to where we came from.
同時也有135部Youtube影片,追蹤數超過69萬的網紅Feng E,也在其Youtube影片中提到,Update: My sincerely apologize for Michael for misspelling His last name “Ning” accidentally... Yet again appreciate for all his wonderful music! pl...
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[Looking for flavors of China 尋找中國味]
I love spend time with people.
To share, chat, exchange life.
We teach each other a lot.
I am so happy today.
I finally found and ate that Pancake rolled with crisp fritter.(天津煎餅果子)
This is Thai basil chili pork flavor.
Good for lactose intolerance cuz not milk in the crust.
I thought it yearn day and night.
Although I can't come back to China.
At least Taiwan's epidemic has decreased.
We are temporarily safe.
And fortunately...there is a shopkeeper that brings China traditional food in Taiwan.
"Do you have chili sauce?" I asked
"I have chili powder and chili sauce, both come from Chaotian pepper"she said
"both are ok."I said
“wow, not spicy at all”i tasted.
“I think you are suitable to live in Chongqing 重慶. Cuz other customers think it's spicy.”she said
“Yes, That is my heaven. But actually, I am not very good at eating spicy taste, just mild.”i said.
She's so kind of me, friendly, passion.
I am very grateful for her cooked.
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Update:
My sincerely apologize for Michael for misspelling His last name “Ning” accidentally...
Yet again appreciate for all his wonderful music!
please follow him on
FB: https://www.facebook.com/michael.ning.3
IG: https://instagram.com/michaellogic_ning?utm_medium=copy_link
I asked my friend Michael Ning 甯子達, who maybe the best bassist in Asia and famous producer In Taiwan, to teach me how to mix. Then he did this for me!
Tuning: normal
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✨本集來賓:Audrey Liu 😇
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- 把工作當成真命天子,27歲就當上 P&G Marketing Director | Falling in love with your career. becoming marketing director at age 27
- What is marketing? Marketing 不只是廣告銷售,更是影響人們生活的一個方式 | Marketing changes peoples' lives
- 其實從小孩、童心的角度檢視自己,是認識自己很好的方法 | Learn about yourself from your childhood
- 內向者的力量:兼具內向者的想法,和開啟外向模式的力量 | The power of introverts
- 不快樂不是你的錯,但只有你有責任讓自己快樂 | Unhappiness is not your fault, but your responsibility
📚 Books Mentioned:
- The Existentialist Cafe 存在主義咖啡館
- The Happiness Project 過得還不錯的一年:我的快樂生活提案
- Quiet 安靜,就是力量:內向者如何發揮積極的力量
我們每集都會辦抽書活動,記得 follow 我們 🤩
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(00:01:22) 三個字形容自己 | Describe yourself in 3 words
(00:03:07) 認為 Marketing 是自己的真愛 | Marketing is her true love
(00:06:22) 上海的 Marketing 調研故事 | Marketing research story in Shanghai
(00:09:38) Marketing更深的意義 | The essence of marketing
(00:12:29) 大學做四個實習 多方嘗試找尋目標 | 4 internships in college, trying various things
(00:14:11) 其實你喜歡做什麼小時候就知道 | Learning from your childhood
(00:17:08) 如何27歲就成為行銷總監 | Becoming director at 27
(00:18:58) 人事管理的哲學 | People management philosophy
(00:21:36) 主管就像是當一面鏡子 | Manager is like a mirror
(00:23:51) 當上主管的第一課 | First lesson of being a manager
(00:25:17) 情境領導模式 因材施教 | Situational leadership
(00:27:29) 帶領團隊的核心理念 | Core values of leadership
(00:31:12) 理想規劃的一週 | Ideal week
(00:34:19) 內向的領導者更有力量 | Introverted leadership
(00:39:01) 時間管理:GTD信奉者 | Time management, GTD
(00:40:21) 總監下班之後去打工 | Working side jobs for fun
(00:42:14) 制定自己的快樂計畫 | Managing your own happiness
(00:43:59) 管理並檢視自己的快樂 | Reflect on your own happiness
(00:45:32) 享受當下和達成目標的平衡 | Balance between being present and achieving your goals
(00:49:07) 對快樂的定 | Definition of happiness
(00:51:06) 完整的快樂架構 | Structure of happiness
(00:55:22) 存在主義的真諦 | Existentialism
(00:58:52) 即使是宿命論之下 還是要努力 | Determinism
(01:01:48) 只有你有責任讓自己快樂 | You are responsible for your happiness
(01:04:25) 因為不快樂而決定離開P&G | Leaving P&G
(01:08:09) 跳進田裡吃泥巴 | Eating mud in the farm
(01:10:56) 決定到Teach for Taiwan工作 | moving to Teach for Taiwan
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Don't forget to COMMENT , LIKE👍🏻 & SUBSCRIBE✔️
Thanks for watching :)
I can't get away from 동헌, our charisma leader!💙
(Teach me how to dance plz!😂)
It's Valentine's Day today, wanna show my love to VRVR.
As a VERRER , I did my best to complete this piece.
Hope they can feel the support from this way.
剛好在情人節送上我的愛(乾
我真的太喜歡李東憲跟貝利們了~~~~~
這首舞好看得不行完全我的菜,
盡力完成了也希望貝利們能從中感受到支持💙
如果喜歡的話,記得留言/按讚/訂閱頻道唷~感謝觀看!
Original song / dance : https://youtu.be/CBhqNk19VQM
Film : 阿槍 / Edit : 小音Rhythm
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▹Z.z : https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAhGHVq1RpZlHYC__axnVeQ
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🔶 All My Dance Cover Video 🔶 https://reurl.cc/D98Rk5
▹VERIVERY (베리베리) - 'Thunder' : https://youtu.be/6qnp3PXARy0
▹온앤오프 (ONF) - 'Beautiful Beautiful' : https://youtu.be/kBahAOljDZw
▹현아 (HyunA) - 'I'm Not Cool' : https://youtu.be/nNQvaV2F0S8
▹PENTAGON (펜타곤) - 'Basquiat(바스키아)' : https://youtu.be/xJsFjNh-Ims
▹RAIN(비) - '나로 바꾸자 Switch to me(duet with JYP)' : https://youtu.be/65VAbbaFAtw
#VERIVERY #베리베리 #Get_Away #GetAway
#SERIES_O #ROUND1HALL #VRVR #VERRER #베러 #Jellyfish
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